Is he a knobhead for not picking me up?

Agree. My old man would have arranged his work so he could pick me up no matter I am capable of walking the mile. I do the same for him.

To be fair, he prioritises me in everything which is why I married him. He's a good 'un. Easy on the eye too : )

Time to have a rethink OP. If this was a one off in an otherwise great relationship then, ok but it's clearly not. Vent here if you wish but if you are regularly left feeling low priority, leave.

In his position I probably would have offered and taken it as my break. Particularly if you had a heavy case with you. If he knew in advance he could have planned. I am wondering if many men would think to offer and maybe you should have just asked?

So it sounds like you wanted him to offer and it was during the working day. So no I don't think he is being unreasonable. If he had an office job you would not expect this of a partner.
If it was late at night then I would understand your upset that he wasn't concerned about your safety, but as an adult in the daytime for what is a 20 mins walk then I don't think he in being particularly unkind.

I might not ‘expect’ him to pick me up, but I know that unless he was in a meeting that he couldn’t get out of, he’d pick me up. I’d go so far as to say he’d probably join the meeting from the car if needed

So are you thinking of leaving him then?

I don’t blame you for being miffed. You’d had a long day and you were hoping he’d have missed you enough to want to make the final leg of your journey a little bit easier. You were hoping he’d take a 15 minute break, not a five hour round trip from the airport or something!
You said there’s been other issues, so maybe time to have a think. Hope you had a lovely break with your daughter.

He could have picked you up. Sometimes people don’t think, but yes I would think that I clearly wasn’t a priority. I’d have just got into my car and drove off as he was so busy with work (not sure if you did call in to say hi, but hope you didn’t bother).

Your updates clarify that you didn't actually ASK him, so this is a moot point.

You also imply you're with your daughter at the station in your OP and, again, your updates clarify you were alone.

You would get a different response if you communicated clearly, both in real life and on Mumsnet!

DH and I always ask each other but sometimes the timings don't work out and we just get a cab. He was working tbf, not always easy to get out

YABU.

15 min would equal a 30 minute trip there and back for your partner @WTF99

I would have arranged a taxi/uber or walked.

IMHO, It is not a reflection on whether you're "cherished" or not.

But if not being fetched home from the train station irks you sufficiently to start a thread then I suspect it is indicative of a wider, perhaps more serious problem within the relationship .

He was probably busy hanging the washing out as we all know that's what people WFH do with their day

You left your car at his.
Were you planning to stay at his for dinner / stay over that evening?
Because if not then it sounds a little bit like you were using him as a car parking service and a taxi when going on holiday without him, then complaining about not being cherished.

It depends on the job really. If yoy know for certain that he can and does have flexible working so he could take a 15-30 minute break then maybe.
It would have been a nice thing to do. But WFH is still working and if he was at a job on site somewhere nearby I'm pretty sure most people wouldn't expect someone to leave the premises in the middle of a working day. It's a WFH special where people seems to assume more flexibility and some people don't have it.
And tbh, I think the attitude is probably not helping the general anti WFH people are getting lately. Hard to argue with bosses that you are just as efficient at home if you also want to take time out the working day whenever it suits you.

Of course- with jobs that have flexible hours then that's different.

I suspect I'm not sufficiently important.....

You sound unrealistically entitled. A bit of forward planning might have helped.

Was it really 15 mins door to door that he would have needed to take out of work? What if he needed to get on a work call, didn't you allow for that?

if I need DH to pick me up from somewhere I certainly wouldn't just ring him up and expect him to drop everything. He isn't a taxi company. I'd have had a conversation in advance to find out if it was convenient so he could plan it into his day, not drop it on him suddenly.

dont people talk to each other any more?

Sometimes I drop off/pick up from work etc especially if it's raining as partner has to leave car a 10 mins walk away from work but I can drop by the door. It takes way longer than 15 mins (assuming 5 mins to get there on time, 5 mins wait as they can't always get out bang on time, another 5 mins to drive home). By the time I've found keys, coat, shoes it's a good 5 if not 10 mins, then we have a cup of tea when we get back. It ends up being my lunch break for the day. That aside, we work around it and it's one of the benefits of working from home or being able to get away early from the office and work in the evening at home.
Is the issue really that your partner didn't prioritize you / didn't seem to have missed you as much as you think they should have done?

The reality is usually somewhere in between. I’m stacked at work this week and have done 8am-10pm most days wfh. Barely had time to eat let, alone collect someone from the station. When I’m less busy I’d do it in a heartbeat. But also, some people are tracked quite closely wfh, whilst others aren’t.

To answer your initial post, I think you’re not unreasonable to ask, and he’s not unreasonable to say no if he’s too busy. I’d have got a cab if I didn’t fancy the walk.

f he is working in the private sector then he will most be genuinely working, when wfh.

My DH would always collect me if he could.....always. He would organised his work around it.

Once, he stayed up late to pick me up from the train station, even though he had to be up for work 4 hours later as he would rather get me and know I was safe.

He would never make me feel unimportant.

If this is the only thing he’s done wrong, then you need to get a grip. But I suspect it’s not?

But it's not hard to understand that, even in flexible jobs where people are measured by results/deadlines not presenteeism, that the work culture might dictate that people are contactable/at their desk and working between certain hours.

Most workplaces will have people with a reputation for never answering a call, always popping out etc and it this will be noticed, so it's wise to not be one of those people especially when it's for a non essential task like collecting an adult partner so they don't have to walk a short distance.

It’s very difficult to know how easy it is for someone to take 15 minutes out at any given time. Do they have a deadline/ are they coaching someone else/ do they have a meeting they need to prepare for/ do that need to be around for someone to ask questions to/ are they in the middle of something which isn’t easy to break from.

Depends on the role, such as phone based jobs where you are dealing with external customers, it is usually heavily monitored.

Breaks are also usually scheduled in advance and would require special permission to change the time, bearing in mind, if 1 person requests a change, it may then have a knock on effect on other employees break times.

Of course this may not be the position of OP husband and his employer maybe flexible but some companies just are not.

If he knew well in advance what time I’d be arriving, my DH would block out the time in his schedule. Still a chance some emergency he had to deal with would arise, but I’d come before anything routine.

However, if I asked him the night before, or even just a few days, he might well not be able to rearrange things. He wouldn’t jeopardize his reputation at work by messing people around or missing an important meeting to save me a 20 minute walk. And I wouldn’t want him to.

I'd say unchivalrous and less than best respect from a cohabiting domestic partner.

However, I'd ask you: did you phone/text ahead to advise the ETA of the train you were on? Did you give him much of a chance to take a 15-20 minute break at the time you needed him.

Maybe you both need better communication.

You've been away for a few days, not a few months. I wouldn't expect my husband to be so overcome with joy at me returning home from a few days away that he must drop everything to meet me at the train station a mile away.

It honestly really fucks me off when people make the assumption that just because I'm home I must be available when I'm working. I have a lot of flexibility but that doesn't mean I'm not busy.