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To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:47

Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

OP posts:
Isittimeformynapyet · 26/03/2025 17:58

GofE · 26/03/2025 15:32

Oh no; when old enough/ teens, they may see the movie, and be very grossed out at the s*xual connotations... I couldn't imagine growing up with my brother and I being named after an infamous 'couple'.

Perhaps I'm being naive, but what what is s*xual code for? It must be terribly rude.

VerySkilledFirefighter · 26/03/2025 17:53

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

I was going to say I doubt it’s that obvious, as although I’d side eye Jack and Rose it wouldn’t be that bad. But Harry and Sally is that bad. Absolutely veto.

butterpuffed · 26/03/2025 17:49

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

Better than Harry and Meghan ...

LurcherMumma · 26/03/2025 17:47

As if he "wouldn't make the connection"! It's literally the name of the film. He's gone mad surely?

Onlyvisiting · 26/03/2025 17:46

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

Oh god, really? Those are the first names I thought of but thought surely not. and I've never even SEEN the film. My only knowledge of it is the clip of Sally faking and orgasm in a cafe. Please do not under any circumstances do that to your daughter.

DrPrunesqualer · 26/03/2025 17:46

First thought
Harry and Sally …..NO!

It really doesn’t matter if this way of naming twins is naff. The only point is you don’t agree.
Its both your choices. Not just dhs

Gonners · 26/03/2025 17:45

Pongo and Perdita would be "different".

MadamePeriwinkle · 26/03/2025 17:44

God no! And I bloody love that film.

How about Megan and Will(iam) (aka Meg and Billy but considerably less obvious)

JohnTheRevelator · 26/03/2025 17:44

Bonnie and Clyde? 😂

Didimum · 26/03/2025 17:41

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2025 17:39

Would you want to grow up with names associated with a romantic couple as siblings? Think about it. 🤦‍♀️

Cersei and Jaime?

Didimum · 26/03/2025 17:41

I have twins and I can’t stand it when people use gimmicky name pairs. Not my children, not my choice - I get it, but as a seasoned twin parent, there is so much ahead of you to combat with individualism and the very complex twin dynamic. Don’t make it harder for them or you by giving them a schmaltzy pair name.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/03/2025 17:39

Would you want to grow up with names associated with a romantic couple as siblings? Think about it. 🤦‍♀️

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autisticbookworm · 26/03/2025 17:38

Do you like either name? If you do I’d allow one and veto the other. Btw love when Harry met Sally

UneFoisAuChalet · 26/03/2025 17:37

Fred and Ginger.

We had a paid of boxers named that. Brother and sister, super cute. Because they were DOGS.

Dideon · 26/03/2025 17:36

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

As soon as you said 80,s romcom I guessed Harry and Sally.

Daisyrainbows · 26/03/2025 17:35

These are real people not dolls. Also weird to have romantic couples as siblings yuck

Topseyt123 · 26/03/2025 17:31

Nooooo! Awful. Don't let him do this.

It would be a hard no from me and I would absolutely use my veto

I could accept Harry, and I do like it, but not paired with Sally. Sally would have to be changed.

BreatheAndFocus · 26/03/2025 17:28

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

He’s being stupid, immature and unkind. Your twins are individuals not two halves of a joke. It sounds like he likes Harry as a name, but then just wanted the girl twin to be Sally to complete his stupid joke. That’s unkind. There’s nothing wrong with the name Sally, of course, but it’s not one many people would chose for a little girl now.

Tell him to grow up and chose two nice separate names for your twins.

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 26/03/2025 17:26

To even think about naming a brother and sister after a romantic couple gives me the "ick".
Stay the course of this because others will get the creepy crawlies up their neck when they meet your twins and they think of the couple.

Tell your other half that these are not puppies, kitties or gerbils that you are naming but a brother and sister and his suggestion is creepy and off-putting.

CloseEncountersOfTheTurdKind · 26/03/2025 17:26

Someone I know called their twins Charles and Diana. This was about 10 years ago , so after their divorce and her death

Cnf1 · 26/03/2025 17:24

It could be worse; I know twins called sam and ella 😬

andthat · 26/03/2025 17:23

Why would your husband want to name his newborn son and daughter after a couple whose most famous scene is related to sex and orgasms. That is just utterly weird.

1stTimeMummy2021 · 26/03/2025 17:22

@DefiniteGrouse I was worried you were going to say Harry and Sally, I don't think there is a person alive who wouldn't connect the names to the film.

LBFseBrom · 26/03/2025 17:20

Why would he name a brother and sister after two people who were romantically involved? That is totally inappropriate.

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