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To ban DP’s best friend from my house?

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LeonieJD · 28/03/2025 20:11

I’m just back from giving DP and his friend a lift into town.

This was the first time I’ve properly met him, and wow, I’m in disbelief.

They had a couple of drinks here before going out - DP’s friend was joking and asking how much I know about his ‘antics’ at Uni and in his 20’s.

Gentle ribbing turned into his friend referring to past partners as ‘whales’, saying they’d ’pull a pig’ for a laugh and then referring to one specific woman as a ‘paper bag job’ All WHILST I WAS SAT THERE!!

Then, as I reversed off the drive, I waved to a neighbour who was getting something from their car. DP’s friend tapped him on the shoulder and casually asked ‘is that the fit one with the arse?’ - he has never been to our house before so someone has clearly referenced her.

AIBU to say I never want to meet this pathetic ‘man’ again?

OP posts:
BillyBoe46 · 28/03/2025 20:23

Birds of a feather flock together.

Pleasecanyouadviseme · 28/03/2025 20:21

And your boyfriend is any better how?

NautilusLionfish · 28/03/2025 20:19

LeonieJD · 28/03/2025 20:11

I’m just back from giving DP and his friend a lift into town.

This was the first time I’ve properly met him, and wow, I’m in disbelief.

They had a couple of drinks here before going out - DP’s friend was joking and asking how much I know about his ‘antics’ at Uni and in his 20’s.

Gentle ribbing turned into his friend referring to past partners as ‘whales’, saying they’d ’pull a pig’ for a laugh and then referring to one specific woman as a ‘paper bag job’ All WHILST I WAS SAT THERE!!

Then, as I reversed off the drive, I waved to a neighbour who was getting something from their car. DP’s friend tapped him on the shoulder and casually asked ‘is that the fit one with the arse?’ - he has never been to our house before so someone has clearly referenced her.

AIBU to say I never want to meet this pathetic ‘man’ again?

And what did your dp say or do when all this was happening. Did he call his friend out? I guess not.
And his comment " ‘is that the fit one with the arse?’" sounds like it was going on from a discussion your dp had with his friend. So your dp must have talked about one of his/your neighbours being 'fit with an arse'. So if you are going to banish this awful friend, banish dp too? Surely you can see he wasn't bothered by his friend's misogynistic chatter? That your dp has definitely said similar things?

ShaunaSadeki · 28/03/2025 20:18

Your DP sounds just as awful

SoChangethenameagain · 28/03/2025 20:18

If that's what his best friend is like then that's what your P is like.
You've now got an insight into how your P and his friends behave and talk when you aren't around.
Disgusting.

SpongeKnobNoPants · 28/03/2025 20:17

Sounds like they're both a pair of dickheads tbh

arcticpandas · 28/03/2025 20:14

Kick him out with your dh since he was the one who referenced your "fit arse" neighbour and also has a long history of being a misogynistic pig apparantly.

2025willbemytime · 28/03/2025 20:14

I wouldn't want to meet the P again either..

Nosaucelikemintsauce · 28/03/2025 20:13

I would tell dh my respect for him had plummeted for giving such a mate the time of day..