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To ask if it’s worth watching Adolescence ?

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CalmingInfluence · 27/03/2025 07:28

Everyone’s raving about it

I don’t even have a Netflix account atm

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LilacPeer · 27/03/2025 10:35

I'm really interested to see so many people saying they didnt get the hype either.

I think it had the potential to be good, but needed to explore his 'radicalisation' a bit more if they wanted it to have an impact.

HappydaysArehere · 27/03/2025 10:33

It is a not to be missed piece of tv.It is so realistic and brilliantly acted. Also informative and certainly an eye opener.Just wait for the BAFTAs. You can pay £4.99for a Netflix subscription which is low because of the odd and very short adverts. I hardly notice them and they have a countdown attached so very short. I think the critics on here have not been prepared to give it the attention it deserves. As for criticising the acting - well that is ridiculous.

crumblingschools · 27/03/2025 10:30

@RampantIvy but do you think that is part of the problem with society, we are fed too much fast paced, violent drama and so expect it in most things we watch.

@Abstracts the programme makers have expressly said it wasn’t a whodunnit so if a poster who watched it and complained that it wasn’t a whodunnit have completely missed the point!

VanCleefArpels · 27/03/2025 10:25

PsychoHotSauce · 27/03/2025 07:46

No she wasn't. That was a huge leap Ashley Walters' character jumped to.

She was coerced (by the boys) into sending topless pics - misogyny. Of course she'd be labelled uptight or frigid if she didn't - misogyny. One of the boys shared the pics (misogyny). She was then ostracised by both boys and girls for being a 'slut' - misogyny. Then Jamie targeted her as she was at a low point and figured she'd now give him a chance because she was weak and vulnerable - misogyny. She stood up for herself - online and then in person. How dare she? - misogyny. Jamie killed her because of his rage at her perceived 'disrespect'. In his mind she was damaged goods now, she should be grateful for any male attention - misogyny.

PP is right - too many viewers have missed the point.

I feel the gimmick of the one shot episodes meant these issues - and I entirely agree with @PsychoHotSauce on this - were not able to be explored/ explained and therefore somewhat lost. I feel it was an opportunity missed, and in particular we really didn’t get an insight into the influences on Jamie, and the impact (if any) the relationship with his dad may have had which was lightly hinted at in the fourth episode

RampantIvy · 27/03/2025 10:24

I think posters who found it slow and boring perhaps prefer watching fast paced, action packed dramas.

This is not one of those. It is very much plot driven and finely nuanced. And for me, quite eye opening.

Abstracts · 27/03/2025 10:24

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Loloj · 27/03/2025 10:22

It was ok. Worth watching and I wanted to see it through to the end.

I found it very slow paced and I was waiting for something significant to happen which didn’t emerge. But I suppose that was not the point.

As a viewer I was still questioning that he was possibly innocent up to the last episode - even though it was shown that he had done it in the tape recording. But maybe that was me just being thick and not getting it!

crumblingschools · 27/03/2025 10:21

@Abstracts I have seen posts from people saying I wanted more action (ie more violence, killing), twists, a whodunnit. They were very much missing the point

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Dandelionsarefree · 27/03/2025 10:12

PsychoHotSauce · 27/03/2025 07:46

No she wasn't. That was a huge leap Ashley Walters' character jumped to.

She was coerced (by the boys) into sending topless pics - misogyny. Of course she'd be labelled uptight or frigid if she didn't - misogyny. One of the boys shared the pics (misogyny). She was then ostracised by both boys and girls for being a 'slut' - misogyny. Then Jamie targeted her as she was at a low point and figured she'd now give him a chance because she was weak and vulnerable - misogyny. She stood up for herself - online and then in person. How dare she? - misogyny. Jamie killed her because of his rage at her perceived 'disrespect'. In his mind she was damaged goods now, she should be grateful for any male attention - misogyny.

PP is right - too many viewers have missed the point.

This is exactly the point. Misogyny in the head of a 13 year old and how it works, a young boy who has being sucked into the dangerous bullshit of the manosphere.
Parents too oblivios to what was he doing in his room "safe" without any control on the exposure of the Internet. The environment: insecurity, terrible role model of a dad ashamed of a non sporty son, the seeking of approval.
The cop as an adult, is also ablivious, does not even know about the meaning of symbols and terms which were key I'm the investigation.
It's not about the victim but a focus on the perpetrator, and the new society we live in.

It's an eye opener. The serie is excellent.
A must watch if you have kids.

People are missing the point.

crumblingschools · 27/03/2025 10:09

@FairlyTired I was in bits at the end of episode 4. At the beginning of the episode when they talking about celebrating his birthday I was thinking how can you carry on as normal when your son had been accused of murder, but then obviously they weren’t carrying on as normal. And even going shopping wasn’t going to be normal with people recognising them, neighbours staring at them etc. The discussion about mum and dad when they were 13 and what they got up to. I sat there thinking how would I carry on with life if that was my son

Abstracts · 27/03/2025 10:07

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SlipperyLizard · 27/03/2025 10:05

I enjoyed the first episode, but I felt it went a bit “that wouldn’t happen” and slightly drawn out from there on in.

Episode 4 was quite boring at times, and the fact that the dad clearly is abusive (albeit not physically) makes me wonder what the writer & Stephen Graham consider “normal”. The way the mum & daughter cower from his anger and appease him to keep the peace, but no one mentions the impact on a teen boy of seeing his father treat the women in his life like that. The mum mentions his quick temper in the van I think, but that’s about it.

I fear my daughters ending up with someone like the dad in that show, and hate the fact that his behaviour isn’t seen as part of the problem at all.

Coffeeishot · 27/03/2025 09:59

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I don't have the patience for that 😀

FairlyTired · 27/03/2025 09:58

Not really. The first episode is a good insight into an arrest, second a reasonably interesting dramatised school scene, third quite a slow repetitive focus on psychology with 2 character dialogue for majority. Fourth episode absolute flop and quite boring with no real conclusion.

RampantIvy · 27/03/2025 09:58

I think the fact that it has sparked off discussion about the potential negative influences of social media can only be a good thing.

A pp who said that all teenagers know you shouldn't send dodgy photos is woefully naive. It still happens in spite of all the warnings.

TopSec · 27/03/2025 09:57

Bodonka · 27/03/2025 07:31

I’m firmly of the belief that everyone who comes into any contact with teenagers/all society really should watch it. It’s good, but also extremely eye opening.

Bodonka, I totally agree with you. I am probably much older than most of the ladies on this forum, but I was shocked as to how much I didn't know about social media and what our children/grandchildren are exposed to. Yes I'm old but so many of my younger friends, parents of my godchildren, were surprised at some of the things they didn't know. We (parents/godparents) had a really good, grown up conversation with our 14 year old godson. He said he was aware but he just shrugged and said that he doesn't post anything on social media, but he does view some of the things on Instagram etc. It was a light hearted conversation, full of laughter and jokes, but serious at the same time, and well worth having (certainly for me). I took away from this that most parents (not all) are totally unaware of what comes through to kids on these smart phones. If nothing else, this program has prompted conversations that all parents should have with their children (if they don't already)

DustyLee123 · 27/03/2025 09:57

In the opening episode the police entered the house and said the boy was accused of murder. The parents said 'he didn't do anything' (understandably) but they never once asked who had been murdered. That is such bad writing - if police came in and told you there'd been a murder in the local area (so close your child could be involved) one of the main things you'd want to know is who died. It could be someone you know well, or even a family member. No one ever once wondered or questioned who might be dead until it was revealed in the police interview. Such a glaring mistake.

This is what I thought from the off, they would have wanted to know who he was accused of murdering. It made it unrealistic from the off for me.

Abstracts · 27/03/2025 09:55

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DustyLee123 · 27/03/2025 09:54

crumblingschools · 27/03/2025 09:44

Also many posters have said the behaviour of the students shown in the school was unrealistic. For many schools that is actually their reality or indeed tamer than what they see every day. Not all schools but many schools. Again this isn’t just down to dysfunctional families

I work in schools and I can say that it was a very realistic shot of what goes on in some schools.

Coffeeishot · 27/03/2025 09:54

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Sorry, I didn't mean to pick you out it was just the phrase that stuck with me, I was meaning all pp who didn't like it.

stayathomer · 27/03/2025 09:53

I think it’s worth watching if you have teens and even with them but I don’t like that now on mn people are posting about being afraid of what their boys will become when they become teenagers or even a few posting how they’re afraid to have boys!!!

crumblingschools · 27/03/2025 09:51

Also we used to check DS’s phone when he was younger. I wouldn’t have had a clue what most of those emojis meant. Some of Andrew Tate’s posts can actually be inspiring for young males, so if you saw them you might wonder what the fuss is about him. Obviously many of his posts are horrendous

Many, many teens spend hours in their bedroom gaming, on social media etc. For many years the only console in our house was in the lounge so we had some control over that but I had no control what he saw/played at his mates house, what he saw on his mates’ phones.

CalmingInfluence · 27/03/2025 09:49

EmeraldShamrock000 · 27/03/2025 09:38

@CalmingInfluence I'm sorry that happened to you.

It isn’t the case for these boys. I won't go into details about the parents, I know they are good people.

Ah fair enough I picked that up to be fair

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