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To think that people pretend not to understand obesity

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Mezzoprezzo · 30/03/2025 08:49

After 30 plus years of failed diets I've recently started on mounjaro. Because I've placed an order and spent weeks searching stuff about weight loss medication, my Facebook feed is full of adverts from suppliers, many of which use vlogs from real clients who have lost weight. And the vast majority of comments are along the lines of, couldn't you just eat less, haven't you heard of exercise, why not just stop eating crap etc. Surely people are faking ignorance to have the fun of fat bashing. Obesity is rife! Everyone knows someone who struggles with their weight and who talks openly about it. I and every other obese person I know have tried every diet under the sun. Walk into any gym and you'll see a fair number of larger people trying bloody hard. And I know someone's going to reply to this post by talking about an obese friend who they once saw eating an entire packet of biscuits. Well numerous times I've given in to the overwhelming urge to do that too. And hated myself afterwards. It's part of the horrible condition. People have got eyes and ears and they seriously know full bloody well how hard obese people try to lose weight. They just pretend not to so they can have the fun of hating.

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WateryBottle · 30/03/2025 09:20

MesmerisingMuon · 30/03/2025 09:15

Good luck with your weight loss.

Unfortunately most people are over weight due to denial about what they actually eat and the type of exercise they do.

My best mate was about 3 stone over weight and said she tried every diet, exercises, healthy food etc... after a couple of days helping her out when her DH was away she was right- she did eat healthy food and we did loads of walking, but... she does no cardiovascular exercise and her portion sizes were HUGE. She made us dinner both nights and I ate half what she did.

She has adjusted portion sizes and is about 1 stone down now, aiming to lose the 3 stone over a year.

This is exactly the problem. I don’t mean this to get at you mesmerisingmuon but surely you realise most obese people don’t have the ability to just eat smaller portion sizes? That there is deep psychology and addiction in play which affects people’s ability to control what they eat?

SallyWD · 30/03/2025 09:19

Looking at this objectively I see the big picture - I think our society is now geared towards making people fat. It's so many different factors combined, not just one thing. The availability and convenience of UPFs, the fact that so many people have very sedentary jobs and lives, are two of the main reasons in my mind.

Cunningfungus · 30/03/2025 09:18

Middleagedstriker · 30/03/2025 08:55

I agree. They also don't seem to understand that the food industry is literally geared up to producing products that tap into and feed addiction.

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Also - The current obesity crisis begins in childhood and is strongly correlated with lower socioeconomic status and single-parent household. So much more likely to be the children of women facing huge social and financial disadvantage.

Obesity in all its “forms” is massively complex and reducing it to “eat less and move more” is both ignorant and futile.

Good luck @Mezzoprezzo I’m rooting for you!

JjaneEeyre · 30/03/2025 09:16

I'm not obese, but I am overweight by BMI, though steady at that weight. I have to devote a lot of conscious thought to not eating all the things I want to eat, having small portions etc.. I eat pretty healthily and I'm still hungry a lot, to lose weight I'd have to be hungry all the time. I wonder whether other people have more or less willpower on this?

In other areas I do have willpower, eg I find it quite easy to save money. But I know people who find it a lot harder to resist the urge to buy things they don't need for example. Or alcohol - that holds no appeal for me. But food is always on my mind.

MesmerisingMuon · 30/03/2025 09:15

Good luck with your weight loss.

Unfortunately most people are over weight due to denial about what they actually eat and the type of exercise they do.

My best mate was about 3 stone over weight and said she tried every diet, exercises, healthy food etc... after a couple of days helping her out when her DH was away she was right- she did eat healthy food and we did loads of walking, but... she does no cardiovascular exercise and her portion sizes were HUGE. She made us dinner both nights and I ate half what she did.

She has adjusted portion sizes and is about 1 stone down now, aiming to lose the 3 stone over a year.

Mounjaroversary · 30/03/2025 09:10

Food addiction is real, people are more prone to addiction than others, some people can eat whatever they want and stay slim. Whereas others can't.
I'm down nearly 5 stone after a year on MJ, best decision I ever made

NorthernGirl1981 · 30/03/2025 09:02

Who is eligible for MJ on the NHS? Do you have to be a certain weight/BMI?

And are people who don’t fit the NHS criteria able to buy it with no questions asked?

Mezzoprezzo · 30/03/2025 08:58

Jubaju · 30/03/2025 08:56

Good luck on your weight loss :)
best thing I’ve done, I’ve loved MJ, I’m down nearly 6st 😳

Amazing! Thank you, I'm feeling very positive.

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FortyElephants · 30/03/2025 08:57

They aren't pretending, they genuinely believe for a number of reasons. Well done on starting Mj, changed my life

Jubaju · 30/03/2025 08:56

Good luck on your weight loss :)
best thing I’ve done, I’ve loved MJ, I’m down nearly 6st 😳

Summer2025 · 30/03/2025 08:55

I had an obese friend who did tell me BMI was not indicative at all and fit men here prefer bigger girls (so they have something to hold onto) so she likes being large. I do think some people don't mind being large which is up to them. I have seen her consume breakfast, then mcdonalds chicken nuggets, Greg's sausage roll and a full packed lunch of noodles all in one sitting, then go onto to eat a full dinner to maintain her weight. She often pats her stomach in satisfaction.

Middleagedstriker · 30/03/2025 08:55

I agree. They also don't seem to understand that the food industry is literally geared up to producing products that tap into and feed addiction.

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