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Sister leaving us out

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LemonDuck223 · 30/03/2025 10:21

Don't know if i am being unreasonable but I feel a bit sad about it.

Dsis has invited our parents out for breakfast. Hasn't invited me and DS. We are quite a close family and last time we went for breakfast it was to that place and I was the one who arranged and made sure to invite everyone.
I'm a single parent and DS is still fairly young so can't treat me or take me out so we aren't really doing much.
So it's upsetting knowing they are all out whilst I'm sat at home with DS. I know people will say go out and enjoy yourself which I am going to head out in a bit but still doesn't detract from the fact dsis left me out.
Btw this isn't the first time and dsis and bil have form for leaving me out of things over the years. I just don't get it. I've really been there for dsis over a really tough month for her recently

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mnahmnah · 30/03/2025 10:44

I think given that it is Mother’s Day and OP is missing out due to being a single parents and a young child, it would have been nice of the sister to include her and it’s at least ignorant and at most mean not to have.

SparklyStone · 30/03/2025 10:44

OP I understand the loneliness of life, and can see why you yearn to be there. Days like Mothers Day make me miss being part of a family unit. Big hugs x

TwentyTwentyFive · 30/03/2025 10:43

Nanny0gg · 30/03/2025 10:35

I disagree

When it's something like Mothers Day it's perfectly normal to do something together. Saves the mother being split as to what she does. And it means the daughters get to enjoy the breakfast too

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I don't think that's true. It doesn't sound like the mother would have been split in two as the OP hasn't invited her parents out or had any intention of doing so, why can't her sister invite them out to spend some quality time together?

Nosaucelikemintsauce · 30/03/2025 10:41

It's mothers day.. Would have been nice of dsis acknowledged you are a dm. Has she got dc? Betting not...

MoreChocPls · 30/03/2025 10:40

Why didn’t you invite your mum for breakfast or lunch?

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 30/03/2025 10:39

Your sister is taking your mum out for Mother’s Day. She’s not leaving you out or excluding you. You don’t have to all do things together all of the time

Overthebow · 30/03/2025 10:39

She wanted to take her mum out for Mother’s Day. Did you invite your mum out for mother’s day? Maybe take her out later in the day?

Nanny0gg · 30/03/2025 10:35

RedToothBrush · 30/03/2025 10:24

Why do you HAVE to be included?

Why can't they go out without you?

I have to say your attitude that you should be included is probably part of the problem.

It's normal for a child and her husband to have one to one take with her parents without inviting the other sibling.

If you had multiple siblings and you were the only one left out you'd have a point.

In this situation it's just you being ridiculous.

I disagree

When it's something like Mothers Day it's perfectly normal to do something together. Saves the mother being split as to what she does. And it means the daughters get to enjoy the breakfast too

Orders76 · 30/03/2025 10:31

It's ok to do things separately, nice to focus on one relationship not a group. Different age kids can be different to handle. You could pop over to your mother in the afternoon too, bring flowers and scones?

rainbowstardrops · 30/03/2025 10:30

Of course your sister doesn’t have to invite you but as you’ve helped her out recently and you’re on your own with your young child, I think it would have been nice to include you.

TwentyTwentyFive · 30/03/2025 10:30

Why can't your sister see your parents by herself? It's really odd that you think you should be included to be honest.

DancingDucks · 30/03/2025 10:27

I think it's ok for your sister to do things with your parents without you and vice versa. I'm a little unclear on why you feel that you have to be invited too?