So, bit of background my mum has always been a bit flaky when it comes to family visits. She’ll come up with all sorts of excuses, but lately, it’s reached new levels.
My sibling and I (both adults) live a few hours away from her, and while we make the effort to visit her, getting her to come to us or even visit other family members is like pulling teeth. Classic examples:
• We invited her for Christmas. She said she “wasn’t sure about the weather” (this was back in October). Ended up spending the day at home on her own.
• My DC had a big school event, invited her months in advance. She agreed, then suddenly had a “terrible cold” the night before. Miraculously fine the next day.
• My cousin (who she actually likes!) invited her to a family gathering. She initially said yes, but then claimed she “couldn’t find a dog sitter.” She has a neighbour who’s literally offered to look after the dog whenever.
It’s just so obvious that she can’t be arsed. I wouldn’t mind so much if she was just honest and said, “I don’t really fancy it,” but the constant flimsy excuses are driving me up the wall. Meanwhile, she gets huffy if we don’t go visit her.
AIBU to think she just doesn’t care enough to make the effort? Or is this a thing mums start doing at a certain age? Feeling a bit fed up tbh.