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To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:47

Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

OP posts:
Isthiswhatmenthink · 26/03/2025 16:14

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

My good god. How can you even look at him? He is so stupid. That is such an iconic pairing of movie characters. And immediately brings to mind the orgasm scene. And he wants to name newborn siblings after them?

That is fucked.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 26/03/2025 16:13

Edward Scissorhands & Kim

Sparsely · 26/03/2025 16:12

On average a woman called Sally is about 60, so you risk giving the poor girl a granny's name (a great granny's name would be cool though)

Chungai · 26/03/2025 16:12

Sally is short for Sarah, what about Henry and Sarah...?

BubbaHorovitz · 26/03/2025 16:11

If he loves that film so much, why not just call them Billy & Meg no one will then be making fun of them, because it's one remove.

Chungai · 26/03/2025 16:11

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

Let him have one of the names maybe?

Catandsquirrel · 26/03/2025 16:11

Henry and Sally could work but it's a bit naff, naming your children after a blockbuster film. Looks as though a huge committee does all of your thinking for you.

CactusSammy · 26/03/2025 16:10

If it's Morticia and Gomez, I really think you have to let him go for it tbh.

thankyounextplease · 26/03/2025 16:10

Worked with a guy who called his kids Rosie and Jim.

Whenever anyone started singing the theme tune, he'd snap, "No, it's JIM and ROSIE"

😂

Jubaju · 26/03/2025 16:10

A baby hasn’t been named sally since about 1985 😁
i think he’s punking you… surely 😐

SalfordQuays · 26/03/2025 16:09

Harry and Sally - awful idea (and I say that as someone who loves the film). Not only will everyone associate the names with the film, but they'll associate them with "that scene". Which considering they're siblings is basically weird.

Is this thread actually serious?

MrsSunshine2b · 26/03/2025 16:07

He needs to be told firmly that:

  • Children are not billboards for your fandoms
  • Twins are not one entity but two individuals
  • Naming children is something which requires unanimous agreement from both parents
Catandsquirrel · 26/03/2025 16:07

Wtf Harry and Sally? That's weird. There was a faking orgasm scene. They were famously a romantic / sexual couple. What's he thinking? How mortify for the children.

I was hoping for Harold and Maude at least. Same issue but better film and names.

Mumofteenandtween · 26/03/2025 16:07

I’ll have what she’s having!

BeaAndBen · 26/03/2025 16:07

If flat out arguing isn’t working, how about leaning in to the idea until he goes of it?

Tell him it’s a cute idea but you want a different film(book) and you are sure everyone is going to love little Elizabeth and Darcy

MyNameIsSharon · 26/03/2025 16:07

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 26/03/2025 15:32

I knew a pair of boys called Anthony and Declan before they became famous! Anthony changed his name eventually.

Naming them after a romantic couple is ridiculous. Clearly he needs a more up to date twin reference - how about Jaime and Cersei?

Jaime and Cersei made me lol 🤣

LawrenceSMarlowforPresident · 26/03/2025 16:07

Yeah, that would be a hard no. Could you compromise by agreeing to one of the names and then choosing something completely different for the other baby? FWIW, I think Sally is a gorgeous name, well due a revival.

Rewis · 26/03/2025 16:06

There was a reddit thread where the mum insisted on naming their twins romeo and juliet. Then the woman's friend showed a version of romeo and juliet with a relatively graphic sex scene and they changed their mind

Itrtttyy · 26/03/2025 16:04

Could you imagine the incest jokes? Years of teenagers fake orgasming at them? Absolutely you can’t. What is DH thinking?!

MsBucket · 26/03/2025 16:04

For those who missed it, it’s Harry and Sally.

Ceramiq · 26/03/2025 16:03

Of course you must not, in any circumstances, name your children after characters in a film or TV show. Just no way.

Fuuuuuckit · 26/03/2025 16:03

Barbie and Ken?

Batman and Robin?

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 26/03/2025 16:03

@DefiniteGrouse as long as it isnt mork and mindy!!

BunnyLake · 26/03/2025 16:03

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

No no no! Is he mad? No way would I allow this. The most iconic scene in the movie is totally inappropriate to be linked with. It’s no less creepy than calling them Romeo and Juliet!

Apreslapluielesoleil · 26/03/2025 16:02

Terrible idea, there’s only one scene in that movie everyone remembers.

Long ago colleague’s twin siblings were named Jack and Jill, born early 60s maybe.

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