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To think baths are awful?

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Alllll · 26/03/2025 21:16

I’ve lived in my house for four years and there is a very deep and long L shaped bath which is the envy of my bath loving friends. I’ve never been keen on baths and never used it. But tonight I thought, for a change, I’d run myself one and take my book.

It was absolutely shit. Took bloody ages to run, then I got in and couldn’t hold by book right. The water was a nice temperature but it made my face too hot. It was boring. I lasted twenty minutes and then drained the water. Complete waste.

I find them mildly disgusting. Right up close to the grouting. It’s horrible. AIBU?

OP posts:
UnctuousUnicorns · 27/03/2025 09:49

GameOfJones · 27/03/2025 08:07

I absolutely adore a bath and have them almost every day. The only time I get in the shower is if I'm absolutely filthy (covered in mud from gardening or something like that) or if I'm on my period. Otherwise, it's a daily bath.

I like pouring in bath salts and oil or bubble bath if not washing my hair and having a really good soak. Podcast on, water scalding hot and it is bliss. If I'm washing my hair then I also apply a hair mask, have a long soak then scrub every inch of me with soap on exfoliating gloves and emerge with skin like silk!

The bath is my happy place. I see showers as purely functional and a bit joyless.

What I would really love is one of those Japanese soaking omni tubs that are deep with a built in seat so you can sit in hot water up to your chin. But alas, not enough space to have one and a separate shower cubicle in our current house.

You can get sit in baths here, that have an integrated seat inside and are tall enough for the water to be up to your chin when you're inside. Again, because they're designed to be accessible to the less mobile, they have a door so they have to be filled while the person is inside. We've opted for a conventional lie down walk in bath over a seated one as that's what we all prefer, so it suits all of us.

maw1681 · 27/03/2025 09:37

Yeah I hate them! Been in current house almost 9 years and I can’t think if I’ve ever had a bath here! I find them uncomfortable and boring. I also end up just looking at the grouting and noticing dirt and marks that need scrubbing.
I’ll sometimes have one if I stay in a nice hotel.

redshoesredlaces · 27/03/2025 09:31

It’s always the same on MN. Some people love something. Others don’t. But instead of just saying ‘yeah. Not for me. They don’t bring me joy and I find them boring, they have to try to squeeze some derisive insult against people holding the opposing view
‘ew. Stewing in your own filth. That’s repulsive’.

when clearly it’s not repulsive unless the same people are using a towel only once, showering with antibacterial scrub and changing their pillow cases daily then their woes about bath dirt are just ludicrous and a juvenile way of attempting to look like their views are superior.
just grow up and learn to converse without needing insults to substantiate your view point 🙄

redshoesredlaces · 27/03/2025 09:26

mathanxiety · 27/03/2025 03:58

I don't think I've had a bath since I was 8. Showers all the way.

I cant understand the attraction of wallowing in your own dirt .

Do you wash once a year? Daily I’m but accumulating grime. And if you soak for a while you can scrub off softened dead skin Japanese/Korean style and end up properly clean and smooth as silk

thecatneuterer · 27/03/2025 08:45

Boredlass · 27/03/2025 07:17

Do you work down the mines?

Exactly! People have odd ideas. Probably the same people who bleached their shopping/children during COVID.

thecatneuterer · 27/03/2025 08:42

BinChicken1 · 26/03/2025 21:30

I love a bath. But I am rather perplexed by the idea of showering first. Why do you do that..?

I'll think you'll find it's because some people are utter loonsSmile

TwoRobins · 27/03/2025 08:37

GameOfJones: "My bath is my happy place. I see showers as purely functional and a bit joyless."

Same for me.

GameOfJones · 27/03/2025 08:07

I absolutely adore a bath and have them almost every day. The only time I get in the shower is if I'm absolutely filthy (covered in mud from gardening or something like that) or if I'm on my period. Otherwise, it's a daily bath.

I like pouring in bath salts and oil or bubble bath if not washing my hair and having a really good soak. Podcast on, water scalding hot and it is bliss. If I'm washing my hair then I also apply a hair mask, have a long soak then scrub every inch of me with soap on exfoliating gloves and emerge with skin like silk!

The bath is my happy place. I see showers as purely functional and a bit joyless.

What I would really love is one of those Japanese soaking omni tubs that are deep with a built in seat so you can sit in hot water up to your chin. But alas, not enough space to have one and a separate shower cubicle in our current house.

linelgreen · 27/03/2025 08:05

Love a good soak in the bath - glass of chilled fizz topped up by DH as required and a good book to read on Kindle. I was so pleased when we even had a bath in our suite on a recent cruise loved having a soak before dinner especially as they provided lovely Molton Brown bath products to use. The only thing that tops this is a lovely cold frosty night sat outside soaking in hot tub and watching the stars.

Natsku · 27/03/2025 07:36

Baths are nice enough but only worth the hassle once in a long while so I have a bath when I visit my parents but otherwise happy without a bath.

Sauna is what I can't live without - now that's proper relaxation. Can easily spend a whole evening saunaing.

Dianejen · 27/03/2025 07:19

Overtheatlantic · 27/03/2025 07:16

I wouldn’t buy a house without a bath. I love them. They reset my mood at the end of the day. I have a whole ritual of bath, body butter, fresh pyjamas. Bliss.

Ohh it's just the best isn't it. All you said and then add in new duvet day and pure bliss is the word! Just like a big toasty cinnamon bun in the covers after it.

Boredlass · 27/03/2025 07:17

Topknotted · 26/03/2025 21:41

Some people don’t like soaking in dirty water?

Do you work down the mines?

Overtheatlantic · 27/03/2025 07:16

I wouldn’t buy a house without a bath. I love them. They reset my mood at the end of the day. I have a whole ritual of bath, body butter, fresh pyjamas. Bliss.

Tereseta · 27/03/2025 07:09

soupyspoon · 26/03/2025 21:31

I used to love baths years ago, used to spend ages in there, candles all around, wine, mustic on, running more hot water to keep it hot

Was quite fat at the time found it really comfortable

Then got too fat and couldnt really fit

Now not fat at all and have no bum left and its agony, I was looking forward to enjoying baths again to find I cannot sit in the bath, its awful, just not enjoyable.

Maybe try one of these bath cushions? My mil loves hers after weight loss.

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RampantIvy · 27/03/2025 07:05

mathanxiety · 27/03/2025 03:58

I don't think I've had a bath since I was 8. Showers all the way.

I cant understand the attraction of wallowing in your own dirt .

Just how dirty are you when you get in the bath? Do you do manual labour in a dirty environment?

RampantIvy · 27/03/2025 07:02

Fruitytutti223 · 26/03/2025 23:12

I think it depends what they are washing with. I have long hair so by the time I have done all that the baths a mess. Practically sticky the water 🤮

I don't wash my hair in the bath. I don't wash my hair every time I have a shower. It would look like straw if I did.

kezzykate · 27/03/2025 05:19

I absolutely love them and have one most days. One of the few ways I really relax. I love bubble baths and bath bombs and making it really appealing.

sweetpickle2 · 27/03/2025 04:15

I have a bath most evenings if I’m home, highlight of my day. I like the water to be so hot that it feels like it’s lightly scalding my skin as I lower into it- book or some telly on my phone, glass of wine, face mask, absolute bliss.

For actual cleaning/washing hair I shower, which I do in the mornings.

My partner never uses the bath at home, we’ve had approx two baths together when we’ve stayed in fancy hotels with a big freestanding one but to paraphrase Chandler I don’t think it’s the bath he’s into, but the wet naked lady.

They’re not for everyone, OP.

mathanxiety · 27/03/2025 03:58

I don't think I've had a bath since I was 8. Showers all the way.

I cant understand the attraction of wallowing in your own dirt .

SapphireSeptember · 27/03/2025 02:02

@TheSilentSister That bath sounds amazing! 😍

TheSilentSister · 27/03/2025 01:33

My bathroom has a separate shower cubicle and a huge bath.
The first time I got in the bath I couldn't stop laughing. I could stretch out fully and the water was right upto my neck. I've never had a bath like it, it's a pure treat. I feel like I should light candles and play whale music, lol.
I'm a shower lover but I need the occasional bath, even just to soak my tired feet and just feel pampered.

RitaIncognita · 27/03/2025 01:09

I'm in the bath right now reading this thread. I have a good long soak at least twice a week.

I have no problem holding a book while in the bathtub, but a Kindle is much easier.

johnd2 · 27/03/2025 00:55

Yeah to be honest bath was all I had as a kid, then switched to showers as an adult.

When we bought this place it had a bath and when having kids I thought ah we can use it now, like everyone says baths are essential for kids. Well we've used it once for our eldest and now it is just a repository for junk.
Complete waste of space and once I have time it'll be a nice shower area!

RobertaFirmino · 27/03/2025 00:42

Twice a week for me. Epsom baths seem to help a little when I'm stiff (I've got arthritis) but I need help getting in and out. I stay in it for 20 mins. A walk-in bath would be an absolute godsend and it's something I'm saving for.

UnctuousUnicorns · 27/03/2025 00:39

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 27/03/2025 00:26

In the winter, a bath that is slightly too hot, plus the radio is bliss.

In the hot days of summer, an evening tepid bath makes you actually sleep very well.

Either way, you must get prune fingers before you get out.

I used to love really hot baths until menopause knackered my internal thermostat. Now a baby could probably bathe in the water I have. 😅 Too hot, and I feel all flustered and woozy. So long as it's a comfortable temperature for me though, I can soak for ages listening to music or audiobooks. 🙂