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DH not home

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ditzzy · 28/03/2025 01:20

DH is out on a hobby this evening, it’s a 20 minute drive away.

He quite often nips to the pub on the way home with the others who do the hobby, and I’m usually asleep by the time he gets back, although if he doesn’t do the pub bit he would be home by 10.30pm.

I’ve just woken up randomly and he’s not here. I’ve sent him a WhatsApp which isn’t showing as “read” and shows he was last seen on WhatsApp at 11.13pm which would make sense for a leaving pub time.

I realise it would be overreacting to call the police at this point, but what do I do? I have two sleeping DDs so can’t leave the house (and don’t actually know which pub they go to so can’t drive back along his route to look) and I don’t know who else would have been there.

OP posts:
ditzzy · 28/03/2025 01:29

He’s not the type of person to go on to a club. He might have gone to a friends house (but I don’t know who’s).

The message I sent still isn’t showing as read. I was trying that instead of calling as he might be driving. But yes, common sense would be to try calling

OP posts:
Starlight7080 · 28/03/2025 01:26

Have you tried calling him ? Could he have gone to a friend's house or on to a club ? Or not the type of person?
Maybe he had broke down and waiting on assistance. And hasn't wanted to wake you up.
Hopefully he shows up soon

Isittimeformynapyet · 28/03/2025 01:25

Try phoning him?