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To think we should bring back shame when it comes to bad life choices?

38 replies

SparklyOchreSheep · 29/03/2025 10:59

We’ve become so non-judgemental that people don’t feel accountable for their own bad decisions anymore.

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funinthesun19 · 29/03/2025 11:40

What makes you think people have become non judgemental? I think the exact opposite and they’re as judgemental as ever! Or actually even worse!

Freshflower · 29/03/2025 11:20

I don't think it's fair to shame people , some people need genuine support and love or have mental health issues that makes them pick bad choices. I don't think anyone who is say for example an eating disorder or in drug addiction enjoys or loves the life they are living, they need proper support. Yes ultimately they choose everyday that path but it's a lot more complex
Some acts ars very shameful such as hurting children, stealing from vulnerable people etc these acts the person should be ashamed of themselves

faerietales · 29/03/2025 11:14

Yeah, sounds like a great idea Hmm

5128gap · 29/03/2025 11:14

Which of your bad choices would you like to be shamed for? And what form would you like the shaming to take? We've all made them, haven't we? So start us off with an example..? If you like, we could probably even do a bit of shaming of you here on the thread!

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 29/03/2025 11:13

@SparklyOchreSheep Could you give us an example of what you mean?

Nooa · 29/03/2025 11:11

In some circumstances yes. Eg, people who happily chuck litter on the street and don't care if everyone sees them, or don't pick up dog poo, or catcalling etc. Having everyone in the vicinity turn on them and give them an earful would be really helpful.

But I think it's pointless in other circs, such as affairs. It'd be fine if the extended family and friends said they were horrified and unimpressed with the affair -haver at the time, but not helpful to continue to shame them for years afterwards, if that's what you are suggesting?

borogovia · 29/03/2025 11:05

It's much harder to change your life if you are consumed with shame.

Middleagedstriker · 29/03/2025 11:05

Yes to people who are small minded bigots. Shame on them.

PhilippaGeorgiou · 29/03/2025 11:04

You posted this on a website that thrives on shaming people (unless it happens to be themselves). Oh, the irony. Without shaming people, this site would wither and die.

malificent7 · 29/03/2025 11:03

Sorry for typos.

malificent7 · 29/03/2025 11:03

People who murder...fair play.

People who have kids with the wrong man...very unreasonable as ot can happen to us all.

Is this another benefit bashing thread?

Should we pit all people who make bad decisions in the stocks op or take awy all benefits so they starve.

Alternatively we could accept that noone is perfect and there is a natural consequence from which we hopefully learn

I bet you even make bad decisions op. You are not perfect. This judgy thread is testament to that.

TrixieFatell · 29/03/2025 11:03

Reading the title immediately made me think of Game of Thrones and Cersei being marched through the streets of kings landing with the septa chanting "shame shame" behind her.

In what way? I think there is still a lot of shame attached to bad life decisions. Personally I'm if the opinion people make mistakes, its what happens after that which makes the difference.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 29/03/2025 11:01

Yes, absolutely, we should bring back shame for those people who enjoy shaming others who make life decisions that differ from their own x