Mother's Day - should school do more?

This is one of the most bonkers threads I’ve read. You are being absurdly unreasonable OP. Teacher doesn’t have children therefore she doesn’t realise the preciousness of a homemade card. Fucking hell 🤣.

Buy your kid some crayons and a piece of card and you’re sorted. You can stick it in the fridge once they’re done and treasure it forever. Shame on that teacher 🙃.

It’s a partner’s job to facilitate this. Grandparents, Sunday school or clubs like brownies and beavers at a stretch.

Teachers have enough on their plates with all the challenging fallout from the increasing societal inability to actually do any parenting these days. They can’t also be held responsible for the feelings of women who made the unfortunate decision to have kids with useless men.

The thing is schools are meant to educate and 'more learning' does not take place in KS2 - they are all learning all the time from EYFS onwards. It's just that in EYFS they may learn about families, or celebrations or daffodils or kindness, and a mothers day card MIGHT fit in with the theme or it could be a fine motor skills activity.

Possibly in KS1 it could be a writing task to say what their mother does for them - something familiar for them to write about.

Whatever, no child should be making a mothers day card at school with the sole purpose of pleasing the mothers.

Most 7 year olds are creative enough to make 1 for their mum themselves. That’s If they have arts and craft supplies at home.

Absolutely not the responsibility of the school/teachers to make sure you get a Mothers Day card. They have enough to do. They are there to educate.

I know DS has made something because he ran upstairs with his bookbag yesterday. I also got an Eid card recently. Many faiths does not mean no time for handmade cards, it seems to be a reason for more of them!

Don't you get a discount at Costa?

I actually think this is vulgar! We’re talking about children, their circumstances are not in their control.

Just to clarify you would be perfectly happy to have a child upset they haven’t got a mum just so you can have a card?

As a TA in reception, it makes me kind of sad that we aren't making Mothers day cards, but in the past couple of years we have had two of our children lose their mothers (not from the same family, and one funeral was held just today). Instead we planted a flower seed and sent them home with a message saying 'Thank you for helping me grow', that way Mum still gets something and the children have the option to give it to their 'Special person'.
Personally I treasure my child's Mothers day cards etc, I waited many years to be a Mum and receiving those things was just so special.
I can see both sides but I still have my daughter and she still has her mum, and that's what's important x

Well, that escalated quickly.

Where I am, they make this stuff at nursery with a handprint and sweet message/pun or what have you for all occasions (mothers & fathers day, Easter, halloween, Xmas, etc). I also now have a child in year 1 who doesn't make anything there, didn't in reception either. Lots of family types, languages and religions in each class. I'm just happy he's excelling in school tbh, that's what they're there for.

And people say men are narcissistic no there is no reason to do this

My school has done cards again this year but I always feel bad in case there's kids in the school without a mum. I think it shouldn't be a class activity tbh for that reason

When I was a kid who didn't have a mam I had to still make a card at school which really devastated me. Get a grip of yourself.

I’m a single mum. It’s your husband’s job to make sure you get a lovely handmade card. Why are you expecting more of your child’s teacher than your own husband?

It’s my ex’s job to sort something for me. If he doesn’t bother, it doesn’t make it anyone else’s responsibility.

My kids primary do it all the way up to year 6, a Mother’s Day afternoon tea and card made in class. There are 2 children in ds’s class who don’t have mums and I do wonder how this is managed. I certainly don’t expect school to do card/event.

This is awful to read, surely it's not the teachers responsibility that you get a card from your child over thinking about children that have lost their mum's.

The school's responsibility is to teach children. Why not set your child up with craft supplies and let them make one in their own time? Or make matching parent and child cards together or something?

That's a horrible thing to say in reference to children who don't have mums.

I'd rather it caters for the child who is sitting there thinking (or saying) 'She's dead, what's the point in making a card?' than the usual MN poster complaining about not getting a bit of paper folded in half.

My Y1 child hasn't and I'm glad. There are children in the class who have lost their mums in tragic circumstances, one just after Christmas. Even without taking that into account, it's all a bit much for a made up day.

My child is in year 2 and has come home with a card. There are also two (that I know of) in the class who don’t live with their mothers. I think because of this the children are asked to make a card for a special person, not specifically their mother.

I can see why a teacher would forgo the whole thing due to politics and potential hurt feelings.

Thank you for thinking of single mums. I have had very few cards in 13 years. He can make them now but I never had anything apart from what he made at school for most of those years.

I treasured the things he did make. He did once get me a gift when the PTA ran a shop for a pound. That was lovely. I still have my keyring.

I haven't had a decent ex husband or any family who could help him with these things.

I never worried about it especially but it was so lovely when he had help at school or after school club to make something.

It’s lovely if the teachers can manage it, but they are so overworked and under resourced, I think it’s just one thing too many. Given the state of the country at the moment, the lack of Mother’s Day cards is the least of a single mum’s problems right now.

I agree that it makes sense not to make Mother’s\Father’s Day cards at school when so many children have single parents, blended families, same sex parents or may be in care or living with kinship careers. However, I am pretty sure that even when I was at school and my adult DC were little and schools did make cards for Mother’s Dau etc, it stopped around age 7 when school became more focused on maths and literacy rather than learning through play.