Is he a knobhead for not picking me up?

This!! Op felt the need to make a point that it was HER daughter not their daughter so I assumed she was talking about a toddler or small child and that she probably had to lug a push chair and kiddy bags about with a small tired child who was throwing a tantrum because they didn’t want to walk until I saw her update that it was her adult daughter 😂.

She's been away for a few days, not months on end.

I don’t think the issue is that ‘you’re’ not important enough, I imagine if there was an actual need, he’d have been flexible, but a grown adult walking a mile, doesn’t really seem like something that meets this criteria. It’s a little bit dramatic to expect this level of welcome after a weekend away, you’ve not just done a tour of duty with the armed forces.

Depends what the work is, but wfh is often stuff that needs concentration and focus. dH's work requires detailed reading and checking of legal documents, comparing different drafts, making sure a clause hasn't been changed or missed out.

It would be very distracting to take a random break from it halfway through, and very difficult to get back into it again afterwards.

Also, it's unlikely to be just 15 minutes, you would have wanted to chat about your break, maybe gone in for a cup of tea as well. It could well have stretched into an hour. He may have been up against a deadline.

YABABU

The other thing is that there's such a thing as communication and planning ahead.

You usually know roughly what time you're travelling back/when your partner will be arriving back. You also know whether you'll need extra help or not (if it's late, if you have a child and bags etc). Meanwhile your partner will know if he's available at that time or not. So you communicate and sort things out ahead of time. None of this should ever need to be sorted last-minute unless something totally unforeseen has happened.

This post is more about why WFH is really not working and everybody knows it, but people continue to pretend it is not the case.

Working from home is still working. It’s not as flexible as people believe.

This.

Mixed. My DH works from home about half the time, and I know he'd pick me up if he could. That 'could' means not if on a conference call, which he's frequently on and can't just disappear from, or on a tight deadline.

WFH is no different from working in an office in our house, and that means we can't just necessarily 'pop out' to do things like this.

If you had say 3 miles to walk, a small child and lots of bags to carry then I’d understand a bit more. But a weekend away with an adult daughter then no YABU. And as pp have suggested there are things called taxis. People can’t just leave work to come and pick you up. What would you do if he was working in an office? You just assume he can leave work because he works from home.

Quite frankly, you sound like hard work. If your partner was at work in an office, would you ask him to pick up up if you were 15 mins away and then get the hump if he said no?

You didn’t need to be picked up. You wanted to be picked up and prioritised over work. There’s a difference and I don’t think he’s being unreasonable by not dropping his work to give you a lift home.

If you were genuinely in need of collecting, would he come? Do you think he would’ve picked you up if you were in peril or a sticky situation?

I think that's setting the bar pretty high and at a level many people wouldn't even want. The dynamic you describe I would find a bit icky and almost paternalistic.

Laughably, in one of the OP's updates, her child is an adult, so not even having to drag a tired child along (although of course taxis are still the answer if OP didn't want to walk)

Sometimes my dh drives to collect me if he's at home. Sometimes he can't. I guess it depends on what he was working on in that moment and how he communicated that to you.

I'm not convinced that willingness to give lifts is entirely indicative of a partner's generosity and considerateness, or that wanting to focus on work even when the boss would probably understand you nipping out for a bit is indicative of that either. It might mean something, but it might not.

My DH always always wants to give people lifts, and wants me to give our kids lifts when they are teens/20s. Lifts seem symbolic for him, in that he would go pick someone up from the station even though it meant driving through rush hour traffic to get there, which actually means his passenger takes LONGER to get home with him than if they took the bus, due to restrictions on cars in city centre! He just thinks it's nice to be picked up.

I don't see it that way. I am entirely practical. We live in a city and it's usually possible for people to get places under their own steam. But I do make an effort in other ways, such as making a special meal for someone who's tired or for my adult child whom I haven't seen for a while.

Likewise, it drives me absolutely mad to interrupt my work if it can be avoided, because I like to focus. And maybe I do care excessively about looking professional and appearing committed to work, but that's how I am. I don't think it makes me a less committed partner. I have practically levitated out of my work chair to rush to hospital to be with my DH when he had a minor fall. But giving him a lift when he could walk? Nah.

Gosh this kind of petulance would infuriate me in a partner.

To be clear, if I'm in the middle of a busy working day, no, you're not more important than the mountain of work I have to get through. No, you're not the priority when you're just a mile away and perfectly capable of travelling that under your own steam. It wouldn't cross my mind to pick DP up in that situation.

I'm not monitored at work but I am usually busy. On account of being at work! If I was working on back-to-back-to-back reports with deadlines looming for each, I would be absolutely livid if DP stamped his foot and said he didn't feel important because I wouldn't prioritise him over them.

Op even working from home people need the loo, they need to have a drink and 15 could be one of those moments.
Unless he was on a call or taking a call I think it's a little mean. I assume it's not a regular occurrence and you don't generally put on him for stuff.

If you can’t be bothered to read all the OP’s posts before posting, expect to look like an arse.

You sound like hard work tbh. And petulant.

Yesterday I walked to my office that's 1.1 miles I then walked to another building for a meeting that was 0.6 miles, I was there for 3 hours, after that I only had a couple hours of the day left and had some sensitive calls to make so decided to walk home and work from there rather than go back to a noisy open plan office I walked 1.4 miles home (whole route for the day is like an angled u shape) , DH was off I didn't even think about calling him to pick me up, or asking him to drop me off they are all short distances.

When I got back I was working, DH went and did the school run, got DS ready and took him to his swimming lesson, because I was working. You could say I could've done pick up or would only have taken 15-20 minutes, but I was working and had things to do.

If it was dark or rainy or my child was very tired then it would be nice to get a lift, especially if I'd asked. Depends what his job is as to whether he can take time out without work being affected though.

Not normally, no.

Eww. You sound like a spoilt princess. I guess when he’s sacked for “popping out for 15 mins to collect you” next time, you’ll come on here and moan that he didn’t make his job a priority to pay the bills.

you’re a grown adult, make your own way back.

Hard to say. Too many variables @WTF99 But my DH would very likely have dropped everything to come pick me up. Though if he wasn't expecting it, and he was in the middle of something, he'd probably whinge a bit. 😆 Then again, so would I. That said though, if it was only 1 mile, I would very likely just walk, unless it was dark, and/or a very lonely pathway back to my car. OR I had loads of shit to carry. Hope you're OK now!

This, and I also agree with a PP in that even if you are able to pop out, you should save asking work for favours for more important things.

The more times you do it for trivial reasons, the more likely it will be refused/become the time that starts to be noticed in a negative manner by management when you need to leave work for a short while.