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Does it make me an awful mother…

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Ketryne · 29/03/2025 10:24

That all I was for Mother’s Day is a day of not being a mother at all?!

I have a 3.5 year old DS and 4 month old baby DD who I love immensely, but God all I want is a day off!

A night of uninterrupted sleep. A lie in. A shower that last more than 3 minutes. A whole day of not having to talk about/watch/play spider man. Not spending longer trying to get the baby to nap than the nap actually lasts for.

Yes DH is wonderful and would take them out of the house for a couple of hours (I’m breastfeeding so he can’t do much more than that), but there’s still a million jobs and a dog to walk so it’s not like I can ever revel in kid free time because I’m doing things against the clock till they get back.

I don’t regret them for a minute but if I could press a button and make them disappear for a day, I would. Is that awful?

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colourblockss · 29/03/2025 10:27

no i don’t think you’re a bad mother at all. you’re overwhelmed and burnt out like a lot of other mums. don’t beat yourself up over this, you’re only human. The fact you’re worrying about being an awful mum means you are a good mum otherwise you wouldn’t care.

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 29/03/2025 10:26

It's completely normal! I have a friend who stays in a hotel the night before Mother's Day every year and she comes home at around lunchtime.

So the night before she has an uninterrupted sleep, a lie in, a leisurely breakfast and then she comes home and they go out to lunch as a family.

Her DH does the same