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To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:47

Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

OP posts:
Barney16 · 26/03/2025 20:19

Nooooooo. Don't let him. It's bizarre.

clary · 26/03/2025 20:10

Davros · 26/03/2025 19:34

Rick and Ilsa 🥁

hahah I also suggested this! Now that is my fave film. You could maybe get away with it (tho Rick is not a great name tbh) as I bet a lot of ppl would have no idea what Ingrid's character is called.

Panterusblackish · 26/03/2025 20:10

You grew them, risking your health and wellbeing to do so.

You get the final say

grumpygrape · 26/03/2025 20:09

Show him this thread ?

Dogs, cats, goldfish, OK. Children, nope.

clary · 26/03/2025 20:08

Twiglets1 · 26/03/2025 16:00

Sid and Nancy?

I actually know siblings called Sid and Nancy. I told DH (a few years ago now tbf) and he spat out his tea! Tho it’s more than possible that ppl wouldn’t know the connection (DH and I are OLD)

@DefiniteGrouse if your DH's fave romcom was While You Were Sleeping or You’ve Got Mail I think you would be fine (Lucy and Jack or Joe and Kathleen for reference – yes i had to look them up too, even tho I have seen both films multiple times).

The issue is that H and S are the title of the film. And actually it’s an iconic film that is still popular – 23yo DD is a big fan. I love it too and it’s still deffo watched (I think you are underestimating its impact actually). I told her about this and she laughed and said NO WAY.

I mean you would never call twins John and Yoko, or Romeo and Juliet, or Antony and Cleopatra, or Ross and Rachel (and they are not even the title).

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/03/2025 20:03

Soubriquet · 26/03/2025 19:53

Mn is fine with sexual language. You can say cunt and it’s fine as long as you’re not calling someone it

Not strictly true, calling Donald Trump a cunt is fine 😉

BeaAndBen · 26/03/2025 19:59

mewkins · 26/03/2025 19:27

I was thinking this too. Or Jack and Sarah (although I think that refers to a father and daughter iirc).

It was the wife and the infant daughter, iirc

Soubriquet · 26/03/2025 19:53

GofE · 26/03/2025 19:12

Not sure how censored Mumsnet is with text, Facebook would have me shot 😐

Mn is fine with sexual language. You can say cunt and it’s fine as long as you’re not calling someone it

Davros · 26/03/2025 19:34

Rick and Ilsa 🥁

mewkins · 26/03/2025 19:27

AmateurNoun · 26/03/2025 15:12

Bennie and Joon?

I was thinking this too. Or Jack and Sarah (although I think that refers to a father and daughter iirc).

AthWat · 26/03/2025 19:25

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

He's insane.

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/03/2025 19:24

I am sure I saw an ad recently where they are recreating that scene......I want to say mayonnaise. Is it current?

So THAT scene will be even more at the forefront of peoples minds given the birth is weeks away.

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/03/2025 19:19

madaffodil · 26/03/2025 15:32

There is ONLY ONE scene in that film that everyone immediately remembers.

Cute and meaningful it ain't. 😁

This. Yuk yuk yuk.

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/03/2025 19:18

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

I knew it would be that!

That is sooooooo awful.

Tell him he can have one of the other but absolutely not both!

Or that you have absolutely decided that you want to call them George and Mildred and be as intractible as he is being. Be a laugh if nothing else!

FloreatE · 26/03/2025 19:17

SpidersAreShitheads · 26/03/2025 19:11

I was debating about mentioning this….

My DM got two Christmas elves for my DC. A boy and a girl - to match the sexes of my DC.

In complete innocence, she called them Fred and Rose. We also lived in Gloucester at the time, just to reinforce the connection 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

In my DM’s defence, those names are common in her family/among her generation. She genuinely had no clue why me and DP were cracking up when she unveiled them 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Why is there no 'nearly wet myself laughing' emoji (and what would it look like if there were)?

Shegotanology · 26/03/2025 19:16

I'd compromise and say he can choose one of the names.

GofE · 26/03/2025 19:12

Isittimeformynapyet · 26/03/2025 17:58

Perhaps I'm being naive, but what what is s*xual code for? It must be terribly rude.

Not sure how censored Mumsnet is with text, Facebook would have me shot 😐

SpidersAreShitheads · 26/03/2025 19:11

FloreatE · 26/03/2025 18:57

I never normally say this, @DefiniteGrouse but I sort of think you should either show him this thread or suggest he tests it out anonymously for himself.

Never mind Jack and Rose; Fred and Rose would be preferable to this.

I was debating about mentioning this….

My DM got two Christmas elves for my DC. A boy and a girl - to match the sexes of my DC.

In complete innocence, she called them Fred and Rose. We also lived in Gloucester at the time, just to reinforce the connection 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

In my DM’s defence, those names are common in her family/among her generation. She genuinely had no clue why me and DP were cracking up when she unveiled them 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

simpledeer · 26/03/2025 19:08

Does anyone else remember a thread years ago where a poster genuinely wanted to call her twins Fox and Dana? 😂😂😂

sandyhappypeople · 26/03/2025 19:07

Oh fuck no..

It's not just the name of the characters it's the NAME OF THE FILM!.. everyone knows it!!

Are you seeing your mum on mother's day? Get her to replicate "the scene" for him at the dinner table, and then ask him if he wants everyone to think about that every time they meet your kids. Sorted.

juicylipbalm · 26/03/2025 19:02

Allie and Noah? 😭

Matildalamp · 26/03/2025 19:02

Is it Mork and Mindy? I could get on board with that 😂

LilyJosephine · 26/03/2025 18:59

Ha ha ha. YANBU to put your foot down. I thought it might be something obscure with very popular names like the 90’s romantic film “Jack and Sarah”. Both Top 100 names (or close in Sarah’s case) and if you introduced them the other way round as Sarah and Jack no one would make the connection .

But you can’t do Sally and Harry 🤣 - Sally isn’t that popular for a start and it’s such a classic film that lots of people will make the connection even reversed. Molly or Polly instead? Maybe Sadie? (Like Sally it’s another Sarah nickname). All similar vibes to Sally. Or consider something like Charlie and Sally instead.

Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit · 26/03/2025 18:58

Damn I came on to suggest Ripley and Jones from Alien.
Although I'm saving them for any of this seasons fox cubs that hang around.

Bigcat25 · 26/03/2025 18:57

That was my guess op, and I haven't seen the movie either!

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