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To think baths are awful?

338 replies

Alllll · 26/03/2025 21:16

I’ve lived in my house for four years and there is a very deep and long L shaped bath which is the envy of my bath loving friends. I’ve never been keen on baths and never used it. But tonight I thought, for a change, I’d run myself one and take my book.

It was absolutely shit. Took bloody ages to run, then I got in and couldn’t hold by book right. The water was a nice temperature but it made my face too hot. It was boring. I lasted twenty minutes and then drained the water. Complete waste.

I find them mildly disgusting. Right up close to the grouting. It’s horrible. AIBU?

OP posts:
Jux · 28/03/2025 15:13

For me, a bath is a luxury not an opportunity to get clean = for that I'll have a shower.

No, a bath is for luxuriating in with a book and cuppa and a cat sitting on the side purring. It is the only way I get warm in the winter, sitting in a hot bath for several hours reading. Lovely lovely lovely.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 28/03/2025 14:16

I love a bath. I'm a shortarse so I put my head back so the water is covering my ears. Not good for ear infections though.

Iamnotabot · 28/03/2025 14:09

Missey85 · 28/03/2025 10:40

I don't like baths either I like showers better I don't want to sit in dirty water 🙁

Why would the water be dirty? Just run a bath with fresh water (in a clean bath). You shed skin cells everywhere not just in the bath (that’s what dust is)

boobot1 · 28/03/2025 13:13

KimberleyClark · 28/03/2025 10:02

What is disgusting about showers?

Not disgusting, but a bath is a much nicer experience.

Discsareshit · 28/03/2025 11:55

AllTheChaos · 27/03/2025 22:13

Or just from a different culture where we do things differently?

The principle of not harming the environment can be embraced by any culture.
And the idea behind it comes from hygiene preoccupations - not wanting to 'sit' in your own dirt I suppose, but can still be re-considered.

KimberleyClark · 28/03/2025 10:52

RampantIvy · 28/03/2025 10:48

Oh, for goodness sake!
Just how dirty are you?
Do you work in a mine?

There seem to be an awful lot of Mumsnetters who work on building sites, pig farms and coal mines going by how dirty they say they are.

RampantIvy · 28/03/2025 10:48

Missey85 · 28/03/2025 10:40

I don't like baths either I like showers better I don't want to sit in dirty water 🙁

Oh, for goodness sake!
Just how dirty are you?
Do you work in a mine?

Missey85 · 28/03/2025 10:40

I don't like baths either I like showers better I don't want to sit in dirty water 🙁

KimberleyClark · 28/03/2025 10:02

boobot1 · 27/03/2025 22:31

I feel like this about showers, I hate them.

What is disgusting about showers?

RampantIvy · 28/03/2025 09:55

Iamnotabot · 28/03/2025 09:51

some people don’t have enough to do 😂

How on earth did we manage when most houses had baths and no showers?

Worrying about dirty bath water if you bathe or shower every day and don't work in a mine is such a first world issue.

Iamnotabot · 28/03/2025 09:51

katepilar · 28/03/2025 09:36

Because they are worried about the bath water being too dirty I assume...

some people don’t have enough to do 😂

katepilar · 28/03/2025 09:36

Iamnotabot · 28/03/2025 09:16

Why would you shower before getting into a bath? 😵‍💫

Because they are worried about the bath water being too dirty I assume...

JackieGoodman · 28/03/2025 09:22

I prefer to shower but when very ill a couple of years ago a bath was much easier, too weak to stand long enough to shower so I wouldn't remove the bath.

Iamnotabot · 28/03/2025 09:16

Mum2jenny · 26/03/2025 21:27

Shower first, then soak in a nice warm bubbly bath for about 45 minutes with a good book and glass of wine. Really relaxing imo.

Why would you shower before getting into a bath? 😵‍💫

AllTheChaos · 28/03/2025 09:16

I remember reading something ages ago about British people not washing their legs in the shower, and getting really confused as to anyone could miss their legs when washing, then found out from friends that yep, they assumed their legs would just get clean in a shower without being washed. I mean, I sort of saw their point about soapy water running down doing some of the work, but nope nope nope! Not enough for me!

AllTheChaos · 28/03/2025 09:13

Spot on, @redshoesredlaces! I am familiar with all of the examples you gave and still found myself gagging slightly when reading them 😂 I have friends and co workers who freely admit to doing all of these things, yet I’m the odd one for not doing them?! Ewwww!

KimberleyClark · 28/03/2025 08:07

I don’t think baths are gross at all from a hygiene viewpoint. . I used to love them, would always have one every morning,considered it my last bit of relaxation before work. Would always be so disappointed with hotel rooms if there was only a shower. Then I was hit by a weird inflammatory arthritis affecting knees and ankles, came on virtually overnight and I couldn’t get down into the bath. So it was showers only. By the time I got back to normal, which was about a year, I found I much preferred a good shower andI can take or leave a bath now.

SunnySideDeepDown · 28/03/2025 07:58

I haven’t bathed in years as I too don’t like them. I feel grimy when I get out and don’t find constantly having to adjust my body and the water temp relaxing!

Much prefer to shower. We only kept the bath for the kids.

redshoesredlaces · 28/03/2025 07:56

AllTheChaos · 27/03/2025 22:13

Or just from a different culture where we do things differently?

What’s remarkable is that British people -specifically white British are blissfully unaware that many other cultures and countries think of them as being a bit grubby and unhygienic.

They were very late adopters of daily baths, many still don’t. They do a sink clean with a flannel. Which some of them re-use. They wash their pits and bums with a flannel in sink water then reuse the flannel. They wear outside shoes in the house and go to bed with the day’s pollution on them. They don’t actually wash their feet or backs. They just allow water to run over them.

yet for some reason they actually hold themselves up as being the cleaner peoples. It’s so peculiar. When all this is pointed out, they then try to deflect and tell cleaner cultures that they are damaging their skin or killing the planet for washing the way they do. And that removing shoes is somehow rude.
it’s some massive cognitive dissonance.

EndorsingPRActice · 28/03/2025 07:36

love baths, and disappointed that so many houses / hotels don't have them. showers have their place for quick hygiene but a lovely long soak can't be beaten

Lifestooshort71 · 28/03/2025 07:34

I'm rethinking my love of baths after reading this thread. We grew up with baths in the 50's - the only shower was a 2-headed rubber contraption that was bunged on the 2 taps of the bath to wash your hair. When proper showers were a thing (can't remember when but I had my own house by then), I loved them - the speed, the ability to wash hair at the same time, the feeling of freshness. As I've aged, baths have become appealing again - somewhere to relax and think and enjoy the warmth soothing aching joints. I know the day will come (according to pp) when I'll be unable to get in and out and the ignominy of a shower seat will loom! A ghastly prospect 😒 So, for me, bathing versus showering has always been age related.

UnctuousUnicorns · 28/03/2025 07:20

RampantIvy · 28/03/2025 06:51

you can't hold anything properly, hands wet.

Erm, you can dry them to hold a book.

Or listen to an audiobook like I do. We have a Bluetooth speaker in the bathroom for listening to music, podcasts etc. whilst soaking in the bath.

lovemycbf · 28/03/2025 06:54

Having back problems for six years I can no longer get in and out a bath so have a shower daily.
I miss a nice hot bath
p.s not disgusting at all!

RampantIvy · 28/03/2025 06:51

you can't hold anything properly, hands wet.

Erm, you can dry them to hold a book.

Freshflower · 27/03/2025 23:56

Same, I've often thought I will have a nice soak in the bath, lit the candles , put some calm music and in I go.....yes it's so boring and gets to steamy and hot , you can't hold anything properly, hands wet. last about 15 mins then glad to be out