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To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:47

Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

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Chuchoter · 26/03/2025 15:13

Bella and Edwards. Massive cringe.

YeGodsandLittleFishies · 26/03/2025 15:13

I have twins. It’s a really good idea to treat them as individuals right from the beginning.

They aren’t a “set”, but other people will treat them that way if you do.

We avoided lots of twin nonsense by not ever even referring to them as “the twins”.

Their relationship as twins is important to them, but shouldn’t be important to other people. They are individuals first and foremost.

When naming twins it’s also a good idea to avoid alliteration (Topsy and Tim) and rhyming (Andy and Mandy)

Each parent should get absolute veto. You have to agree.

AmateurNoun · 26/03/2025 15:12

Bennie and Joon?

Naunet · 26/03/2025 15:11

Fuck no! You're the one creating and birthing these children, and presumably they're already getting his last name, so no, he doesnt get to dictate both the first names, especially when its just based on a bloody film.

Chuchoter · 26/03/2025 15:09

Tarzan and Jane sounds nice.

Smallmercies · 26/03/2025 15:08

Shirley and Costas? Johnny and Baby?

Devilsmommy · 26/03/2025 15:08

Is it jack and rose? Tell him it's creepy as fuck to name siblings after lovers🤢

Easterbunnygettingsorted · 26/03/2025 15:07

Suggest Ant (onia) and Declan.. See if he is as keen on matching names then.

Namesy · 26/03/2025 15:07

I think it would be weird to name siblings after a famous couple. You’re carrying the babies so I think you should choose as long as your DH doesn’t hate the names.

UndermyShoeJoe · 26/03/2025 15:06

He wants them to have names where people will think of them as from a romantic couple.

He needs to really digest that. He wants his children to be Harley Quinn and the joker does he? People won’t think aww cute they will go eww that’s a bit weird. Incest vibes…

HeyThereDelila · 26/03/2025 15:06

No, weird if they’re siblings to name them after a romantic couple (wtf?)

You both have to firmly agree on names - if either of you doesn’t like it then it goes off the list.

Yiayoula · 26/03/2025 15:05

Harry and Sally ?
Edward and Vivien ?
Danny and Sandy ? ( probably too early )

Seriously , no couples names for siblings !

Smallmercies · 26/03/2025 15:05

Reallyoldperson · 26/03/2025 15:04

Romeo and Juliet, Bonnie and Clyde ?

Rosie and Jim? Harry and Sally?

AmateurNoun · 26/03/2025 15:04

Kate and Leopold?

Whatever it is, it's very wrong to name your children after a romantic couple. YANBU

Reallyoldperson · 26/03/2025 15:04

Romeo and Juliet, Bonnie and Clyde ?

Smallmercies · 26/03/2025 15:04

Tell him it's Punch and Judy or nothing.

Chuchoter · 26/03/2025 15:02

How utterly childish of him.

These are human children not kittens.

I hope he isn't immature in any other ways.

I'd be so embarrassed if he told other people this in front of me.

KnickerFolder · 26/03/2025 15:02

🙄 They are individual babies not a pair of puppies.

That said, it is quite nice to have a story behind your name, as long as you don’t have to share the story with everyone. Could you use the names as middle names or one first name and one middle name or a different form of the names, as you say you like the names individually?

eg if it were Harry and Sally
Harry James and Isabella Sally
Henry and Sally
Harry and Sarah (Sally comes from Sarah)

Idontjetwashthefucker · 26/03/2025 15:01

Weird to name them after a romantic couple, maybe reiterate to him that the couple were LOVERS, that should surely change his mind

CaramelVanilla · 26/03/2025 14:59

Naming siblings after Romantic film characters..... EW

Hibernatingtilspring · 26/03/2025 14:59

As a twin (boy and girl) I have TOO MANY creepy childhood memories where adults treated us as though we were a couple. Looking back it's so weird! Classic one was making us be Mary and Joseph in the school Nativity, linking our names together, talking about how we didn't need anyone else etc... Just so weird!

Don't let your husband do this, they need to be people in their own right, and associating them with a romantic couple is just creepy AF.

Gundogday · 26/03/2025 14:58

Definitely veto!

Can you mention the names to see quickly we can get the film?

Rhett and Scarlett

LlynTegid · 26/03/2025 14:57

I am with you on this one, OP. Agreed is the word here. I'd also think about how others might react, no-one should set up a child for a lifetime of jokes about their name or having to correct spelling of it.

BelloItalia · 26/03/2025 14:54

Oh just realised it’s a film

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:54

PiastriThePastry · 26/03/2025 14:49

Oh how completely ridiculous. It would be bad enough to name them after any recognisable film duo but a romantic couple?! No.

Exactly!! I could maybe get on board if it were just one of the names, but the full set together? It’s giving “super fan” and not in a good way. I don’t want people side-eyeing us at the school gates thinking we planned it as some sort of tribute to a 90s romcom.

DH keeps saying he wouldn’t make the connection if he met kids with these names. I call BS because everyone our age knows this film. Even my MIL, who barely watches anything, immediately went “Oh, like Film Name?” when we mentioned it.

I told him last night that I just don’t want to spend the next 18 years explaining our weirdly themed baby names to every new teacher, doctor, or parent we meet. He’s now sulking and saying I’ve “killed the magic.”

Like, mate, the real magic is keeping two newborns alive on zero sleep – not naming them after some Hollywood love story!

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