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AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 01/04/2025 00:04

llizzie · 31/03/2025 22:22

What's wrong with enjoying it it the law says you must?

Yes, if you suspect a marriage is bigamous (where the groom is already married), you should report it to the police, as bigamy is a criminal offense.

Here's why and what to do:

Bigamy is illegal:
Marrying someone while already legally married to another person is a crime, known as bigamy.
The second marriage is void:
A bigamous marriage is considered invalid and has no legal standing.
Report to the police:
If you suspect a bigamous marriage, contact your local police department via their non-emergency number (e.g., 101 in the UK).
Don't hesitate to report:
If you have reason to believe a marriage is bigamous, it's important to report it to the authorities so that the situation can be investigated.

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It's NOT her job to report anything. Stop trying to get your jollies at the OP's expense!
Her duty is to keep herself and her children safe and that is all!

I wish posters would at LEAST read the OP's posts and STOP trying to tell her what to do. She is a grown woman who had to fight to survive that nasty wreck of a man.

WorkItUpYourBangle · 01/04/2025 00:03

DuckieDodgyHedgyPiggy · 30/03/2025 16:53

No, not true.

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Another person that can't read

WorkItUpYourBangle · 01/04/2025 00:02

2025willbemytime · 30/03/2025 16:37

I can't believe a poster thought by going no contact with a spouse it would mean you're not married anymore.

Definitely ring a solicitor tomorrow and ask where you stand with all this. If you know where they are "getting married" ring the venue as well.

They didn't, they quite clearly said they knew they were wrong. Not sure why people keep bringing it up.

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 31/03/2025 23:56

Judecb · 31/03/2025 20:33

As this is illegal, you need to inform the police.

It's not her circus and not her clown car. Her ONLY duty is to keep herself and her children safe, and not let herself get put into the cross-hairs of an abusive, nasty jerk.

Regretsmorethanafew · 31/03/2025 23:36

llizzie · 31/03/2025 22:40

Here's why and what to do:
Legal Consequences:
Under Irish law, someone who is already validly married or in a civil partnership cannot get married again.

Void Marriage:
If a marriage ceremony takes place while one party is already married, the marriage is considered void.

Reporting:
If you have reason to believe someone is already married, you should contact the Civil Registration Service (HSE).

Notification:
Couples intending to marry must give notice to the registrar at least 3 months before the wedding date.

Exemption Orders:
In exceptional circumstances, a court may grant an exemption order, but this is rare.

Contact the Civil Registration Service:
They will advise you on how to proceed and what information is needed.

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She doesn't need to do anything
It's not her problem.
It's nothing to do with her.

TessTimoney · 31/03/2025 23:11

Nosaucelikemintsauce · 30/03/2025 16:09

Obviously you do nothing until after The Big Day. He hasn't committed a crime yet.
Then report and enjoy.....

Nasty!

MumOnBus · 31/03/2025 23:10

Nameychangington · 30/03/2025 19:18

You can get a divorce in the UK without the spouses consent ,but not without their knowledge.

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The OP has said many times she's not in the UK. She's in RoI.

DonnaBanana · 31/03/2025 22:55

Report it AFTER he gets “married” again for the most fireworks

Alfiecatfus · 31/03/2025 22:55

WheresYourSnickers · 31/03/2025 22:34

What bans would they be @alfiecatfus?
Bans don't exist in Ireland.

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Apologies I didn’t realise it was in Ireland. But the point is the same. You can still log an objection with the local registrar. The 3 month thing is the same principle.

llizzie · 31/03/2025 22:40

Grassisalotgreener · 31/03/2025 20:38

Judecb
I do not need to inform anyone, i am not the groom, i do not know his wife to be . I know nothing of his life, other than the county i do not know where he lives.

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Here's why and what to do:
Legal Consequences:
Under Irish law, someone who is already validly married or in a civil partnership cannot get married again.

Void Marriage:
If a marriage ceremony takes place while one party is already married, the marriage is considered void.

Reporting:
If you have reason to believe someone is already married, you should contact the Civil Registration Service (HSE).

Notification:
Couples intending to marry must give notice to the registrar at least 3 months before the wedding date.

Exemption Orders:
In exceptional circumstances, a court may grant an exemption order, but this is rare.

Contact the Civil Registration Service:
They will advise you on how to proceed and what information is needed.

WheresYourSnickers · 31/03/2025 22:37

Crazyworldmum · 31/03/2025 21:51

it’s not that different I just checked it . Different from engaging but not the other U.K. countries . So no need to be rude . It happens all the time that people don’t realise divorces have been approved , exs often give wrong addresses as an example or claim they don’t know the wearabouts . Either way no need to be rude

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... Not the other U.K. countries...

You do realise Ireland IS NOT ANY SORT OF UK COUNTRY!!!! FFS 800 Years of oppression and still.......

WheresYourSnickers · 31/03/2025 22:34

Alfiecatfus · 31/03/2025 21:39

The bans have to be read so you can probably report to the local registrar if you know the area he is getting married in

What bans would they be @alfiecatfus?
Bans don't exist in Ireland.

llizzie · 31/03/2025 22:22

lylagarrity · 31/03/2025 20:15

She has a duty to safeguard herself physically and mentally not provide drama for a thread online.

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What's wrong with enjoying it it the law says you must?

Yes, if you suspect a marriage is bigamous (where the groom is already married), you should report it to the police, as bigamy is a criminal offense.

Here's why and what to do:

Bigamy is illegal:
Marrying someone while already legally married to another person is a crime, known as bigamy.
The second marriage is void:
A bigamous marriage is considered invalid and has no legal standing.
Report to the police:
If you suspect a bigamous marriage, contact your local police department via their non-emergency number (e.g., 101 in the UK).
Don't hesitate to report:
If you have reason to believe a marriage is bigamous, it's important to report it to the authorities so that the situation can be investigated.

llizzie · 31/03/2025 22:21

Grassisalotgreener · 30/03/2025 15:53

Separated 13 years, no contact since children came of age, separated as a result of dv. I was informed today that he is getting Married next week .
Should i inform someone in authority?
Aibu if i report him, i was delighted when he moved on so not upset he is getting married,but im astounded because we are not divorced!

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Yes, if you suspect a marriage is bigamous (where the groom is already married), you should report it to the police, as bigamy is a criminal offense.

Here's why and what to do:

Bigamy is illegal:
Marrying someone while already legally married to another person is a crime, known as bigamy.
The second marriage is void:
A bigamous marriage is considered invalid and has no legal standing.
Report to the police:
If you suspect a bigamous marriage, contact your local police department via their non-emergency number (e.g., 101 in the UK).
Don't hesitate to report:
If you have reason to believe a marriage is bigamous, it's important to report it to the authorities so that the situation can be investigated.

lylagarrity · 31/03/2025 22:13

FozzieP · 31/03/2025 22:06

Bigamy is a crime. Report it to the police. It’s a pretty awful thing for him to do to the woman he’s ‘marrying’ from pension provision to dying without a will. What a prat he must be; you’re well shot of him.

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FozzieP · 31/03/2025 22:06

Bigamy is a crime. Report it to the police. It’s a pretty awful thing for him to do to the woman he’s ‘marrying’ from pension provision to dying without a will. What a prat he must be; you’re well shot of him.

Crazyworldmum · 31/03/2025 21:59

Ok love . Have a nice evening

Deckedoutside · 31/03/2025 21:59

My stepmother did this believe it or not. 'Married' my dad whilst still married to ex. He waited until the day after the wedding and then reported her to the police, as at that point she had commited a crime. She got into a shit ton of trouble, and was also arrested for fraud (forging a divorce certificate for herself). I'd recommend you do the exact same thing that her ex did and report him after you know the ceremony has taken place.

Stupid bitch deserved everything she got. They take it very seriously but as the ex partner you are not liable for any of it.

Regretsmorethanafew · 31/03/2025 21:52

Crazyworldmum · 31/03/2025 21:51

it’s not that different I just checked it . Different from engaging but not the other U.K. countries . So no need to be rude . It happens all the time that people don’t realise divorces have been approved , exs often give wrong addresses as an example or claim they don’t know the wearabouts . Either way no need to be rude

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It's very different, and you're wrong.

Rude is assuming you understand things you don't

Crazyworldmum · 31/03/2025 21:51

Regretsmorethanafew · 31/03/2025 20:23

Yes, it's completely different.

Do you find it so hard to understand that a foreign country has different laws to your country? All due respect is none.

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it’s not that different I just checked it . Different from engaging but not the other U.K. countries . So no need to be rude . It happens all the time that people don’t realise divorces have been approved , exs often give wrong addresses as an example or claim they don’t know the wearabouts . Either way no need to be rude

Miffsmum · 31/03/2025 21:45

I am totally with you, keep your distance and change your name for your own safety and sanity.

I’m sorry if it’s been mentioned but it occurs to me that if he is going through with an illegal marriage, what will your kids do or say if the question is asked if anyone present knows any legal impediment to the marriage going ahead 🤷‍♀️

CosyCoralCrab · 31/03/2025 21:41

H0210zero · 31/03/2025 19:20

You can report in confidence to 101 but Id defo wait until after the wedding. Mainly because he'sore.likelynto retaliate now if you were to stop his wedding then to realise where it's come from afterwards. Someone on our local FB group had same issue with her ex. She rang police who literally told her "He hasn't committed a crime yet, let him get married then ring us back" then when she did they put it down as an anonymous report and then arrested him on honeymoon.
Let your kids go find out the type of ceremony so you know if it's humanist or not. Not many get married humanistic without the extra service to legalise it. With his last phonecall he probably realised that he needs a divorce but thought nobody would know. Let him do it. Then ring 101 and make sure you explain the background and any DV. They'll support you and submit in anonymously.

No 101 in Ireland which is where the OP is. Also humanist ceremonies are legal here.

Alfiecatfus · 31/03/2025 21:39

The bans have to be read so you can probably report to the local registrar if you know the area he is getting married in

FeetLikeFlippers · 31/03/2025 21:37

Ooorhead · 30/03/2025 16:35

Ah yes that will be it

it will be a humanist ceremony or similar

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Makes no difference where or by whom the ceremony is performed - it’s the marriage licence and signing of the register that make it legal.

Noodles1234 · 31/03/2025 21:34

I would contact non emergency police via website or phone, plus I would make contact with my local registry office.

not for spite, but to protect the woman he is marrying as she will not be protected I imagine but more so she is being duped.