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Is he a knobhead for not picking me up?

158 replies

WTF99 · 30/03/2025 00:00

Would you expect your DP to pick you up from the train station when you've been away for the weekend (with my, not our, daughter) and you've a mile to walk to get to his house where your car is parked

He said he was too busy WFH to take 15 mins out to pick me up.

OP posts:
saltandvinegarchipsticks · 30/03/2025 00:14

I mean, if he was working, he was at work. So I’d have walked or got a taxi, it’s not far.

TennesseeStella · 30/03/2025 00:13

No, I wouldn't expect to be picked up. I'm an independent adult well able to sort out my own life logistics.

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 30/03/2025 00:08

Was there a reason you couldn't walk? A mile would take about 20 minutes.

I wouldn't expect to be picked up if he was working. If I couldn't walk or it was raining I'd get a taxi.

TeapotTitties · 30/03/2025 00:07

I couldn't pop out of work to give someone a lift, my boss would have a fit.

Were there no taxis?

FurFangsPawsAndClaws · 30/03/2025 00:06

It depends, is he doing a job where he can just take 15 minutes or is monitored by his employer? He is working not just sitting at home doing nothing.

It was pouring down with heavy rain where I am today and it wouldn’t have been a pleasant walk but if the weather was ok then a mile would only take me 20 minutes to walk so I probably wouldn’t even ask my DP to stop working to pick me up.

Crinkle77 · 30/03/2025 00:05

If he had a meeting then fair enough not to come get you. Also depends on his manager and how flexible they are about taking time out during the working day.

FuckssakeMulder · 30/03/2025 00:05

YABU. He was working.

Goldenboysmum · 30/03/2025 00:03

If it was daylight I'd mayne just walk, but not if it was dark.

Although if he was working, why not just get a taxi? Which is probably what I'd do regardless of daylight/nighttime.