Shit mothers day anyone?

It’s a complicated day for sure. My heart goes out to both of you because there really is nothing worse than losing your child no matter how it happens. Love and hugs to you.

oooooh unfortunately i love this thread.
kids x 2 at university. text from one of them at 10am. nothing from the other one until a vague message at 4pm.
i had lunch by myself in mc donalds and then ate an orange from m and s (important that i didn't shove m and s eclairs in my face)
i lowered my expectations last year so this year i expected nothing and i ended up with 5% more than that. apparently postage costs are so high, say the dc, that i'll get my mothers day card/s when they're home next.

Well, if she wasn't, she probably wouldn't be too happy I gave 10 sacks of her clothes, handbags and shoes to charity and left her with none.

Has your daughter died?

Was in Milan on a city break. On Saturday I spent nearly 12 hours in A n E as I hit my head and my knees off the footpath! The Italian health system is very good. I had a Ct scan of my head, x ray of my knee and ultrasound of my abdomen. All ok thank god. I had to stop warfarin for a day due to the head injury. I have severe osteoporosis so I'm delighted I didn't break my knee. And all the passers by were very good, called an ambulance etc. Was allowed fly back home on Sunday but my knee was quite sore. Now this morning I have panda eyes. Did manage to have a delicious strawberry and banana crepe for breakfast on Sunday and a delicious Indian takeaway when we got back home!

That's so sad Mimsy, I'm sorry. He may not know what day it is, but you do. My son died many years ago but I still display two old Mothers' Day cards.

My husband made no mention of mother's day until after lunch when he asked when did I want my card, only he hadn't written it yet. It turned up about 3pm. My kids are 4 and 2 and he hadn't even bothered to make sure they knew it was mother's day. He then had to spend the whole day working so I looked after the kids on my own.

I think that’s a pretty low bar personally. Home made cards would be my minimum expectation from younger children.

I think the Father’s Day comparison is also relevant. I do a lie in for him, followed by full English. He gets a gift that each child has chosen with thought and hand made cards. We also usually do a special dinner, his choice which I of course organise. I’m not doing any of that this year. Which as I said above is bloody miserable but maybe that’s the way to get the message through.

I had a tooth removed in the morning by a huge Russian torturer. 😩 Then sat and watched FA Cup all day with gauze hanging out my mouth...

My MIL was staying, DH had his hobby in the morning - so I asked him to get pastries on the way home, but he said ‘we’d sort breakfast when he was back’. He didn’t get back until 11 - so I cooked MIL breakfast whilst chasing non verbal autistic DS round the house.

Can’t really do cafes/ restaurants with DS - so sent DH & MIL off for a coastal walk in the sunshine - followed by pub lunch I booked ages ago.

sat with DS in the garden, but he’s going through a difficult patch - so spitting & hair pulling. I’m also 8 months pregnant & feeling woefully uncomfortable, so felt very tearful & alone.

Reading back, makes me sound like a total martyr, I just want someone to care enough about me to make the same effort - life feels very bleak at the moment.

Sorry for all the shitty mother’s days

I got some nice things and cards from my dc and I took nice things and cards and gc to mil and my dm. On the way to visit though a car in front of me ran over a deer and I spent a very stressful hour dealing with that and waiting for the police to come and shoot it as it was so badly injured. I can see the poor thing struggling to stand when I shut my eyes. The dickhead who hit it did nothing to help and fucked off and I hope very much there is karma cos he deserves what comes back to him.

Oooo I’m here for shite Mother’s Day stories.

my husband spiralled into an awful mood Saturday as has gone cold turkey on his anti depressants. Blaming me for everything and then slamming around the house and furniture at 10pm at night while me and kids in bed.

Didnt get out of bed in the morning so I looks after the children got them dressed and took them to church solo (he doesn’t do church) took them out all afternoon to get away from his mood.

8pm he is angry at me for going out all day and ruining Mother’s Day.

no breakfast in bed, no lie in, no flowers

At least the clocks went forward, so it was an hour shorter than usual.

Sorry you had such a rubbish day 🥴

My mum is an abusive drug addict who only speaks to me when she wants money. Left me saddled with 20k of her debt, bailiffs knocking on my door (after she moved in, changed her address to mine, and disappeared off again).

So I had a lovely day of seeing people gushing about their mums and how they're the best mum ever while my inner child cried in the corner.

I don't have kids or any other family members so that's about it.

It does sound like a lot of the mum’s who received gifts and cards are upset because they aren’t quite the right ones.

I’m really sorry to hear of anybody having a rubbish Mother’s Day. You all deserve a great deal of appreciation. Don’t really know what else to say other than I’m sorry and saddened to hear so many stories of such little effort 🥲

I had a lovely bouquet of flowers in a Hatbox delivered to the door - really fabulous. Only problem was it was a miss-delivery and was for a house around the corner and not me, I got a a bunch of flowers from Aldi with the 9:99 price tag still attached.

I've got a combined kidney, chest and sinus infection. Moved to a new flat on Mother's Day and it's been a nightmare with leaks and no hot water. Then the kids also chose yesterday to bring up the whole single parent thing and asked if daddy didn't live with us because he didn't love me anymore! Gooooood times

not even a text, shit day

My go to was white wine - might try Prosecco next time!

Its the lack of effort and a plan for it that stings - particularly when so much gets done in the other direction. I am also going to do vanishingly little for Fathers Day.

I do know that there are more important things in the world but honestly I am just to sad and disappointed as I know I work like a dog for all three of my kids. Eldest DS (24) who is a lovely person got up and made me breakfast and gave me a card before he left for work. Everyone else was sleeping off the night before including DH who then dragged me into his self imposed 'last minute packing for his 5 day golf holiday/ I am running late for the airport' meltdown. He was snapping at everyone but mostly me because I wouldn't go find his gear for him. I am not going on a holiday but will spend this week at work/ running the house as usual. No one had anything planned for Mother's Day so I ended up taxiing H to the airport because it was too late to get an actual taxi, DD (18) to her afternoon activity amidst a storm of temper tantrum because someone changed something nonsensical and the other DS (22) sent me a text when he got up at 3pm!. He then left when I pointed out how rubbish they were and went to stay with his g/f because.... they were celebrating Mother's Day in her house. I then gave myself a slap up meal of a bottle of white wine and a packet of peanuts! The vindictive side of me has been planning the new world order in my house - none of them do a thing so there will be a carefully calibrated chores list devised which will heavily favour DS1! Might re-write the will too (only kidding on that last one). Feels good to get that off my chest as have been quietly seething since seeing the Social Media posts from so many friends and family members as they were celebrated and indulged by their grateful families.

Thanks for starting this and sorry that you are having such a tough time. You are definitely not alone in this. Social media does not help either.

I can’t fault my two adult children, who still live at home because they both bought me cards and presents and gave them to me before they both headed off for work. We had crappy shove in the microwave dinners later because of them working until late.
H however. We usually make each other a full English breakfast on birthdays and Mother’s/Father’s Day but I didn’t even get a slice of toast for my birthday a few weeks back. Then yesterday he brought fried eggs on toast up (nice surprise but not the usual cooked breakfast) and just muttered something about ketchup. No, ‘Thanks for being a great mum’ or anything.
Fine. Be thankful.
I lost my mum and he knows I usually take flowers to her grave. I’m unwell at the moment and not too mobile without help and he buggered off to ‘work’ (he’s self-employed and really didn’t need to rush off), he said he ‘forgot’ to offer to take me there. I was obviously upset and I then got a barrage of his nastiness before he stormed off. So as the kids were both working, I sat on my own all day until they came in.
I just get down when you see all these men on SM praising their wives/partners and how amazing they are and how thankful they are to have them in their lives and yet mine preferred to raise his voice to me and leave me in tears.
I am honestly so thankful for my children for making me feel special and that’s the main thing I suppose.

It was my first Mother’s Day and I have a 2 month old DS. Got given some flowers and chocolate which was nice. However I spent my day sat in DP’s mum’s and I had to do the driving there and back (3 hours driving in total which tires me out). Would have been nice to at least have breakfast in bed or be able to go for a nice walk at some point.

Next year I will be treating myself and my DM to a spa day and DP can look after DS. I really hope he’s not expecting any nice plans for father’s day.