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To think a kids birthday party shouldn't descend into a boozefest

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CowboyJoanna · 29/03/2025 21:55

Living a couple doors down from me is a family of 5 (parents and 3 kids), the youngest kid (about 4 I reckon) had his birthday party today. When I say it's a birthday party, it's a proper shindig. They're a very unpleasant family (police are always round, dad has a criminal record and the eldest son has been nicked a fair few times for anti social behaviour) but the mum is a very popular figure in the estate because she owns a nail bar. They have a very big family and this woman seems to be the 'heart and soul' of it so to speak, so if theres any parties or family gettogethers the clan all gather THERE. Anyway the estate's blocked up with cars all the way down with relatives and friends piling into the house and just leaving cars blocking over the timid neighbours' driveways (they've wisely not parked over ours or some of the scarier figures on this street, let's just say we take no prisonersGrin).

They hired a bouncy castle, had the pump going since 11 this morning with the music blaring. Half the town's worth of relatives and kids piled into the house, and all day I've heard nonstop music. The sound of kids shouting/screaming/swearing on the bouncy castle lasted until about 5 until the "little shits" were called in (mother's words not mine). Some of the kids went home with their parents and I thought the party would be over. But nope. It was just over for the kids.

The music has carried on, all the adults have stayed outside but got even louder. The women are cackling like witches, men gobbing off. Clearly rowdy with booze. It's now nearly 10 at night and the music is still going, and as I speak a bunch of shirtless middle aged men are bouncing on the bouncy castleConfused.

My kids are tired, they cant sleep, and we cant do anything but pray it ends before 3am because the police dont want to know and if we go over ourselves we'd probably be lucky if we still had our kneecaps. But im just thinking to myself, this is a little kid's birthday party and surely this is purely tasteless isnt it?

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ThePoshUns · 29/03/2025 22:08

It’s not really impacting on you though is it? It’s a Saturday night, still quite early. Let it go.

CowboyJoanna · 29/03/2025 22:07

I shouldve put this on my post but the family have clan gatherings every 3 weeks and they always go on to about 2am at the earliest.

DH gets crabby because sometimes they'll be shouting at one another on the street in early hours of the morning.

Im not a total mishog there's nothing wrong with having a party for your kids thats great. I've done parties for my kids before. Maybe have a wine or a beer afterwards when the kids are in bed that's fine.

But it's the music pounding so loud you can hear it with all the windows shut. Its the aggressive swearing and screaming in early hours so the whole neighbourhood can hear them I take issue with. Big burly grown men jumping and playfighting on a bouncy castle (they're scaring my DDs Sad).

I just think to myself its tacky and completely inconsiderate of your neighbours.

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IPM · 29/03/2025 22:06

Anyway the estate's blocked up with cars all the way down with relatives and friends piling into the house and just leaving cars blocking over the timid neighbours' driveways (they've wisely not parked over ours or some of the scarier figures on this street, let's just say we take no prisoners

But you're too worried about your kneecaps to ask them to turn the music down?

Hottchoc · 29/03/2025 22:03

Lovely to have such a close family. They sound happy.

Itisjustmyopinion · 29/03/2025 22:03

The kids party was this afternoon and now the adults are letting their hair down. It’s not a crime as much as you want it to be

Hayley1256 · 29/03/2025 21:59

Let them be, it's not even 11pm on a Saturday night yet! Most parties with adult family members and kids will normally end with the kids going to bed or chilling and playing with each other whilst the adults socialise.

Thestarsinthesky · 29/03/2025 21:58

Ah let them be! Sounds like the older days when everyone gets together and has fun… maybe pop over yourself!