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To have this reaction to Netflix’s Adolescence

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Marigoldsold · 27/03/2025 20:50

This show has really got me and I can’t stop thinking about it.

A show about a murder of a young girl by a young boy.

I have cried over it , I have a little boy myself - I have gone and cuddled him tight after it. The scene at the end , the very last one … I cried like a baby.

What shocked me is that those tears and sadness was for the boy. The murderer.

I don’t think that he didn’t do it , or that the victim deserved it ( obviously ! ) . I don’t think he shouldn’t be in prison etc .

I feel desperately sad that a little boy , who slept with a Teddy , liked drawing and had child’s wallpaper on his walls ended up doing that. That after he did it and his dad knew .. he still reached out to him for comfort. That he was a child .

I think it’s really opened my eyes . We always hear of horrible crimes and pray our child will never be that poor victim and do whatever we can to prevent that. But we never sit and think that actually it could be our child who does that and that is also something we could prevent and should be trying to .

i think it’s the fact the show focused on the murderer rather than the victim and that it wasn’t a child who had been abused and neglected , it wasn’t a child that had had a bad life , it wasn’t a child that was so called “ born evil , it wasn’t a child that had psychotic tendencies or was a ‘ psychopath ‘ .. he was a normal child.

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HouseMouseHouse · 27/03/2025 20:55

I feel desperately sad that a little boy , who slept with a Teddy , liked drawing and had child’s wallpaper on his walls ended up doing that. That after he did it and his dad knew .. he still reached out to him for comfort. That he was a child .

You talk about it as if it happened. It was fiction.

TheCurious0range · 27/03/2025 20:53

I work in the justice system and DH works in criminal justice mental health with young people. There no excusing the behaviour, but when you set children go to prison it's desperately sad. I've not seen the show yet feels a bit like a busman's holiday, but lots of the people in the system especially the very young ones have often experienced significant trauma and adverse childhood experiences. I don't think that character had from what I've heard, but you're not strange for feeling something for a child OP, whatever they've done.

ThatNewMoose · 27/03/2025 20:53

Everything you've said is exactly my take on it too......I've a son too and it reduced me to tears, that last scene is forever etched on my brain