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Unexpected Pregnancy. Should I tell him?

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Skysdawn · 27/03/2025 15:13

In shock right now and probably not thinking straight. I had sex 6 days after period so not a highly fertile time and I took the morning after pill the next morning. My period is late by 6 days and initially thought the morning after pill has thrown off my cycle any today I took a test and I am 1 - 2 weeks pregnant.

Do I tell him or not? We are not in a serious relationship but have been seeing eachother for a couple of years. I have never had a unexpected pregnancy a have always been very careful. I have 2 children and was not planning on having anymore hence taking the morning after pill.

I have been on the phone to a NHS clinic and apparently I can have a telephone consultation and then have 2 pills sent out which will stop the pregnancy. Has anyone been in this situation? I am very early which makes me feel batter about the situation as at this stage it can't be a hughe difference that taking the morning after pill?

I have never wanted to be in this situation but here I am. I don't want to share this with anyone in real life and I am also unsure if I should tell him? Do you think I should? To add we are older parents. I don't want to give too much details as it would be outing.

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BlueMum16 · 27/03/2025 15:46

Agree with other replies, the morning after pill was your choice, and you appear to have already decided this is the right decision for you so I see no need to tell him.

You don't want a discussion.

You do need to have a conversation about future contraception though to prevent being in the situation. That is a conversation for consenting adults.

If you are thinking about going ahead with pregnancy then you should tell him.

ginasevern · 27/03/2025 15:37

You don't sound as though you want to continue with the pregnancy (and I don't blame you one bit) so why would you tell him? It's your body, your choice and if you do keep it most likely 100% your responsibility. You've already taken the morning after pill without telling him, so why do so now?

user1492757084 · 27/03/2025 15:26

No, it seems that you are not in a serious enough relationship.
However, do have a serious think about using better contraceptives in future.

Bloodylovecheese · 27/03/2025 15:26

Did you tell him you were taking the morning after pill? ...there's your answer.

huuskymam · 27/03/2025 15:25

You do what feels right for you. And if that's not telling him, then don't.

Rewis · 27/03/2025 15:25

I think you should tell him since you've had some type of casual relationship for years and planning on continuing it (?). Assuming he's a decent person and you don't have to worry about his reaction. And you might want the IRL support for when you take the pill.

However, I also understand the posters saying you shouldn't tell him. It is upto you and what you feel is best for you.

SouthLondonMum22 · 27/03/2025 15:24

Absolutely not. He doesn’t need to know.

Saltsol · 27/03/2025 15:23

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LollyLand · 27/03/2025 15:21

I told my daughter’s father and I wish I hadn’t but I was young and thought it was the right thing to do.
He’s never been in her life but still managed to cause me a lot of upset when she was a newborn.

I would advise against it.

FortyElephants · 27/03/2025 15:19

Why would you tell him? You aren't keeping it and he's not your partner. It's your private medical business.

Do have a think about why you took that risk though. I wouldn't be surprised if this changes how you feel about your casual thing with him.

FOJN · 27/03/2025 15:18

No I wouldn't tell him.

Comedycook · 27/03/2025 15:16

As long as you're sure of your decision then no I wouldn't tell him.