Husband getting married

Genius
And If you have his address, I would urgently send him and his partner a congratulations on your engagement card (by recorded delivery) saying you wish them all the best and that you assume he now wants to initiate a divorce so he can remarry and that you would be happy to expedite this.

Bigamy is treated as a quite serious offence.

You can get a divorce in the UK even if your spouse refuses to sign divorce papers or cooperate; the divorce process can proceed without their consent, though it might take longer.

I did, my then partner had been separated from his wife for 10 years and they hadn't divorced as it was amicable and neither initially had the money and then he wanted to make sure she had the benefit of his death in service benefits should he died as they had kids.

We got engaged and an amicable divorce proceeded at our expense. And the ex-wife came to our wedding! Getting engaged if you have been separated for ages is understandable but getting married is not. This is him acting inappropriately and not you.

I believe that in the Republic of Ireland, it is not possible to divorce your partner without their knowledge. Divorce proceedings require that both parties are informed and have the opportunity to participate in the process. The spouse initiating the divorce must serve legal documents to the other party, ensuring they are aware of the case.

If you suspect that your partner has filed for divorce without your knowledge, you can check court records. You would need to contact the relevant court office where the case might have been filed to inquire about any proceedings involving you. I would check if you are divorced without knowing it, he could have lied.

And If you have his address, I would urgently send him and his partner a congratulations on your engagement card (by recorded delivery) saying you wish them all the best and that you assume he now wants to initiate a divorce so he can remarry and that you would be happy to expedite this.

I would address it to them both, not just him as she clearly has no idea. If you are divorced, he needs to explain that. If you are not divorced and he goes ahead with the wedding, you need to tell the Garda exactly what you believe. The poor woman he is with, likely has no idea what she is getting herself into.

@Grassisalotgreener - is your will a proper, legal, airtight will, made with a competent solicitor who was aware that you are still legally married?

Personally I would definitely initiate divorce proceedings, whatever the cost. And then make a new will.

Edit - after clarification

@Grassisalotgreener

The first thing you need to do is consider your own safety. If I were you and I truly felt that reporting this might be traced back to me and could end up in physical violence, bring him to my door to threaten me, or cause me problems with my life and my job, then I'm sorry for the 'bride', but I'd keep my mouth shut.

I'm not in Ireland so I don't know the laws, but could he have gotten a divorce 'by default' (also known as 'divorce by publication') by lying that he didn't know where you were living? The divorce would be invalid of course, but he'd have a 'piece of paper' to show the clergy-person.

If this 'marriage' does go through I think you should see a solicitor. It could be that if it's an actual 'legal' marriage, the fact that he's committed bigamy may make it easier for you to get a divorce and/or may affect whatever that impediment is that is stopping you now.

Try reading the quote.

She has said.

Yes, I'm sure.

Are you sure? More to the point is she? O don't know about you but I have had post not delivered. The court can confirm one way or the other

Deleted as just seen that op does have a valid will …so ,phew!

No
because OP has already sorted out her will following the separation.

I do wish people would stop treating her like a child
she is clearly VERY clued up after escaping a vile situation

OP said

cannot say too much but i am tied to him financially through some archaic rule and i didnt and dont have the funds to divorce him.

Whatever that means.

I had colleagues here (in Scotland) who got engaged before the divorce for the previous marriage was through. I always found that utterly bizarre.

(They're now married with an adult son.)

More nonsense. Shes not divorced.

You're literally agreeing

Wrong. A humanist (secular) ceremony conducted in Scotland, N.Ireland and the Republic of Ireland if conducted by a licenced celebrant is a valid marriage.

1. You need to contact the court you expected divorce papers from and get the status of your divorce. I assume he filed? You can do this direct or through your solicitor

1. Depending on the response to the above, if a decree absolute is not granted or you cannot confirm it has been granted then you need to contact the registrar where the wedding is due to take place and let them know if you are or suspect you are still married, he will then be required to produce to them a decree absolute.

Do not contact him and ask your kids to be careful what they say

Great. Well done for checking. Ignoring the other rather reactive poster!

Why do you keep ignoring whether your children have ever asked you whether divorced

they’re attending the ceremony?

Agreed. This needs to be reported for the sake of the new 'wife'.

Police and the relevant registrar's office, perhaps?