Husband getting married

I’m in the uk and married a divorcé. We were both amazed that we never once had to prove he was divorced.

Goodness op what a nightmare for you. I’m so sorry this arsehole has reared his ugly head again in your life.

And your poor kids (I realise they’re adults but always your kids eh?). What will they do with this information? Will they confront their dad? Are they going to the wedding.

Good luck op. I really hope you do reclaim your name and manage To restore your hard won peace to your life.

No it doesn't, you still have to legally get divorced, when you arrange the wedding etc you have to show your divorce certificate to the registrar, we'll I had too and so did my husband to be

Same here we had to show decree absolutes before even finalising booking.

You'll send her the 10k, will you?

That is absolute bollocks. It's not even vaguely true.

Amazing, I’ve always wanted somebody to stand up and shout out “He’s still married to me!” when the priest / registrar says “Does anybody know a lawful impediment…”. Talk about a real life soap opera moment!!!

Video please!!!

File for divorce immediately.

Not necessarily so. My husband was an abuser though emotional rather than violent, it went on for years. He's also a drinker and a cruel narcissist towards both me and our daughter - he works in uniform. My only escape and I mean 'only' was by meeting another man, he's looked after us for 14 years and kept us safe. Husband served divorce papers on me and my current partner shortly after we left - a total cover up of his emotional abuse that carried on through children's court and all through DD's childhood although very limited contact but he still damaged her at every opportunity. The house was sold 3 years later, profit split between us. So to date the divorce has sat going nowhere for the past 11 years, we've been married 28 years now in total. He won't co-operate because he's got a massive pension pot that needs splitting and I don't have £8K for s barrister.

If he's made a will does it count if we're still married and he kicks the bucket, can he retire and take the lot?

Yes, advice. That’s all it is.

So when you said upthread

I looked up the Irish law and it MUST be reported if you know of someone who intends to marry bigamously.
Ignorance of the law is no defence.

you were posting incorrect information.

Just wanted to make sure OP knew that.

If it doesn't matter, stop badgering.

Well we shall just have to wait and see, won't we?

Either she tells the authorities, or she doesn't.

Does it matter anyway?

Yes, it gives advice.

It doesn't make it mandatory for a woman to put herself in danger. In the context of this thread, your behaviour is bullying.

That is pedantic. It gives advice on what to do, and the relevant department. Splitting hairs is hardly conducive to friendly posts, is it?

That doesn’t say it MUST be reported as you stated upthread @llizzie?
Should doesn’t mean must.

This!!
Karma is very patient!

Then she shouldn't have posted, or even considered it, because now she knows and has to say something, otherwise she will be deemed to have interfered with the justice system.

Under Irish law, someone who is already validly married or in a civil partnership cannot get married again.
Void Marriage:
If a marriage ceremony takes place while one party is already married, the marriage is considered void.
Reporting:
If you have reason to believe someone is already married, you should contact the Civil Registration Service (HSE).
Notification:
Couples intending to marry must give notice to the registrar at least 3 months before the wedding date.
Exemption Orders:
In exceptional circumstances, a court may grant an exemption order, but this is rare.
Contact the Civil Registration Service:
They will advise you on how to proceed and what information is needed.

Under Irish law, someone who is already validly married or in a civil partnership cannot get married again.
Void Marriage:
If a marriage ceremony takes place while one party is already married, the marriage is considered void.
Reporting:
If you have reason to believe someone is already married, you should contact the Civil Registration Service (HSE).
Notification:
Couples intending to marry must give notice to the registrar at least 3 months before the wedding date.
Exemption Orders:
In exceptional circumstances, a court may grant an exemption order, but this is rare.
Contact the Civil Registration Service:
They will advise you on how to proceed and what information is needed.

Under Irish law, someone who is already validly married or in a civil partnership cannot get married again.
Void Marriage:
If a marriage ceremony takes place while one party is already married, the marriage is considered void.
Reporting:
If you have reason to believe someone is already married, you should contact the Civil Registration Service (HSE).
Notification:
Couples intending to marry must give notice to the registrar at least 3 months before the wedding date.
Exemption Orders:
In exceptional circumstances, a court may grant an exemption order, but this is rare.
Contact the Civil Registration Service:
They will advise you on how to proceed and what information is needed.

I am getting no jolies out of this. It is a very nasty thing to say. I looked up the Irish law and it MUST be reported if you know of someone who intends to marry bigamously.

Ignorance of the law is no defence.

All the same, I have posted the Irish Law. It is much the same, using names of different departments.

US here, just to chime in, a funny/sad story. My stepfather married again after splitting with my mom but no divorce (he needed someone to watch his kids for free and cook) and got caught. Said "he'd forgotten he was married" and got a slap on the wrist.

Not one of my mom's better picks, I have to say. My mom was obviously not in any trouble.

Put yourself first. Decide it is some silly, meaningless commitment ceremony. Have a private chuckle at the silliness of a man who is still legally tied to another woman (you!) bothering with such a meaningless thing. Spend a couple of hours googling “stupidest commitment ceremony ever” and having a good chuckle. Then go back to enjoying your good, peaceful life.

This is the biggest pile of crap. She is not going to be held complicit if he commits a crime. Away and give my head peace.