DSis threatening to destroy my family with secret recording what do I do?

I noticed that. How typical. 🙄

OP disappeared I see

I think she would send it to him eventually anyway. Her threats and demands will escalate until you feel you have to tell him. So do it now. Explain the out of context thing fully.

It sounds like the recording suggests you had an affair but you didn't? I know someone who threatened their close family member in a similar (very awful) way and the person being blackmailed said "just do it then, shows what type of person you are", the blackmailer never did it, in fact claimed they never would do it.

Do not give into your sister's demands, either tell DH the full story or call her bluff. Your relationship with your sister is over anyway.

You are not stuck. Get that out of your head.
Try being bloody furious at your sister. Refuse to play her game. Cut her off now. Be the adult.
Then, tell your DH everything.
Done and dusted.

If you can explain the context, why would DH react badly? Is he not reasonable?
I think you need to tell us what you said, and the context,for more helpful responses.
I wouldn't give in to her blackmail - she'd hold it iver you for ever if tou did.

This. You need to get in first OP.

As others have said it's difficult to advise without knowing the details but your dh is likely to find out anyway either from dsis or if you tell him. Wouldn't it be better if you were honest with him and it came from you rather than dsis

I would talk to my DH, come clean about what I said, explain the context, and tell him I'm being blackmailed by my sister. I would then cut all contact with her completely and forever. If you give her what she wants, she will only ask for more and it will become a viscious circle. Your sister sounds utterly toxic. Do you have her threats in writing as a text message?

Where has she recorded it? Can you get a hold of it and delete it?

you have sensibly name changed and this site is anonymous

therefore, you probably should put what is is she has a recording of so we can help you

i bet that is isn’t that bad anyway.

she is a blackmailing bitch - don’t do what she wants.

Blackmailing is illegal.

why don’t you just write what she’s got a recording of and we can help you more?

The only thing you can do is take back the control. Sit your DH down and say that you have something to talk to him about. Explain the context, explain the manipulation of the sound recording in that the relevant part is cut off, grovel as it sounds like you did say something that would hurt DH, context or not. Explain you never wanted it tonget back to him as you were ashamed and sorry the moment the words left your mouth, but that now your sister has recorded it and is using it as blackmail to control you.

Then message your sister and say you've told your husband what has happened, and any further attempts to manipulate you based on a recording will be filed with the police as blackmail.

You need to get out in front of it - if you try and wait it out you'll be forever wondering if she will bring it up again

Explain the exact context and what you said. Hope he understands. Then cut all contact and never speak to her again

Can you get evidence of the blackmail? Maybe look at going the legal route.

I agree with this

Oh yes also good idea - tell him it’s an AI recording.

He likely knows your sister is mad already and won’t be surprised.

I assume it's like 'of course I wound't have married DH but.....' but your convo wa s about how life would have been if you had been born a princess or something.

You got to front it out with bullies. You rDH will feel how sick you feel and it's better she has nothing on you.

GOOD LUCK RIP OFF THE PLASTER

Meet up with her to say you want to discuss her demands. Grab her phone and say you will smash it to pieces unless she deletes the recording there and then.

@Workhardcryharder is right, @InsufficantLizard. If your sister tells your dh, she will make you sound as bad as possible, whereas you can tell him in a far more balanced way. However bad it would be if you tell him, it will be way worse if she tells him.

I found myself in a situation a few years back whereby my sister threatened to report me for something I had not done. She essentially wanted me homeless.

My solicitor advised me to take it to the police and have her charged in relation to something like the malicious communications act. I forget the exact details.

A charge would have lost her her career so I didn’t but I did go fully NC and told all the family why. That was years ago now and to this day she denies sending the email telling people I made it up!

My parents know the truth but expect me to forgive her despite the fact she will never apologise as she didn’t do anything!

Apparently she’s furious I got a solicitor involved! (There were other factors involved and I did need legal advice),

Op, this sounds like a horrendous situation and the only way you can deal with it is by telling your husband what’s going on and going to the police. Start by explaining tk your husband you need to go to the police because your being emotionally bleackmailed ……then take it all from there

That's disgusting and so is she.
I will never ever allow myself to be blackmailed under any circumstances.
I'd come clean with your DH and explain the actual circumstances and then go NC with your sister.

Absolute rubbish, blackmailers are not honourable, it won't stop at once.
Your sister is a disgusting immoral cow. Please don't give into her demands you will hate yourself for it.
I would also get legal advice as what she is doing is illegal.

Think you need to share what it is and the likely reaction of DH.

I'd also be tempted to say she made an AI fake recording 🤔