17 month old started being weird with her dad ?

I’d be informing a social worker now and making a list of upset incidents, and looking at asking for supervised contact only for now. See a solicitor.

Social work aren’t going to be remotely interested in a wholly natural developmental process. Do you think we spend our days just waiting for a clingy child report?

Absolutely and completely.

Her son probably doesn’t dare hug her in case she logs it with 101.

This is a very normal stage, called separation anxiety. It happened with all of mine, they would cry if I left them at home with Dad (all live together.) it's probably quite a tricky age to have 50/50 care. Not saying he hasn't done anything, but it's so common for all babies at this age, even when they live with both parents, to have a very strong preference for one parent.

Completely normal behaviour at this age. Upsetting for you I understand but try and be pragmatic. Handover with a cheerful smile and hope that the phase doesn't last too long

Very normal, especially with you being separated. My DS is a similar age and had a phase of only wanting dad, but also now has times where he only wants me and generally if either of us are leaving will get upset. He loves us both to pieces but will act like whoever is staying isn’t good enough until the door is shut and then he’s absolutely fine.

my SS (who is autistic to add to the complication) is often like this when leaving his mom, but adores his dad too, it’s just that he’s always upset leaving his mom. It’s hard because she’s tried to use it to signify mistreatment and this couldn’t be further from the truth but mom is a Disney mom who gives him all the sugar snacks and tv he wants and also uses ‘I’ll leave without you’ as a threat to get him to behave. So I totally disagree with posters suggesting it’s a sign of abuse, sometimes kids want to choose an easy life, but that doesn’t always mean they’re choosing the better option.

Wow over reaction.

@Ellamaee
Mum of 3 children here. 2 went though a clingy phase 1 didn't. However I had to watch the 1 that didn't like a hawk as they had no sense of stranger danger. Other 2 fine.
As PP have suggested can you do hand over outside.
Look on it this way you are re-enforceing that tantrums won't get her her own way.
Good Luck OP parenthood is a weird and wonderful thing.

I notice the 'similar threads' bar is filled with very... similar threads. I doubt many of them have replies encouraging the OP to call in social services.

Please ignore the massive over-reactor.

My DS is exactly the same. Everything is completely normal at home, nothing has changed, both parents acting the same but he’s going through a phase where he absolutely will not even look at anybody but me, won’t go to his dad or even say the word Daddy. It’s quite normal I think, I’m desperately waiting for the ‘Daddy’ phase so I can wee in peace without a meltdown!

She’s doing it to your mum too but you aren’t concerned she’s mistreating her??

My DH lives here and our 16 month old does this to him! She acts like she hardly knows him sometimes, bless him. Just a phase

17 month olds can be weird with anyone. It’s normal.

For hèavens' sake! Try and keep things in proportion. The OP came here concerned and now she's having to read about the worst type of family crisis.

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The fact she is doing same to your mum is reassuring. It is normal and if treating your mum the same way it suggests she is clingy to you just now rather than she wants him.

Just because your child didn't go through what is a very normal stage of development it doesn't mean there is anything untoward with a child who is. It's also very normal for children to then switch to not wanting mummy to do things and getting hysterical.

Sorry, you are being an idiot. I think troll or just a dickhead.
Noone calls social services because their child is a bit clingy to their mum.

My 17month old has always been like this and often when I leave him with his dad to go to the loo will run after me crying if he is tired. I am breastfeeding so figured it could be that but I think it’s probably just within the realms of normal to want their mum

DD went through this stage for about a year starting at 18 months. If she was alone with me, or my Mum, or DWs mum, she was absolutely fine, but the moment she knew DW was home, then she wanted to be joined at the hip to her. Didn't matter what DW was doing, she needed to be in the same space as her.

For instance, I'd be making dinner for DD. Nope, DD wanted DW to make it. So DW would take over and I'd entertain DD. Nope, that was no good either, DW had to be the one to both make her dinner and entertain her. It was ridiculous

It was difficult for me, as I felt quite rejected and that my daughter hated me, it was even more difficult for DW as she couldn't get a moments peace.

We tried absolutely everything, and then after about 11 months it just stopped, and suddenly we were equal again in her eyes.

Mine have switched between us over the years and we live together.
My youngest however, he likes to latch onto one oerson, in nursery he had one lady who had him stuck to her hip as he cried if anyone else went near him and he was the same with me at home. Now he is older he is more clingy with Dad. I would say its not every child is clingy to partucular adults but it is certainly normal for them if they are

either trolling or mental illness

Very normal at this age to exhibit separation anxiety and be clingy to one or other parent. Make handovers cheerful and quick! Does her dad say she settles down quickly after you've gone?

Every small child I know has been through this stage with one parent

Please don’t do this unless you want to put yourself in to a position whereby there’s a children’s services record somewhere that no further action was taken on that could be interpreted as you wildly jumping to conclusions. Of course we should all be alert to changes in a child’s presentation, but separation anxiety is common developmentally for children this age and you’ve said yourself she’s changed recently in response to your mum, who you presumably have no concerns about.

Absolutely this👆🏿

Total over reaction.