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To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:47

Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

OP posts:
Pumpkincozynights · 26/03/2025 15:49

Harry & Sally! Omg that is cringe.

WallaceinAnderland · 26/03/2025 15:47

When they grow up and are old enough to watch the film they were named after, they are going to look at you both and say ewwwwwwwwwwwww

ColinOfficeTrolley · 26/03/2025 15:47

Soubriquet · 26/03/2025 15:39

Sally is way too old fashioned for one

Why would he want a couple that fuck as names for his kids? He may as well name them Cersei and Jaime

Damn, you got there before me 😄

Scottishgirl85 · 26/03/2025 15:44

Unless he wants incest in family, why would siblings want romantic couple names? He's literally gone mad, sorry OP!

ByWildLimeCat · 26/03/2025 15:44

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

Nooo no no! For a brother and sister?? Noooooo!

BabyFever246 · 26/03/2025 15:43

God no, not Harry and Sally. Can you agree to one but not the other (I mean personally I like Harry but would refuse to call a child Sally) or use them as middle names or change one subtlety to make less obvious. E.g Harry and Sarah.

Coinkydink · 26/03/2025 15:41

I know twins called Ross and Rachel (named before the show) but everyone comments on it and they also (to their face) say how weird it must be to have a sibling named after a romantic couple as it feels a bit wrong.

YeGodsandLittleFishies · 26/03/2025 15:40

madaffodil · 26/03/2025 15:32

There is ONLY ONE scene in that film that everyone immediately remembers.

Cute and meaningful it ain't. 😁

OP you really need to veto that.

Every single person you tell the name of your twins to for the rest of your lives will be appalled.

And their first thought in connection with your daughter will be Meg Ryan’s famous scene.

It’s actually cruel. Don’t do it.

Soubriquet · 26/03/2025 15:39

Sally is way too old fashioned for one

Why would he want a couple that fuck as names for his kids? He may as well name them Cersei and Jaime

thinktwice36 · 26/03/2025 15:37

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

Horrific.

LittleGreenDuck · 26/03/2025 15:36

I was really hoping for Beaviss and Butthead.

MissDoubleU · 26/03/2025 15:35

Tell him it’s disgusting to imply incest of your innocent children. In general children should not be billboards for your fandoms. It’s really bad form. If you name them Harry and sally they’re going to be the butt of every joke. Queue OTT fake orgasms. You’d be better off naming them Cersei and Jaimie after the Lannisters. They were shagging each other too, but at least they were also twins.

Tell him to watch another movie and work on his imagination. But yes, names are a two yes/one no deal. You’ve said no, so he needs to put the idea to bed. It’s not happening.

Chuchoter · 26/03/2025 15:35

I actually thought it couldn't possibly be Harry and Sally as no one else pile be that NAFF!

That's truly awful.

I'd rather have Chucky and Tiffany.

kiwiblue · 26/03/2025 15:35

DappledThings · 26/03/2025 15:27

Harry and Sally are traditionally short for Henry and Sarah. How about using those, or a combination like Henry and Sally so it can still be a tribute in his mind but not as painfully obvious. Henry and Sara if you want to go one step further away.

Decent suggestion!

Ponoka7 · 26/03/2025 15:35

I've got cats called, beast and belle, tell him in the future you'll get a pair of kittens. Children need to not be named after romantic film couples.

kiwiblue · 26/03/2025 15:34

garibaldiscake · 26/03/2025 15:33

I know siblings called Leah and Luke.

Do you mean Leia?

garibaldiscake · 26/03/2025 15:33

I know siblings called Leah and Luke.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 26/03/2025 15:33

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

Oh goodness no, you cannot do that to your children. They are human beings, not toys. What is he thinking?

Great names individually though, so maybe use one and come up with a different one for the other twin.

Bolide · 26/03/2025 15:33

cannot believe you found a bloke who watches romcoms😅

GofE · 26/03/2025 15:32

Oh no; when old enough/ teens, they may see the movie, and be very grossed out at the s*xual connotations... I couldn't imagine growing up with my brother and I being named after an infamous 'couple'.

madaffodil · 26/03/2025 15:32

There is ONLY ONE scene in that film that everyone immediately remembers.

Cute and meaningful it ain't. 😁

Shetlands · 26/03/2025 15:32

NONONONONONONO!

Your twins will thank you later.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 26/03/2025 15:32

Easterbunnygettingsorted · 26/03/2025 15:07

Suggest Ant (onia) and Declan.. See if he is as keen on matching names then.

I knew a pair of boys called Anthony and Declan before they became famous! Anthony changed his name eventually.

Naming them after a romantic couple is ridiculous. Clearly he needs a more up to date twin reference - how about Jaime and Cersei?

iseenyouwithkefir · 26/03/2025 15:31

I think you should each give the other's suggested names a fair hearing, and then each feel free to veto anything you don't want without the other constantly nagging and niggling about it. There are some circumstances where I would not want to say no right away, and might consider the name for a bit to see if I could grow to like it, or come up with a variant or use it as a middle - but those are much more serious/personal circs, like someone wanting to use a family name or a name they've loved since childhood, or perhaps wanting to honour someone important to them who has died.

He’s now sulking and saying I’ve “killed the magic.” About Harry and Sally, really? Are you sure he's not winding you up?

InigoJollifant · 26/03/2025 15:30

I have never seen it but even I know that Harry and Sally have a famous orgasm scene?! Mortifying for siblings!!

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