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Mini eggs for Mother's Day.

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ChicMiss · 30/03/2025 09:51

I get a bag from my child. Who then asks to share them. No. Absolutely no. AIBU for a bit more thought? I don't like that I'm expected to share, they've gone off in a huff and my OH is also in a huff.

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SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 19:53

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 18:55

As PP has said, how about you role model sharing?

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You can role model sharing without expecting others to always share their gifts. It's also important to teach children that you're allowed to have things to yourself, especially when they are gifts.

LuckySantangelo35 · 30/03/2025 19:47

Crocsforlife · 30/03/2025 16:37

Lucky you having perfect teens

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@Crocsforlife

i wasn’t a perfect teen but I managed to get my mum a card for Mother’s Day and say ‘happy Mothers day’ to her. Did you not?

Skye99 · 30/03/2025 19:42

Pinepeak2434 · 30/03/2025 18:29

I always share my Mother’s Day chocolate with my children. I want to.

Same.

Shimmyshimmycocobop · 30/03/2025 19:30

Wow,I remember buying my parents chocolate for mothers/fathers day and then us kids waiting expectedly for them to open them, my dad didn't even like chocolate.
I always opened mine from my kids, to not share with a 6 year old is so sad 😞

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 30/03/2025 19:26

ChicMiss · 30/03/2025 10:00

6 years old. I'm just miffed that it's a gift I have to share. Yes it's mother's day but I'm having to share my gift. It would be nice to receive something that is just mine.

They're six....they like chocolate and they're SIX!

At six years old they don't think about the fact it's a gift in the same way an adult does. They chose you something you like. They were excited about it. And most people would offer round a bag of mini eggs.

Goinggreymammy · 30/03/2025 19:18

I voted YANBU by mistake... I got a box of Lindt balls from my daughter and we were all delighted to have one after dinner. I've used one as a bribe for my son to practise his music even.
Why wouldn't you share with your daughter?

Lovelyview · 30/03/2025 19:09

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:24

Why does buying them make a difference if they still won't be alone?

I just don't see what is wrong with someone wanting to have something to themselves, especially when it is a gift.

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It's a gift from a child. Why wouldn't you share it? How could eating chocolate by yourself be better than sharing the chocolate with a six year old? I'm very confused by this.

Inastatus · 30/03/2025 19:06

YABU OP. Honestly just grow up!

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 18:55

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:46

I might share sweets with a child watching a film on a Saturday afternoon as an example but then that wouldn't be a gift that was bought for me.

There's a difference.

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As PP has said, how about you role model sharing?

keswickgirl · 30/03/2025 18:51

ChicMiss · 30/03/2025 10:00

6 years old. I'm just miffed that it's a gift I have to share. Yes it's mother's day but I'm having to share my gift. It would be nice to receive something that is just mine.

I’m sorry OP but you sound as though you’re a 6 year old yourself!

You’re a grown up! you can go down to the garage and buy ten bags of mini eggs and scoff them all yourself any day you like. Is it really such a big deal?!

Talk about unnecessary drama. How about you just role model sharing for your young child? Deary me.

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 18:48

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:46

I might share sweets with a child watching a film on a Saturday afternoon as an example but then that wouldn't be a gift that was bought for me.

There's a difference.

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Nah, it’s weird!

You would sit in front of your child and not share chocolate because it’s a “gift”.

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:46

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 18:41

What a very warped sense of behaviour!

I won’t share my sweets with my child…. to teach her a lesson.

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I might share sweets with a child watching a film on a Saturday afternoon as an example but then that wouldn't be a gift that was bought for me.

There's a difference.

AthWat · 30/03/2025 18:44

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:43

I'm not ignoring your points, I just don't agree with them.

If someone wants to share their gift, that's absolutely fine. It's their gift and they can do what they like with it.

No one is entitled to their gift though and I believe it is important to teach a child that, even when it is mini eggs.

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Yes, addressed that, at least twice. Do you really want me to do it again?

Butchyrestingface · 30/03/2025 18:44

ChicMiss · 30/03/2025 10:00

6 years old. I'm just miffed that it's a gift I have to share. Yes it's mother's day but I'm having to share my gift. It would be nice to receive something that is just mine.

Is there a missing '4' before that '6'? Is it your 46 yo child you don't want to share with? If so, you might have more of a point but even then ...

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:43

AthWat · 30/03/2025 18:40

Yeah, I thought as much. You are just repeating yourself, and it serves no purpose for me to also repeat all the points I have made that you are just ignoring. Nothing more I can do.

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I'm not ignoring your points, I just don't agree with them.

If someone wants to share their gift, that's absolutely fine. It's their gift and they can do what they like with it.

No one is entitled to their gift though and I believe it is important to teach a child that, even when it is mini eggs.

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 18:41

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:39

Of course it is. A child at that age does need to start to learn that excitement is about the person liking their gift, it's about the feeling of giving to others etc not about waiting around in hopes that they will share their gift.

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What a very warped sense of behaviour!

I won’t share my sweets with my child…. to teach her a lesson.

AthWat · 30/03/2025 18:41

Balloonney · 30/03/2025 18:39

It's fine to have some things for yourself.

Of course it is. Buy as many bags of mini eggs as you like, and fill your boots.

AthWat · 30/03/2025 18:40

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:36

Because I share with my children a lot of the time. They need to understand that sometimes mum is allowed things to herself, especially when a gift is bought just for her.

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Yeah, I thought as much. You are just repeating yourself, and it serves no purpose for me to also repeat all the points I have made that you are just ignoring. Nothing more I can do.

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:39

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 18:29

Wow! You think it’s ok not to share with a child that’s “bought” you that, so is excited?

Weird!

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Of course it is. A child at that age does need to start to learn that excitement is about the person liking their gift, it's about the feeling of giving to others etc not about waiting around in hopes that they will share their gift.

Balloonney · 30/03/2025 18:39

It's fine to have some things for yourself.

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:36

AthWat · 30/03/2025 18:27

If your mind, on being given a bag of mini eggs by your daughter, runs along the lines of

"Great, I'll wait until everyone has gone to bed so I can eat all these"

then you should ask yourself why it didn't run

"Great, I'll open these and share them with my daughter. Hmm, actually I like mini eggs, but that's ok, I can buy myself some more tomorrow."

If you still don't know why it's a problem, I doubt I will be able to help.

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Because I share with my children a lot of the time. They need to understand that sometimes mum is allowed things to herself, especially when a gift is bought just for her.

IWillAlwaysBeinaClubWithYouin1973 · 30/03/2025 18:31

How do we know anything there? Op has disappeared, prob buried under mini eggs, we dont know if the child got this specially for mummy or if the DH is an arse and just chucked it at the child and said give yer mum this, or if it was meant to be lighthearted - we have no clue!

Pinepeak2434 · 30/03/2025 18:29

I always share my Mother’s Day chocolate with my children. I want to.

Bitofanchange · 30/03/2025 18:29

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 17:40

Mums are generally rarely allowed things for themselves, surely if any day they can have something for themselves, that day is today?

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Wow! You think it’s ok not to share with a child that’s “bought” you that, so is excited?

Weird!

AthWat · 30/03/2025 18:27

SouthLondonMum22 · 30/03/2025 18:24

Why does buying them make a difference if they still won't be alone?

I just don't see what is wrong with someone wanting to have something to themselves, especially when it is a gift.

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If your mind, on being given a bag of mini eggs by your daughter, runs along the lines of

"Great, I'll wait until everyone has gone to bed so I can eat all these"

then you should ask yourself why it didn't run

"Great, I'll open these and share them with my daughter. Hmm, actually I like mini eggs, but that's ok, I can buy myself some more tomorrow."

If you still don't know why it's a problem, I doubt I will be able to help.

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