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Mini eggs for Mother's Day.

529 replies

ChicMiss · 30/03/2025 09:51

I get a bag from my child. Who then asks to share them. No. Absolutely no. AIBU for a bit more thought? I don't like that I'm expected to share, they've gone off in a huff and my OH is also in a huff.

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FrazzledBride · 30/03/2025 17:43

Sorry OP, if this is real you sound awful.

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 17:40

Mrsknowitall · 30/03/2025 17:37

Wow I’ve received chocolates from my children and guess what we share them! What a mean mummy you sound

Mums are generally rarely allowed things for themselves, surely if any day they can have something for themselves, that day is today?

Katemax82 · 30/03/2025 17:39

ChicMiss · 30/03/2025 10:00

6 years old. I'm just miffed that it's a gift I have to share. Yes it's mother's day but I'm having to share my gift. It would be nice to receive something that is just mine.

I share every gift with my kids...which has meant my lovely tub of rituals body cream my sister hot me is now used nightly by my 11 year old daughter

Mrsknowitall · 30/03/2025 17:37

Wow I’ve received chocolates from my children and guess what we share them! What a mean mummy you sound

B1anche · 30/03/2025 17:34

DingDongAlong · 30/03/2025 16:52

It's rude to ask someone to share their gift, so my kids know they should wait to be offered. However they also know that opening and eating something in the presence of others and not offering to share it, is also rude.

I would therefore offer a small piece if eating it in their presence, or I'd eat it when they're not around (and scoff the lot myself). If they ask for a piece, then the answer is no.

With this in mind and that the kids are still learning/practising their social skills, DH will usually buy me a larger sharing box of chocolates so the kids can practise waiting to be offered, not taking all the 'nice' ones etc.

the kids can practise waiting to be offered, not taking all the 'nice' ones etc.

Good lord! Practise waiting to be offered?!

Nina1013 · 30/03/2025 17:33

iseenyouwithkefir · 30/03/2025 10:18

You don't "have" to share, just say no. But then don't expect your child to share when they are given a gift.

... they've gone off in a huff and my OH is also in a huff. This would bother me more; why's everyone huffing?

My husband is the most un huffy person ever, and I can honestly say even he would have ‘gone off in a huff’ if I had been so thoughtless and cruel towards our 6 year old. I’m thinking back to when she was 6, she would have been so excited to give me them, and so excited to share them…and her little face if I had refused…my husband would have been as hurt and confused as she would have been.

OP - They’re mini eggs. If you want more, buy more. You can’t buy more memories of snuggling up, appreciating the love your child shows you on Mother’s Day. You also can’t rewrite the memories your child will have of this day. Look back at your own childhood. If it’s anything like mine, you’ll remember clearly really random things that bear no correlation to each other and in many cases are totally insignificant (and I bet you also don’t remember things your parent would say were major things). I hope this isn’t one of the things your child remembers forever.

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 17:33

I do think it's important to teach children that mum's are allowed to have gifts to themselves and giving gifts means that the gift is for the other person.

6 is old enough to begin to understand that.

YANBU to not want to share
YABU to complain about mini eggs, that is thoughtful for a 6 year old

Wakemeupbe4yougogo · 30/03/2025 17:31

So you remember this feeling on Father's Day and treat your OH in the exact same way. It's not about spending money or buying something, it costs nothing to sit with a child and hand make a card - I've got so many I've kept from mine and those meant more than any generic gift could have done. It's about making an effort to say thanks for being the mother to our child.

SparklyBrickViper · 30/03/2025 17:24

Is it a sharing bag? They cost a fortune now.

MentallyDatingDaveGrohl · 30/03/2025 17:21

CockSpadget · 30/03/2025 14:56

The thing is, when you’re a mother, you WANT and ENJOY sharing with your children. We aren’t talking a Rolex watch here, we are talking chocolates, and a 6 year old. It’s a very sad affair when a mum begrudges her child a bloody mini eggs.

Exactly. It’s an absolute joy to share with them when they are such excited little ones!
I can’t imagine being so cold as to receive them, thank a child, but then tell them they don’t get any.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 30/03/2025 17:14

This afternoon my mum wouldn't open her Ferrero Rocher until at least two other people said they'd also have one. They're her favourites, but she won't enjoy them anywhere near as much if she eats them all to herself.

Sux2buthen · 30/03/2025 17:13

DingDongAlong · 30/03/2025 16:52

It's rude to ask someone to share their gift, so my kids know they should wait to be offered. However they also know that opening and eating something in the presence of others and not offering to share it, is also rude.

I would therefore offer a small piece if eating it in their presence, or I'd eat it when they're not around (and scoff the lot myself). If they ask for a piece, then the answer is no.

With this in mind and that the kids are still learning/practising their social skills, DH will usually buy me a larger sharing box of chocolates so the kids can practise waiting to be offered, not taking all the 'nice' ones etc.

Sounds like a blast at your gaff

Moversnotshakers · 30/03/2025 17:01

My 32 yr old son got me a plastic ornamental duck. Its fkn horrendous and wont be going anywhere in my house or even garden. I just laughed. He has form for giving shit presents. One christmas i got some matches in a plastic dome thing with the intial K on them. My name begins with J..... luckily i have 2 thoughtful daughters who gave me lovely gifts( and wine) .. dont take Mothere day too seriously.!!

DingDongAlong · 30/03/2025 16:52

It's rude to ask someone to share their gift, so my kids know they should wait to be offered. However they also know that opening and eating something in the presence of others and not offering to share it, is also rude.

I would therefore offer a small piece if eating it in their presence, or I'd eat it when they're not around (and scoff the lot myself). If they ask for a piece, then the answer is no.

With this in mind and that the kids are still learning/practising their social skills, DH will usually buy me a larger sharing box of chocolates so the kids can practise waiting to be offered, not taking all the 'nice' ones etc.

bettydavieseyes · 30/03/2025 16:48

Wow.
My 8 year old forgot my present, she got one at school from the mothers day shop and left it there. My 10 year old is autistic and oblivious. Nice card from her school with her hand print. My 21 year old is at uni. Glowing fb post from her today, what a sweetheart!

Mini eggs would make me happy. I dont think I've ever had a chocolate present from kids of any age who didn't want to share them! That's standard. It's the thought that counts!

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 30/03/2025 16:48

My son gave me a box of chocs today then tried to nick one. I slapped his hand away and told him to piss off and get his own.

He is 25 though, so probably not what you'd do when they're little 😁 but like fuck is it unreasonable to expect your gift to be yours. Bloody hell.

Tumblingthrough · 30/03/2025 16:39

The fun is in sharing

Crazycatlady79 · 30/03/2025 16:38

ChicMiss · 30/03/2025 10:00

6 years old. I'm just miffed that it's a gift I have to share. Yes it's mother's day but I'm having to share my gift. It would be nice to receive something that is just mine.

If this is actually real, your poor kid is only 6. Grow up, Princess! 😅

Crocsforlife · 30/03/2025 16:37

LuckySantangelo35 · 30/03/2025 15:48

@Crocsforlife

speak for yourself! Not all teens are like that

Lucky you having perfect teens

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 30/03/2025 16:31

Have had to send my hubby out to buy me mini eggs now couldn’t stop thinking about them!!

MummytoaMiracle01 · 30/03/2025 16:28

Wow ! Hope your kid doesn't turn out as mean as you

MrsSunshine2b · 30/03/2025 16:18

I'm assuming this is a wind up post. If not, YABVU.

Nichebitch · 30/03/2025 16:14

Fancycheese · 30/03/2025 13:22

Making a point to a 6 year old about not sharing? 😂 sorry what’s the larger point at play here?

Good luck next time you want 6 year old to share anything! FFS.

The point is to the husband. To the kid is just telling them this is her day and is ok for her to want her present for herself. It’s not about not sharing chocolate with a child, is about not accepting mothers are unimportant, but to each their own

Poorabbeywalsh2 · 30/03/2025 16:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣😂😂😂 this is hilarious. As mothers we compromise so much, all the time, we take less, so that the kids can have more. Some mothers received nothing today. You received something from a lovely, thoughtful child. Be appreciative, and share. Lol...I love mini eggs too, but they're children.......lol. Buy them a pack tmrw.

Lovelyview · 30/03/2025 15:58

Sharing your mini eggs with your child is your mother's day gift. Why would you not want to do that?