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To leave social housing to private rent.

156 replies

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 10:39

I’ve made threads about my social housing flat
Ground floor, adapted, ridiculously small kitchen and full of what they describe as “condensation”

I keep complaining, asking them for a move and I’m getting nowhere just being stuck on their allocations bidding list when their larger properties only go to homeless nominations

I am depressed, anxious, miserable and full of anger. I can’t exchange, decorating has been a waste of time as the mould has just ruined it all

Has anyone got any experience of leaving a social housing property for a private rental?

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Thelnebriati · 29/03/2025 11:25

I remember your other thread, this situation is crazy because adapted flats are like hens teeth - I don't understand why your LL doesn't offer you a different place so they can repair and let out the adapted flat to someone that actually needs it.
Have you contacted your MP?

Cottagecheeseisnotcheese · 29/03/2025 11:21

do you open the windows every single day for 10-15 minutes as well? I guess you have been told this before but fresh air really oes help a window vac can help remove the water condensation. I know it won't alter the size but if you have a life long tenancy it might be worth looking at tiny house you tube to try and things of ways of reorganising space
wall paper doesn't cause mould but wallpaper on top of mould might help it spread

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 11:15

I run a dehumidifier every day. House doesn’t go under 80% humidity.

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fromthevault · 29/03/2025 11:11

I think I remember your previous thread. Is this the place with the crappy 'wet room'? Apologies if I'm thinking of something else.

It really does suck OP. This is one of those threads that make me wish I'd won the bloody euro millions last night so I could just wave a magic money wand and sort you out!

My advice would be to not move though, sorry. Private renting is an absolute shitshow at the moment and you will have v little security.

This is the kind of issue that could do with an MN campaign really. It's appalling that you and your dc are being left in housing of this condition.

DrummingMousWife · 29/03/2025 11:10

I would move if it’s making you unwell. Life is too short to feel depressed everyday imo, and who knows what the mould is doing to your child’s lungs.

nightmarepickle2025 · 29/03/2025 11:08

Do you run a dehumidifier for the condensaation?

sunbum · 29/03/2025 11:08

Life is too short for this shit. Your daughters childhood is disapppearing fast. If you can rent somewhere less awful, I think you should (up hours).

Youagain2025 · 29/03/2025 11:07

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 10:46

I’ve made endless complaints, ombudsman, put myself on other housing register lists
I’m a single parent, I work part time and attend uni part time. The flat whilst classed as a 2 bed is ridiculously small, I’ve got weird as fuck neighbours as well

It’s also falling to bits and quite dingy tbh. It’s such hard decision x

In this situation i would not. Since your working part time and part time student. I'm making the assumption you get help with your rent via UC.

It's extremely hard to get a private rent when you reply on uc . Unless you have a guarantor. The uc rarely covers the rent and you have to top the rent up alot. Which could leave you struggling.

If you could find a private rent you could be there for just a year or 2 then the landlord may decide to sell. Or other reasons. Then you may need to find another place which may not happen due to need help via uc/low income. You could then have to go through the eviction route . End up in temporary accommodation for years .

People are being evicted left right and centre. Its not worth the risk.

Regarding the damp have you tried stripping the wall paper. Washing the damp off. And then using a couple coats of damp paint. This worked for me years ago. It never came back in the 6+ years it was there.

faerietales · 29/03/2025 11:07

I remember your previous thread and definitely think you should leave. Your flat is destroying your mental and physical health.

0ohLarLar · 29/03/2025 11:06

Ah apologies i assumed studying was the reason you were only able to work part time, as that's obviously going to lower your income/reduce what you can afford to rent.

Parispoem · 29/03/2025 11:05

This sounds such a bad situation. If you can afford it I would go for a private rental. Choose somewhere you want and like. Wishing you well.

Branleuse · 29/03/2025 11:04

in private renting as a single parent who is both studying and working PT, you will be in a worse position, not better.
Your mouldy dilapidated flat would cost twice as much, and youd be frightened to complain because they could evict you.

The grass is not greener in the world of private rentals. I can assure you.
Keep on at your housing association and also worth doing as much as you can to deal with the mould yourself, (even if you shouldnt have to) dehumidifiers etc
Your children need the stability.

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 11:04

I go to uni one night a week. It’s paid for by my work. It’s not exactly a luxury. It’s a requirement for my job.

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0ohLarLar · 29/03/2025 11:03

All you can do is work out your budget, look at local rents and decide if you can manage it. The only thing i would say is in reality, a single parent working part time is not going to be beloved of many private landlords as your income will be too low.

Can you really afford the luxury of going to uni right now? Are you near the end of the course - will it lead to significantly better pay?

If it won't, you might need to pause studies to work full time, earn more & provide for your family

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 11:03

I have. They aren’t interested. The solicitor I spoke to informed me that they cannot force them to move me, only to repair this flat. However unless by repair they mean putting an extension on it’s pointless as they do the repairs, but there’s still mould and it’s still not big enough.

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Serpentstooth · 29/03/2025 11:01

Do not leave a secure tenancy. Make as much fuss as you can for improvements

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 11:01

It’s condensation apparently. Its not as bad as some properties but it’s mostly my furniture and walls going mouldy.

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Barney16 · 29/03/2025 11:00

Have you spoken to a solicitor about a housing disrepair claim?

Sunshineandrainbow · 29/03/2025 11:00

How bad is the mould? You could contact Kwajo Tweneboa who helps people living in poor housing.

I wouldn't encourage you to leave the property

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 10:59

My MP is Angela Rayner. I have emailed her.
I’ve been battling them for 3 years now. And I don’t know how much more I can take.

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Reallyyyyyy · 29/03/2025 10:57

As hard as it is, I think I would stick it out and keep fighting. I would bite your hand off for a HA as rent is ridiculous and will get worse!

I know it ducks OP and they shouldn't leave you like this. But I would keep fighting your corner. Get some MPs on your side also.

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 10:56

Ilovethewild · 29/03/2025 10:51

Have you gone down the disrepair legal route? That at least should get repairs resolved.
why can’t you exchange? You have to consider what you are willing to compromise on? Would you move areas to get the right flat?
you can give up yr flat but not guarantee you would get another or that your next place would be better.

what changes can you make or are willing to make?

is ur issue repairs/ neighbours/size of flat/ something else? You say it’s falling to bits, are these things you are responsible for and struggling with or are repairs not being completed?

I can’t exchange cos it’s a shithole that’s not big enough for more than 1 person, it’s adapted, the kitchen has 2 cupboards.
It’s falling to bits because it’s old and it’s been made with shit cheap materials. If you google the nasty flat blocks in Pripyat it looks like one of them

I can’t move area because of school and work. I can’t compromise where there is no wriggle room. I don’t want a palace I just want something of a decent size

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bestcatlife · 29/03/2025 10:55

It's not necessarily true that you won't get another HA tenancy if you leave, in some areas social housing is being built in quite large numbers but it really depends where you are.. I wouldn't risk leaving it if I were in Manchester or Birmingham for example. I agree it's a huge decision to make. Sorry you're going through this

Do you have a local connection to any other areas? Like more rural areas or smaller towns where the chance of getting social housing is higher?

CoconutSky · 29/03/2025 10:54

I’m not disabled, it was adapted for someone previously

Whilst I’m not bedroom overcrowded I don’t have any space. DD’s room is absolutely tiny so it’s mostly used as storage for her stuff. She doesn’t like sleeping in there cos it stinks and there’s a problem with damp

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 29/03/2025 10:52

Yabu, I'm sorry girl

You'll never get another one and it's a safety net for you

It's adapted as well, so presumably you have a disability?

Are you overcrowded?

Sorry, op x