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To feel sad that I got nothing for Mother's Day

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mothersdayhmm · 30/03/2025 16:01

Two adult kids. Never missed a Mother's Day before. Not always here physically, but always get nice gifts delivered.

Today, I got nothing. No cards, no gifts. One didn't realise it was Mother's Day until about 3pm : he rang me and was very apologetic. The other lives abroad and has sent something, but it won't be arriving any time soon, due to delivery problems.

I know it's just a commercialised day, and this is the only time this has ever happened, but I feel really rubbish. Just watched my neighbour and her DD set off for their afternoon tea.

Tell me I'm being silly? AIBU to feel deflated and a bit teary?

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offmynut · 30/03/2025 16:44

mothersdayhmm · 30/03/2025 16:43

Oh really, a drama queen. Hardly!

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Acting it.

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mothersdayhmm · 30/03/2025 16:43

offmynut · 30/03/2025 16:20

Another thread another mothers day drama queen.🙄
These threads are coming in like hot cakes today.

Oh really, a drama queen. Hardly!

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offmynut · 30/03/2025 16:20

Another thread another mothers day drama queen.🙄
These threads are coming in like hot cakes today.

Darkdiamond · 30/03/2025 16:19

mothersdayhmm · 30/03/2025 16:17

The one that didn't know it was Mother's Day lives in the UK! 😱And he was in town yesterday shopping!

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Aw I'm sorry. That is annoying.

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mothersdayhmm · 30/03/2025 16:17

Darkdiamond · 30/03/2025 16:14

I live abroad and celebrate Mother's Day on a different day. When we first moved here, we did the UK mothers day but my husband missed it a few times as honestly it is so difficult to know it's coming up without all of the advertising in the run up to it. In the UK, you cannot escape that Mother's Day is coming up but when you're abroad, you really have to go out of your way to Google the date in advance and put it in your calendar. I know it's always in March so always looks it up as I'm terrified of forgetting it as I know how easily that can happen. Just wanted to put that out there!

The one that didn't know it was Mother's Day lives in the UK! 😱And he was in town yesterday shopping!

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Darkdiamond · 30/03/2025 16:14

I live abroad and celebrate Mother's Day on a different day. When we first moved here, we did the UK mothers day but my husband missed it a few times as honestly it is so difficult to know it's coming up without all of the advertising in the run up to it. In the UK, you cannot escape that Mother's Day is coming up but when you're abroad, you really have to go out of your way to Google the date in advance and put it in your calendar. I know it's always in March so always looks it up as I'm terrified of forgetting it as I know how easily that can happen. Just wanted to put that out there!

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mothersdayhmm · 30/03/2025 16:11

Fancycheese · 30/03/2025 16:07

I don’t think you are. But be warned that people will be swooping in on their brooms soon to let you know how pathetic you are.

Are you possibly feeling upset at the passage of time and the fact your children are now grown up and flown the nest? That does sound tricky! Could you make plans with a friend next year? Or buy a ticket to something so you’re doing something nice anyway?

It doesn’t sound as though it was intentional or malicious at all. I’m sure future mothers days won’t all be like this.

No, I'm not sad they have flown the nest. I'm used to it now, as they moved out 8 & 9 years ago. I know nothing was intentional, but I still feel a bit crap. I mean, it's not hard to get this right, is it? I can honestly say, I never once missed getting a gift to my own Mum on time. I also always get very generous gifts to them on time, for every occasion.

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Abbygabby87 · 30/03/2025 16:10

I didn't get my mother anything.

I rang her and wished her happy mothers day on a phonecall and she was happy with that.

Why is them buying you a present important? Do you think money equals love? It doesn't.

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mothersdayhmm · 30/03/2025 16:08

BeaAndBen · 30/03/2025 16:05

They do care, the one abroad has sent you something to enjoy when it arrives in a couple of days and your other adult child rang to tell you he loves you.

It’s disappointing when you’re apart from them and get nothing, but remind yourself that you are loved and thought about, even if it went a bit wrong this time.

Then take yourself to M&S and buy yourself a nice bottle of gin and some chocolates, and choose something good to watch tonight.

Have some virtual flowers from a stranger, too 💐

Aw, thank you.

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Lovelyview · 30/03/2025 16:07

It's fine to feel a bit sad but that's life - especially when your kids have grown up. Treat yourself to something nice and look forward to the present you'll be getting soon.

Fancycheese · 30/03/2025 16:07

I don’t think you are. But be warned that people will be swooping in on their brooms soon to let you know how pathetic you are.

Are you possibly feeling upset at the passage of time and the fact your children are now grown up and flown the nest? That does sound tricky! Could you make plans with a friend next year? Or buy a ticket to something so you’re doing something nice anyway?

It doesn’t sound as though it was intentional or malicious at all. I’m sure future mothers days won’t all be like this.

BeaAndBen · 30/03/2025 16:05

They do care, the one abroad has sent you something to enjoy when it arrives in a couple of days and your other adult child rang to tell you he loves you.

It’s disappointing when you’re apart from them and get nothing, but remind yourself that you are loved and thought about, even if it went a bit wrong this time.

Then take yourself to M&S and buy yourself a nice bottle of gin and some chocolates, and choose something good to watch tonight.

Have some virtual flowers from a stranger, too 💐