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Friend posting things to my parents house

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HattenO · 29/03/2025 15:29

Hi all. I'm British but we now live in north of France (my DP is french).

I have a friend here who is Canadian but also lives here in France. She is aware we are going over to the UK to visit and stay with my parents over Easter. She asked me a couple of weeks ago if she could order something online from the UK which can only be delivered to a UK address and if she could get it posted to my parents house and I could collect it for her when we are all over at easter. No worries I said, I'll let my parents know and I'm sure that's fine. I gave her the address to use.

She replied later that day to say thank you and she had ordered 3 things which would be delivered separately. Okay that fine I said (although she hadn't told me it was 3 things beforehand). My parents let me know when each of the packages had been delivered - then messaged me to day a 4th had come.Before I got round to messaging my friend about this - she messaged me saying I hope you don't mind but I ordered just one more thing. I said yes I know it's already arrived you have all 4 things at my parents already. Today my dad messaged me to inform me that yesterday a 5th parcel arrived for her and today a 6th parcel. I knew absolutely nothing about it. My dad is pretty unhappy. He feels like his house is being used as a parcel delivery Depot for someone he doesn't even know so now he's narky with me.

How unreasonable am I being to be feeling bloody annoyed with this friend and how would you handle it. Truth be told I'm not very good at asserting myself in situations like this and I don't want to be impolite.

Thanks in advance

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Foodieasfuck · 29/03/2025 17:13

Tell her to stop and ask her what 3 parcels she would like you to prioritise in the event you can’t fit all 6 in your luggage.
Your friend is very cheeky!

Cherrysoup · 29/03/2025 17:12

Tell her no more, you’re flying and she’s taking the piss! I thought you were driving! Cheeky cow.

Needspaceforlego · 29/03/2025 17:12

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How else is she getting them back to France? Floo powder?

commonsense61 · 29/03/2025 17:11

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ColinOfficeTrolley · 29/03/2025 17:11

Absolutely taking the piss to the max!!!! This is cheeky fuckery at its finest!!!

Needspaceforlego · 29/03/2025 17:11

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 29/03/2025 16:47

Wouldn’t bother me one bit, it’s just parcels, and a savvy way of doing it too, but then everyone is different and if it bothers you and your parents sooooo much, just refuse to take any more.

What if it illegal stuff?

What if it's Ann Summers gear that your carting through customs?

What if you get stung for import duties?

Many reasons to be wary of what you are being asked to carry.

MyNewCat · 29/03/2025 17:10

She really is a CF!

If I were you, I would say that your Dad is not happy about being her personal postal depot & will refuse to accept any more items. That you had agreed reluctantly agreed 3, but 6 is unacceptable & she is taking liberties.

i would then say that you have very little room in your luggage, as you are flying, so she will have to pay for an extra bag & any excess baggage costs, if applicable - DO NOT give her any of her items until she pays you.

Acc0untant · 29/03/2025 17:10

They don't all have to fit in your luggage, you have a choice here to just say "you ordered much more than agreed so please let me know which parcel you want me to bring back. You originally said one parcel so that's all I've kept space for."

Needspaceforlego · 29/03/2025 17:08

retirementislooming · 29/03/2025 16:47

I can see why you might find this irritating, as you need to squish these items into your case, but blimey, why on earth is your Dad bothered? All he has to do is throw these packages into the room you'll be sleeping in. He sounds like a right Victor Meldrew.

Probably the general inconvenience of taking things in for a stranger to him. In MN world people get hacked off at taking stuff in for neighbours.

Possibly also the worry that someone is taking credit out on their address.

SalfordQuays · 29/03/2025 17:07

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 29/03/2025 16:47

Wouldn’t bother me one bit, it’s just parcels, and a savvy way of doing it too, but then everyone is different and if it bothers you and your parents sooooo much, just refuse to take any more.

@Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday so it wouldn’t bother you if you had to leave some of your own stuff behind in order to fit all her stuff in your suitcase to bring back to France?

BruceAndNosh · 29/03/2025 16:59

And also we are flying over not driving so yes - all these bloody parcels have to fit in our luggage
What!
Tell her you'll bring over the original item you agreed to and the rest have to be collected by her next time she is in uk

wizzywig · 29/03/2025 16:57

Are they small things like an eyeliner or chunky things?

BakelikeBertha · 29/03/2025 16:56

Has she actually told you what she's bought OP?

Groundhogday2025 · 29/03/2025 16:55

If you don’t like conflict just say exactly what you said about your luggage. That you’re flying so have got limited space, and didn’t realise it was going to be so many parcels. Also ask what’s in them because some things aren’t safe to go in the hold (and you don’t fancy becoming an inadvertent drug mule - although don’t say that bit necessarily).

ginasevern · 29/03/2025 16:48

I learnt a long time ago that no good deed goes unpunished and this is a classic example. Personally I'd return the parcels to sender and tell her that you weren't prepared to take unknown goods through customs. Cheeky cow.

retirementislooming · 29/03/2025 16:47

I can see why you might find this irritating, as you need to squish these items into your case, but blimey, why on earth is your Dad bothered? All he has to do is throw these packages into the room you'll be sleeping in. He sounds like a right Victor Meldrew.

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 29/03/2025 16:47

Wouldn’t bother me one bit, it’s just parcels, and a savvy way of doing it too, but then everyone is different and if it bothers you and your parents sooooo much, just refuse to take any more.

Berryslacks · 29/03/2025 16:46

Yes @Winter2020 I want to know what’s in those parcels as well. Very nosey of me I know.

Mudkipper · 29/03/2025 16:46

Do you know what is in these parcels? There can't be that many companies don't deliver to France. I'm guessing she's too mean to pay the extra postage.

godmum56 · 29/03/2025 16:45

ZebedeeDougalFlorence · 29/03/2025 16:40

She's put you in a very difficult situation. What are you going to say when they ask you at the airport if anyone has asked you to carry a package for them?

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nope. The OP has put herself in that situation!

Hdjdb42 · 29/03/2025 16:44

I'd message back saying, "Hi, I'm sorry but you've ordered too many things. Please do t order anymore parcels, as my dad's not very happy about it! Also I'm not going to be able to bring them all back on the plane! I'll bring 3 with me. Let me know which 3 you want bringing back." Perhaps this will teach her a lesson!

TomatoSandwiches · 29/03/2025 16:43

Tell her you and your parents generously agreed to take in 3 parcels so now she needs to let you know which 3 of 6 she would like for you to bring back and she will have to stop using your parents address and to sort out the other 3 parcels without any inconvenience to you or your parents.

Brass fucking neck or what.

Needspaceforlego · 29/03/2025 16:42

I'd also agree that you need to check what is in these parcels.
And really triple check just incase their is anything dodgy in the lining of the items.

I honestly can't think of anything that could be delivered to the UK that couldn't be delivered to France.
I could imagine it being the other away round, suppliers who won't ship outside the EEC.

singlewhitetrashheap · 29/03/2025 16:42

She's taking the piss and can pay the import fees like the rest of us.

Winter2020 · 29/03/2025 16:41

Hi OP,
Ask your parents to open the packages and see what is in them so you can tell us.
(only half joking)

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