Husband getting married

No, no, no and no. FFS.

Report it definitely! I separated from my abusive ex in 2008. Due to my circumstances I couldn't afford a divorce until 2020. Then with Covid there were delays and it took a further 2 years until it was finalised. My current partner and I want to get married and I knew I had to get a divorce first.
It is 100% illegal and highly unlikely you will be divorced in a week before the wedding! The average divorce is about 6 months.

Why don't you apply to the courts to get divorced? You can request on the form that he pays half. I am assuming your kids are older and therefore it should be pretty straight forward. Meanwhile speak to the county where he will be getting married as they can advise on who to report it to.

That's just pure ignorance!

Sorry not you Mike but those that don't even consider Ireland is a different country.

Although, I think we might have avoided all the "cancel the cheque" posts if the OP had stated in her first post that she is in Ireland.

This is a mainly British site and I think it is important to state that you aren't in Britain when asking for any kind of advice that requires the input of outside agencies.

I agree that not reading updates is lazy though.

She doesn't need to speak to her abusive ex.

And they don't ask about impediments in the ceremony.

But why not read all OP’s posts before first replying? I don’t understand why people don’t do that, as it really doesn’t make sense not to.

Well not to split hairs but the reason there is both Ireland and Northern Ireland is because the uk couldn't feck off away like lol but yeah very different rules in Ireland than the UK but it only takes reading the OP's posts to work out where she is and it genuinely is a bafflement to me that people do not read the OP's posts before responding.

Unfortunately I think due to there being a Northern Ireland and an Ireland, sometimes people forget that the later is a foreign country. I'd read some of the Ops original posts, but not enough to realise it was not the uk when made my first reply. I realised that the OP was in Ireland and so of course it will be different laws as it's a foreign country.

21 pages and this gem.... she does not need to contact her abusive ex ever for any reason. Him getting married while already married is his crime not hers. She has no legal, moral nor any other reason to contact a man who abused her and invite him back into her life. Ever.

And for anyone wondering about the poor new wife well then she herself should have done her own due diligence before agreeing to marry him.

You need to speak to your ex ASAP.
This is why they ask if there is an impediment to the people being legally married in the ceremony- if your ex shrugs it off go along and say you are still married, you will be preventing your husband from being a criminal, bigamy carries a compulsory prison sentence. Not getting divorced to save money is a false economy!

I think many would fine if it were France or Germany, but I've met many British people who don't seem to understand that Ireland is a foreign country. They think it's not really, it's so similar, it's practically the same.
But it's not.

They are unaware of the fact Ireland is independent from the UK I suspect or unaware there are countries outside of the UK with differing laws.

I would let him get on with it. If he's doing something illegal let him crack on.

As I understand it, she doesn't want to be the one who reports it.
I can understand that, much better if this angry man confronts her later to be able to honestly say that she had nothing to do with his predicament

Too 'busy' to read a few posts and get the gist of what's been discussed 🙄

It must make you feel weird but l’m team “do nothing” Well done in bringing up your kids and repairing your life from this horrible man. Stay quiet and hopefully he’ll run of into the sunset with his new ( poor thing ) wife !

Why would.she want to do that and potentially antagonise her ex abuser husband???

You “looked up” Irish law. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 You went on ChatGPT and copy and pasted. Did you add the extra information about violence or not being certain what type of ceremony it is?

I wish there was some way that copying from AI could be blocked 🚫.

This has got to be the worst thread for posters not bothering to read the OP's updates.

THE OP LIVES IN IRELAND

@Grassisalotgreener just popping I to say that when my 1st marriage was over i changed my name back way before the divorce. It felt wonderful, just like putting on a comfortable pair of shoes after running a marathon in stilettos for the preceding years.

I had no idea how important a name was. Getting mine back made me feel whole and myself again. Remarkable and very empowering. I've since remarried (to a spectacularly wonderful man) and still kept my name.

You are so bloody strong and resilient and I wish you and your kids a long happy life - you deserve it

Have known folks in this situation and it’s an easy sort unlike divorce, but still needs to be declared and made official.

OP is in Ireland (ROI) @PerspicaciaTick.

FFS.

The whole point of posting banns for 3 months is so that the intended marriage is announced to the public to avoid things like bigamy surely? A bloke I know re-married when he was already married to someone else, though separated obviously, but as both ceremonies took place abroad he got away with it.

If you know where he lives in England or Wales, the simplest thing is to contact the registration office in that area. They will talk you through what you need to do to enter a caveat.
Actually, I think that your local registration office could do this for you as the caveat would then apply nationally.

If he admits to being previously married then he will need to show his decree absolute. If he lies and says he hasn't been married then that would be a police matter once he actually goes through with the bigamous wedding.