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To think baths are awful?

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Alllll · 26/03/2025 21:16

I’ve lived in my house for four years and there is a very deep and long L shaped bath which is the envy of my bath loving friends. I’ve never been keen on baths and never used it. But tonight I thought, for a change, I’d run myself one and take my book.

It was absolutely shit. Took bloody ages to run, then I got in and couldn’t hold by book right. The water was a nice temperature but it made my face too hot. It was boring. I lasted twenty minutes and then drained the water. Complete waste.

I find them mildly disgusting. Right up close to the grouting. It’s horrible. AIBU?

OP posts:
BumbleBeegu · 26/03/2025 22:02

TattyBluebell · 26/03/2025 22:00

To be honest, you're very lucky to have hot running water whenever you want it.
YABU

🤦‍♀️ ffs!

maddening · 26/03/2025 22:01

Baguettecat · 26/03/2025 21:55

I prefer to soak first then shower to actually clean myself. Also nice to exfoliate after a soak!

Oh yes could totally work either way ☺️

Overhaul54 · 26/03/2025 22:01

I hate showers. I try to have them as cheaper and environmentally friendly but it’s so fucking cold when you step out and it’s harder to get dry weirdly.

I wash my hair in the shower with the plug in and then run the bath to thermo nuclear. I can do an hour easily.

fisherhatesgravel72 · 26/03/2025 22:01

Im in one right now, reading mumsnet and scrolling through Facebook marketplace not bored at all 😀

AlmostCutMyHairToday · 26/03/2025 22:01

Even though I do like baths I know what you mean. I don't like that the toilet is so close to the bath (small room) - feels gross even though it's theoretically clean.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 26/03/2025 22:01

I do prefer a bath over a shower right before bed as it relaxes me and I sleep better, especially with Epsom salts in the water.

I pop a soothing balm thing on my face, do some Duolingo lessons while I percolate, then do all the actual washing/shaving at the end as I'm sat up ready to get out.

If I was really filthy I'd go for a shower instead (or first) but it would be quite rare for things to be that bad.

BumbleBeegu · 26/03/2025 22:01

Baths make me feel sick (actually physically sick). I get way too hot and then feel dizzy and nauseous when I try to stand up.

Last time I had one was when I was staying at my parents house whilst my dad was dying…they only had a bath, no shower, so it wasn’t a choice! The whole ordeal (dad/bath combo) still gives me trauma flashbacks even now…14 years on 😢

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 26/03/2025 22:00

LizzieSiddal · 26/03/2025 21:25

I haven’t had a bath since 2002.😂 I hate them.

I haven't had one since 2003 and that was because the midwives made me when DC3 was born.

Too much effort, then you're too hot, then quickly it cools down and I've never felt quite clean when I got out!

I don't mind if other people like them. Ours hasn't been used in years.

TattyBluebell · 26/03/2025 22:00

To be honest, you're very lucky to have hot running water whenever you want it.
YABU

MatriarchCaz · 26/03/2025 21:58

People on MN are wierd, expect people to get in a bath when they are already clean...........

Love a soak me.

HeyItsPickleRick · 26/03/2025 21:58

We have three and I kind of agree. We put a freestanding one in our en suite with floor to ceiling windows around (we aren’t overlooked). My husband loves it however and gets in every night.

I don’t find them disgusting but I’d rather have a workout, hot shower then read in bed with a glass of wine.

CalleOcho · 26/03/2025 21:57

There was a similar thread on here not too long ago.

The bath haters really love to express how “unhygienic” and “boring” baths are. That they almost pass out from the heat and that they simply couldn’t feel clean without standing up and showering off the “bath water” afterwards. Bunch of weirdos.

StJulian2023 · 26/03/2025 21:55

I’m in the bath right now! 😳 no regrets, very content.

Baguettecat · 26/03/2025 21:55

maddening · 26/03/2025 21:35

I guess you do your washing and then the bath is just for fun.

I prefer to soak first then shower to actually clean myself. Also nice to exfoliate after a soak!

godmum56 · 26/03/2025 21:55

Purplebunnie · 26/03/2025 21:30

If only I could still get in a bath (well get out more importantly😂)

I used to love having a quiet read in the bath with some nice bubble bath. Now I have to have showers due to the knees and other conditions have precluded me using shower gels. Now I am jealous of anyone who can have a bath

Same here bloody knees. Trashed mine getting stuck in a patch of bog dogwalking

LlynTegid · 26/03/2025 21:55

I don't think them disgusting. I just prefer a shower as they are more convenient especially in the mornings.

whiteswan87 · 26/03/2025 21:55

Absolutely love a bath! I don't read or drink wine, I just sink in and mull over the day and mentally plan the upcoming days. I find it really clears my head.

EffortlesslyInelegant · 26/03/2025 21:54

Topknotted · 26/03/2025 21:41

Some people don’t like soaking in dirty water?

Jesus Tapdancing Christ - how actually gopping are you people? What a senseless waste of water and so very bad for your skin biome. Unless you shit yourself twice a day (at least!) then this is so bloody unnecessary.

jewelcase · 26/03/2025 21:54

I’m actually in the bath typing this!

I love a really hot bath. Proper treat. Not to get clean in, but just to soak and wallow. Bit of music as well, bliss.

I don’t get people who have a bath instead of a shower. I wash in the shower. But as a thing to relax in, a bath’s lovely. I don’t want to get out!

Oftenaddled · 26/03/2025 21:53

soupyspoon · 26/03/2025 21:31

I used to love baths years ago, used to spend ages in there, candles all around, wine, mustic on, running more hot water to keep it hot

Was quite fat at the time found it really comfortable

Then got too fat and couldnt really fit

Now not fat at all and have no bum left and its agony, I was looking forward to enjoying baths again to find I cannot sit in the bath, its awful, just not enjoyable.

Get a bath cushion! And lie down, anyway :)

TheChosenTwo · 26/03/2025 21:52

Ooh I love a bath! I mean Yanbu to not like them, dh has maybe had 3 in the 22 years we’ve been together and 2 of those were with me 😂
we’ve got a big double ended bath because I love to lounge about in there. Dd bought me one of the shelf things to put across it so I can prop up my phone and watch something in there while I’m doing a hair mask or a face mask. I take a book in if I’m not watching something. It’s a heavenly 90 minutes. I do always shower at the end though.

Bluevelvetsofa · 26/03/2025 21:52

The perceived wisdom is that a house without a bath is more difficult to sell, but people seem to be moving away from baths. I enjoy a bath, but sore knees make it difficult to get in and out, so now it’s a shower.

offmynut · 26/03/2025 21:48

Its showers only for me i dont like baths washing in the dirt im trying to wash off.
Waiting for it to fill takes for ever.
Hated a bath as a child and even more as a teen when on my period and had to bath in blood water.
But if you enjoy them good for you.

SwedishEdith · 26/03/2025 21:48

God, I love baths. Nothing better when a cold coming on or have been delayed by trains home on wet winter evenings. Podcasts not books for me. Showers are functional but not relaxing. I don't ever get water on my face like a PP mentioned. I have the shower at shoulder height to avoid that.

A friend ripped out all her baths in her last house. Moved recently, redid the bathrooms. They've all got baths in now.

Lifestooshort71 · 26/03/2025 21:48

soupyspoon · 26/03/2025 21:31

I used to love baths years ago, used to spend ages in there, candles all around, wine, mustic on, running more hot water to keep it hot

Was quite fat at the time found it really comfortable

Then got too fat and couldnt really fit

Now not fat at all and have no bum left and its agony, I was looking forward to enjoying baths again to find I cannot sit in the bath, its awful, just not enjoyable.

My partner's lost all his bum fat and I ordered this off Amazon:

masteymoh Small Foldable Seat Cushion 1-Inch Thick, Portable Gel Seat Cushion for Pressure Relief, Light Portable seat Cushion for Travel seat Cushion, Foldable for Easier Storage (Coffee)

(On phone and can't link for some reason). He says it's a total game changer! Hangs it on shower head after bath and it's soon dry.