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Husband getting married

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Grassisalotgreener · 30/03/2025 15:53

Separated 13 years, no contact since children came of age, separated as a result of dv. I was informed today that he is getting Married next week .
Should i inform someone in authority?
Aibu if i report him, i was delighted when he moved on so not upset he is getting married,but im astounded because we are not divorced!

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WinWhenTheyreSinging · 30/03/2025 16:01

Ooorhead · 30/03/2025 16:00

I’d expect to receive some papers in the post next week op

How would that help when his (illegal) wedding is next week?

Ooorhead · 30/03/2025 16:00

I’d expect to receive some papers in the post next week op

Ooorhead · 30/03/2025 16:00

Grassisalotgreener · 30/03/2025 15:59

First time poster, do not know how to answer specific questions..he has invited his children.🤔

Edited

Ok
and so he’s obviously not least bit ashamed
what’s their response?

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Grassisalotgreener · 30/03/2025 15:59

First time poster, do not know how to answer specific questions..he has invited his children.🤔

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JaneBoulton · 30/03/2025 15:59

How could he even get married if he's married to you? Perhaps he's filing for divorce?

Sulu17 · 30/03/2025 15:56

As someone else said, maybe it's one of those religious ceremonies in another country that wouldn't be recognised here. The poor woman.

SoftPlaySaturdays · 30/03/2025 15:56

Our county asks people to phone the non-emergency police number, odd as that sounds. Check on your police force's website.

Ooorhead · 30/03/2025 15:55

How did you hear?

NotDarkGothicMama · 30/03/2025 15:55

Boredzebra · 30/03/2025 15:54

I thought after a period of time of no contact it means you’re divorced (I’m wrong)

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Not unless one of the parties files for and is granted a divorce.

Boomer55 · 30/03/2025 15:55

If you're definitely not divorced, and he's definitely getting wed, then, yes, report him.

NotDarkGothicMama · 30/03/2025 15:54

Bigamy is illegal, so YANBU. His new wife would be in an extremely hard place if they split up and she found out she didn't have the legal protections of marriage.

I assume you were legally married, not just a religious ceremony with no legal status in this country.

Boredzebra · 30/03/2025 15:54

I thought after a period of time of no contact it means you’re divorced (I’m wrong)

IsitaHatOrACat · 30/03/2025 15:54

Yanbu to report. No idea who to though!!

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