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Is daughter getting enough calories?

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Frolt · 28/03/2025 23:37

i have been a little concerned about dd as she has lost weight recently (a lot of girls in her year have seemed to slim down and lost that puppy weight). I asked her dad to log what she had eaten whilst staying with him today. He sent over what she ate and he thinks it’s fine for a 5 ft 2 17 yo.

I don’t!

Beans on toast (one slice of toast with butter and 4 tablespoons of beans)

1 coronation chicken breast chunk from Tesco
Two cheese strings
Two crackers with cheese (Jacob’s cracker)

3 baby potatoes
2 tablespoons of coleslaw
1 broccoli floret
2 bites of cheese and onion quiche (no crust)

Cornetto

Apparently she complained about not liking the dinner despite having wolfed it down previously.

I think it’s about 1100 calories. Her sister (a 9 yo would have eaten a similar amount).

Ex and I did not agree at all. What does he know! They have an open plan living room/kitchen and he’s sure she didn’t eat on top of this. And stayed in her room most of the day.

She seems lethargic and isn’t as sparky

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Frolt · 29/03/2025 00:03

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 29/03/2025 00:00

As a regular thing it isn’t enough no, and would indicate something is wrong

ive been tracking her eating. Had hoped it was genuinely down to the fact she had gone off my cooking. But dh reported similar amounts of food.

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theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 29/03/2025 00:00

As a regular thing it isn’t enough no, and would indicate something is wrong

Difficuldecisions · 28/03/2025 23:58

Frolt · 28/03/2025 23:53

She sorts her own breakfast annd lunch out. There is a definite behaviour change. She used to make these elaborate meals that she saw on TikTok. I rarely see her eat now. And it’s been months since I’ve seen her make pasta which was always her go to. She would always bake, try weird food combinations/recipes she had seen.

She previously would have no problem eating what the family ate for dinner, now there’s every excuse under the sun to not eat what I’ve made - too spicy, too garlicky etc.

Edited

So eating disorders are usually because they’re trying to take control in an area of their lives (restricted eating) when they can’t control it in others.

Frolt · 28/03/2025 23:56

verysmellyjelly · 28/03/2025 23:51

That’s not enough. Can you check her phone and see what she’s watching on TikTok? There’s a lot of eating disorder content on there.

Oh I did not know this!

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Frolt · 28/03/2025 23:56

Ex is being so dense. “If she had an eating disorder she wouldn’t be eating cheese and ice cream”. Give me strength!

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Frolt · 28/03/2025 23:53

Difficuldecisions · 28/03/2025 23:47

maybe her tastebuds changed
is she allowed autonomy in what she eats
Maybe give her £20 to buy what food she wants

She sorts her own breakfast annd lunch out. There is a definite behaviour change. She used to make these elaborate meals that she saw on TikTok. I rarely see her eat now. And it’s been months since I’ve seen her make pasta which was always her go to. She would always bake, try weird food combinations/recipes she had seen.

She previously would have no problem eating what the family ate for dinner, now there’s every excuse under the sun to not eat what I’ve made - too spicy, too garlicky etc.

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verysmellyjelly · 28/03/2025 23:51

That’s not enough. Can you check her phone and see what she’s watching on TikTok? There’s a lot of eating disorder content on there.

Difficuldecisions · 28/03/2025 23:47

maybe her tastebuds changed
is she allowed autonomy in what she eats
Maybe give her £20 to buy what food she wants

Frolt · 28/03/2025 23:40

She used to always snack on fruit/veggies with some sort of dip. Not anymore.

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