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Nothing for Mother's Day

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Rina1971 · 30/03/2025 18:19

My 18 year old daughter excelled herself today. She stayed out to 4am, got up at 8am shouted Happy Mother's Day and that was it. I feel devastated and hurt. She knew when Mother's Day was, we reminded her and she confirmed to DP she had it sorted. Now she is acting all wounded as though me wanting some acknowledgement is a major inconvenience to her.

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Rina1971 · 31/03/2025 17:46

Zov · 30/03/2025 20:59

No it's not!

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No it has it's roots in mothering Sunday.

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Rina1971 · 31/03/2025 17:44

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 21:01

I’ve raised an indulged child by running round them the they’ve got a hangover. I’m then going to complain that they are selfish and indulged…

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Suppose you are perfect.

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Rina1971 · 31/03/2025 11:54

RedHelenB · 30/03/2025 19:25

Tell her straight, don't be a doormat.

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I am not a doormat she has been told to be the better person and make amends

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Rina1971 · 31/03/2025 11:53

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 21:01

I’ve raised an indulged child by running round them the they’ve got a hangover. I’m then going to complain that they are selfish and indulged…

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No she was brought up.right hence the disappointment..

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Bumblebeestiltskin · 31/03/2025 10:11

Rina1971 · 30/03/2025 19:07

I agree I don't want hallmark or tat. Making a cake or lunch would have been nice. Instead I have been on-call for hangover remedies. It would just be nice to be acknowledged

Why did you martyr yourself by being 'on call'?

intrepidpanda · 30/03/2025 23:47

wearyourpinkglove · 30/03/2025 21:03

Your poor mum. I wonder if she finds your birthday is also a "silly" thing to celebrate maybe that's where all this negativity about Mother's Day is coming from...?

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I find my birthday a silly thing to celebrate

intrepidpanda · 30/03/2025 23:45

mydogfarts · 30/03/2025 19:09

Mothering Sunday has been a thing since long before hallmark existed

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And is nothing to do with cards, presents and pampering

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 30/03/2025 21:49

Oh does it really matter where this tradition came from? Typical hole picking at irrelevant points. Does it matter if you wipe your arse with your left or right hand? Scrunch the paper or fold? Sit or stand up? Have your roll folded over or under in the holder?
The fact of the matter is, it matters to op that it wasn’t acknowledged in a respectful manner.
@Rina1971 I’d be annoyed too. I certainly wouldn’t be sorting out her hangover. I’d be interested to know what you did for her 18th?

MsCactus · 30/03/2025 21:40

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 21:02

Yes it is! It’s not about “ mothers” history was rewritten!

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It's not! People used to go back to their mothering church and spend time with their mothers. They used to cook for them, pick flowers, bake etc - it's been going on since medieval times.

Mother's Day in the UK is not a modern phenomenon - it's been happening for centuries

BlondeMummyto1 · 30/03/2025 21:34

I didn’t get a card or any real acknowledgment of the day except a text mid afternoon.

YouLookinSusBro · 30/03/2025 21:33

ItWasTheRightThing · 30/03/2025 21:15

Just for the record, I would be upset too.

i don’t expect (or get) much but it’s a token of appreciation on ONE DAY OF THE YEAR which shows that your child/ren care, that they love and appreciate you, and everything you do for them.

If some of you commenters on here can’t see that, and think it’s okay to get your mother nothing, not even a card, then I think you need to grow and stop being so damned selfish. Perhaps try imagining how your mother might feel…

Not all mothers care ...mine isn't bothered but I send her a card anyway.

Equally I'm not fussed either, and my kids know this as I've always said not to bother - I know they love and appreciate me every day. They always wish me a happy mother's day though, sometimes I get a small gift sometimes I don't. This year my son surprised me by visiting with flowers and a bottle of wine, but that is unusual!

CharlotteCChapel · 30/03/2025 21:29

I had cards from 2 of my children. It's my birthday soon so I'm not expecting any presents for today.

Ds was supposed to cook me dinner but he looks and feels awful so DH did it instead.

TwoHoots74 · 30/03/2025 21:26

My son said happy Mother’s Day then I need to go out. I told him not to bother getting the dregs of a card if he couldn’t have been bothered before now.

One day for some acknowledgment isn’t too much to ask is it? I took myself to the gym and M&S for some nice food for myself as he is going to work later. I got home and he’s bought some tulips and chocolate but couldn’t be bothered to give them to me.

Cue a huge row about respect and being a selfish prick

ItWasTheRightThing · 30/03/2025 21:15

Just for the record, I would be upset too.

i don’t expect (or get) much but it’s a token of appreciation on ONE DAY OF THE YEAR which shows that your child/ren care, that they love and appreciate you, and everything you do for them.

If some of you commenters on here can’t see that, and think it’s okay to get your mother nothing, not even a card, then I think you need to grow and stop being so damned selfish. Perhaps try imagining how your mother might feel…

GreatTheCat · 30/03/2025 21:09

My kids appreciate me. I don't need anything.

outside1inside · 30/03/2025 21:08

I organise every Christmas, every Easter, every birthday (including my own). Yeah I expect one day a year to be people thinking about me! It's not too much to ask. You are not unreasonable for wanting them to remember it's plastered across every supermarket for about 6 weeks before hand. A bunch of flowers and "what do you want to do today mum" is not fucking unreasonable.

Zov · 30/03/2025 21:04

wearyourpinkglove · 30/03/2025 21:03

Your poor mum. I wonder if she finds your birthday is also a "silly" thing to celebrate maybe that's where all this negativity about Mother's Day is coming from...?

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Some really mean-spirited and bitter comments on here aren't there?

Some serious projection going on! Wink

Breezybetty · 30/03/2025 21:04

Never did anything other than a hand made card when very young for Mother’s Day when I was growing up. My mother never did anything for her mother. My kids made me a card which is lovely. I dreaded any other fuss being made as the thought of breakfast in bed is grim, and I don’t want any expense spared on chocolate or flowers as it’s just spending money for the sake of spending money.

I find it great that my kids do nothing, but then again I’m a grown up and know my kids love me.

wearyourpinkglove · 30/03/2025 21:03

intrepidpanda · 30/03/2025 18:26

I hope my mum isn't expecting anything. I am not on board with all these silly 'days' and it is really unfair to push expectations to buy shite every other month for the next hallmark sponsored day onto your kids

Your poor mum. I wonder if she finds your birthday is also a "silly" thing to celebrate maybe that's where all this negativity about Mother's Day is coming from...?

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 21:02

Zov · 30/03/2025 20:59

No it's not!

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Yes it is! It’s not about “ mothers” history was rewritten!

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 21:01

Rina1971 · 30/03/2025 19:07

I agree I don't want hallmark or tat. Making a cake or lunch would have been nice. Instead I have been on-call for hangover remedies. It would just be nice to be acknowledged

I’ve raised an indulged child by running round them the they’ve got a hangover. I’m then going to complain that they are selfish and indulged…

Zov · 30/03/2025 20:59

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 20:58

Made up twaddle!

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No it's not!

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 20:59

huuskymam · 30/03/2025 20:47

My 21 year old bought me a hair dryer. He just so happened to have broken mine and needed to replace it. Killing 2 birds with 1 stone was the way he put it 😂😂

Enterprising! Well done on raising him that way.

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 20:58

RedHelenB · 30/03/2025 20:57

Even centuries ago it was about going home to visit your mother.

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Made up twaddle!

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 20:57

mydogfarts · 30/03/2025 19:09

Mothering Sunday has been a thing since long before hallmark existed

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Yes you are right!

But it was about going back to your nether church, not hallmark cards and tat.

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