I’m absolutely livid and don’t know if I’m overreacting. DH has a close mate, let’s call him Steve. Steve has been married for years, kids, the works. Well, turns out Steve has been having an affair, and DH has been covering for him.
I found out because Steve’s wife messaged me out of the blue asking if DH was with Steve on a particular night. I had no clue what she was on about, so I asked DH, and he sheepishly admitted that yes, he’d been ‘helping’ Steve by giving him an alibi. Apparently, Steve would tell his wife he was out with DH when really he was off shagging OW.
I was absolutely gobsmacked. DH insists it’s ‘not his business’ and that he was just being a mate, but I’m furious that he not only condoned it but actively helped! I told him he’s betrayed Steve’s wife just as much as Steve has, and now I’m questioning what kind of man I’m married to.
For context, DH has never given me any reason to think he’d cheat, but now I can’t help but feel differently about him. If he thinks lying and covering up an affair is fine, what does that say about him? I also feel awful for Steve’s wife should I tell her the truth?
AIBU to think DH has crossed a massive line here? Or is this just ‘lads being lads’ and I need to get over it? I’m so angry I can’t even look at him right now.
WWYD?