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suspiciousqueen · 26/03/2025 23:29

DH went for drinks after work and got back an hour ago. Tipsy to say the least but he bought back doner kebab and chips for us to share and we had a nice convo. All good until we go upstairs to bed, he's already settled in and on his phone. I need something from his bedside table and notice he's looking at a photo he's taken of a woman whilst on tube back home. I ask him to show me and he does. I tell him why the fuck would you take a photo of someone random, he spouts bs that she was looking at him weird. Ok, so why take the photo?? I ask to see what other photos he's took and he refuses and gets loud. Kids are asleep so I'm not doing this. I get into bed as I don't want him deleting anything if I go bathroom!
So now I'm lying in bed waiting for him to go to sleep so I can go for a wee! What the actual fuck.

Aibu if I look through his phone...

OP posts:
suspiciousqueen · 27/03/2025 01:12

I've gone through his phone as soon as his snoring started!
I found that whilst he was at his works drinks he got chatting with a Sylvia and saved her name in his contacts as: Sylvia(x+y)...what the hell does this mean?!
He gave her a missed call at 8pm so I assume she gave him her number and he called her so she'd have his contact. I wonder what she's saved him as.

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Addictedtowotsits · 27/03/2025 00:42

Motherearthisbusy · 26/03/2025 23:36

LOOK THROUGH HIS PHONE 100%

Yeah I know people say about privacy but....I'd look first opportunity I can

MissDoubleU · 27/03/2025 00:39

100% creepy. Check his phone as soon as he’s asleep. Take it to the bathroom with you and lock the door.

Remember Gisele Pelicot’s husband had his horrific crimes exposed only because he was caught photographing (upskirting) women in the supermarket.

It is a major, major red flag.

PinkyFlamingo · 27/03/2025 00:38

There's something wrong with someone who takes photos of female strangers they don't know about

coxesorangepippin · 27/03/2025 00:36

Pretty creepy ugh

Tryingmum456 · 27/03/2025 00:34

What a creep

StarCourt · 27/03/2025 00:33

he will delete them if he hasn’t already

Twonewcats · 27/03/2025 00:32

Ewwww. Does it look like a photo of a random, or could it be someone he knows?

Ablondiebutagoody · 27/03/2025 00:21

Look before they are deleted

Manyplanetsfromthesun · 26/03/2025 23:38

I think I’d take myself off to sleep elsewhere in the house, and bring this one up tomorrow. Early tomorrow morning. Unless there is a massive backdrop.

(actually chances are I’d look at his phone… but I’d like to think I’d advise myself the above wisdom).

Motherearthisbusy · 26/03/2025 23:36

LOOK THROUGH HIS PHONE 100%

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