Shit mothers day anyone?

Chocolates and a card sounds lovely.

Have been searching for a thread for solidarity. I’m also disappointed with yesterday. A box of chocolates that DH added to the weekly food shop. No homemade card but I did get a shop bought one that DH wrote. My kids are both primary so don’t expect too much from them but every Father’s Day I take them to the shops to buy something for him and make sure there are hand made cards for him. I’m not going to bother this year which is just miserable for everyone but I just can’t stand that feeling today that I don’t matter.

Hey I don’t like Mother’s Day at all since I lost my mum 5 years ago & have had a few years with little effort from DH & teens. My group of friends are all the same, I had it out with DH a few years ago so he knows how I feel / I’d just like a bit of effort. This year i suggested a lunch on Sunday for the family plus DH mum & dad. DH booked it, got kids organised & sorted his mums card & gift. I went to the cemetery in the morning, then we had the lunch which was really nice & then at teatime my group of pals got together for food and drinks at my friends house. It ended up being a nice day. I’d just say don’t expect too much from the family and just plan some nice things yourself and you will probably find friends who are in the same boat. I also stayed off Facebook etc & read a book instead as better for my mental health x

Mine was also shit,no effort or thought,I ended up spring cleaning the whole house!.I did lock myself in the bathroom,opened a bottle of Prosecco (I bought myself)an had a nice relaxing bath,happy shit Mother’s Day!

Over 39 weeks pregnant with my first and spent my mothers day in the labour ward with a headache and high blood pressure which then settled so I got sent back home.

I was hoping she might make an apperance but nope still waiting.

I was awoken at 12:01am by my 15 month old non-sleeper, then about every 20 mins thereafter, often via a smack to my infected jaw (awaiting emergency dentist appointment). He is cutting his fangs to be fair to him.

Toddler decides he's done sleeping around 8am. Get up and DH says 'well the clocks changed so really he let you lie in until 9', at which point I reminded him the clocks had gone forward so it was infact 7am not 9am by old clock. After breakfast DH gave said toddler a bag of presents and a card to give to me, which the toddler promptly hid in the washing machine and had a tantrum if we tried to remove them 😅.

He's also obsessed with old McDonald at the moment, so he runs around yelling 'baaaa' and 'moooo' and 'quack' and God help you if you don't realise quick enough he's demanding you sing it.

My toddler projectile vomited all over me. Stripped off the dirty clothes, cuddled baby who immediately fell asleep so I spent the afternoon on the sofa in bra and pants holding my sweaty son!

Mine was a shit day but not really because it was Mother's Day. Got breakfast in bed from DC1 and cards from both DC (primary age, so they did them at school) which was lovely. We've been having building work done on our house though so the whole rest of the day was shifting furniture, cleaning etc which culminated in DH and I having a massive argument about basically nothing because we were both knackered.

Yeah I’m kinda wondering that too. My eldest who doesn’t live at home didn’t even text let alone send a card. No effort from the others bar the 11 year old with the school made card. Would it actually kill them to pick up flowers and something I’d like. I have a very obvious hobby that is so easy to buy for and not expensive or a particular jewellery brand that I like to collect..but no!
When I was a child (really young) I was able to buy my mum something. She probably still has every little trinket I bought with my pocket money. Maybe it’s a generational thing.
There are no issues here with the kids, we have good relationships so I don’t understand the lack of care or consideration. Kids are just self absorbed these days.

All of you that had a shit day should sort your own day next year, or better still arrange a day off from
mum duties soon ( if possible , I know its not always that easy!). Go for lunch/ afternoon tea or just a wander round somewhere pretty or book a spa day if funds allow. It’s not nice being taken for granted. Sometimes we need to treat ourselves!

Mine was pretty shit. 2 adults DCs - one at uni and one back home having graduated last year. That in itself has caused endless problems. So he was out on Saturday - said he'd be back when the pub shut, finally rolled in at 6.30am, so I'd been awake most of the night worrying (we don't live in the best area). Got a text message from uni DD. No card.
DS didn't appear until mid afternoon. I'd taken myself off to the park while DH saw his mum - didn't trust myself not to say something I might have regretted to DS if I'd been on my own. Did eventually get a card at about 4pm. No apology for the previous night though. This is the fifth time he's been out past 1am this week. DH and I both have to get up for work at 6.30. Thankfully he starts a 'proper' job next week so hoping the social life calms down.
DH gave me breakfast in bed, and cooked dinner - no issues there. We're both just wondering where we went wrong with the kids.

There was another thread about how silly it is to expect some sort of way of marking mothers day. This really to me shows how under appreciated women are and how we are supposed to be fine with that because it’s childish to expect any consideration. The sheer amount of labour women do for their families should be recognised throughout the year imo but if you can’t do that you can at least make a bloody effort of mothers day.

I’m so sorry to everyone who felt let down x

So sorry to all those who have lost someone dear.
It wasn't awful, DD5 had done a card/gift from the pta stall at school and my parents had helped her arrange a small gift. But it's been a tough week for listening after coming back from her weekend with STBXH. He has very few, if any, rules and generally sticks to treat meals. It means she finds the transition back to set bed times/reading for school/home cooked dinners etc difficult so can fight against it. Predictably he didn't even acknowledge the day. I've tried to be the bigger person and kept sending token gifts to him/his family for occasions so DD doesn't get upset at being empty handed but it's tough!

Ds took his own life 6 months ago but actually yesterday was ok. Card and gin from their sibling who lives 4 hours away.
I am not personally bothered about the day and never have been, as I'd rather be appreciated every day. Some of you need to have higher standards and stop being martyrs.

I don't want presents, I’d rather see my adult kids, but yesterday I was sent the smallest packet of crap chocolate and card by my oldest, nothing from the middle one, and a card from the youngest who is still at home. DH bought me a spring planted pot for the garden to make me feel like I’d got an actual present.
I have always got my parents something, and I’ve always visited them on or before the day. I just don’t know where I went wrong with mine.

I don't give a monkeys about mothers day it's just another day of commercially screwing people out of money using guilt and obligation much like valentines day.
I was perfectly happy, enjoying my Sunday, until adult DS rang to say his grandmother had messaged him to call him a piece of shit for forgetting mothers day.
He hadn't forgotten it, he'd sent me a card and a lovely gift already.
My mother had assumed he would have forgotten and messaged him accordingly.
Everyone was cross, I can do without nonsense like this.

Thanks, OP. The other thread wasn't making me feel great. It was pretty shit yesterday. DH and I had several meltdowns from the youngest to deal with. So no rest for me as a mum. Nope. Same shit, different day. One hour less sleep.

I was stuck babysitting for the weekend. Nobody acknowledged it was Mother’s Day until my teen remembered and text me late afternoon.

Mine was pretty shit. Kids live away from home so didn’t see either of them and DH was away for the weekend so I was on my own all day. Actually spent the day thinking about all the mistakes I’d made as a mother over the years and trying to establish how shit I am.

Yeah it was shite. First of all the clocks changing really fucks me up so I was wrecked. I got a gift from younger ds that I picked myself the other day and a box of chocs from older ds. No flowers (I love flowers!!) just from Aldi or whatever, didn’t have to be 60 quid from interflora.
It was a long dull day and I couldn’t wait to go to bed. My own mum lives abroad so didn’t get to see her obviously.
My kids don’t make any effort!

Yup not great, been feeling ill all week, lost my mum very recently which hit hard today. Teen DD screaming that she hates me, my crime is telling her to revise for her GCSE....nagged to get anything out of the other. DD refused to join us on a walk then wouldn't eat with us. DH worked all day and just doesn't get how hard it is. Told that I am creating a negative environment, so went to bed pissed off and upset.

My very first Mother’s Day many years ago I got nothing . When my friends and family asked me what I got for my very first Mother’s Day I told them - nothing . Everyone was shocked. I was then accused by my husband of making HIM look like a shit to everyone . Did he really think I was going to lie to everyone ?

Someone I know who walked out on her kids when they were small ( no DV met someone else) is treated as mother of the year on Mother’s Day .

I know there is nothing anyone can say to make it in any way bearable but I just wanted to say I am so, so sorry.