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To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:47

Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

OP posts:
ScrubMummy · 26/03/2025 15:29

Edit… sorry, crossed post OP

mathanxiety · 26/03/2025 15:29

Harry and Sally!!

Absolutely not. Poor Sally would get very tired very quickly of the "I'll have what she's having" remarks.

What is wrong with your husband FFS.

Velvian · 26/03/2025 15:29

Oh no Harry and Sally is really bad. 😂As you say both nice names, but not together. If he was the one pregnant, I would blame hormones, but he has no excuse.

ginasevern · 26/03/2025 15:29

Why is he so attached to this film anyway, I mean to the extent that he'd name his children after it? That's some disturbing fandom right there. Anyway apart from the unforgiveable naffness, the sexual connotations will be the butt of jokes and raised eyebrows forever more. Please don't do this to your children OP.

SillySeal · 26/03/2025 15:29

I think 90% of people i know would know that movie and think of it hearing those names together. It's an iconic movie not just a random one.

westcott · 26/03/2025 15:29

He can’t possibly think this is a good idea.

Carodebalo · 26/03/2025 15:29

This is either a windup or your husband is completely nuts (and I’m truly sorry to say that). Please show him this thread, or not, but please tell him NO! EVERYONE will know.

ScrubMummy · 26/03/2025 15:28

Really sorry, OP, but I’m laughing my head off at some of these!

I’m not a film watcher, but even I’m alarmed at your DHs thinking! Poor twins, it must be tough enough as it is, always being lumped together - without comedy names from your own Dad? and just “wow” at the school who made twins be Mary and Joseph!😱

Surely not Danny and Sandy?
Surely not Harry and Sally?

And 😆 at Rosie and Jim!!

…..it’s Harry and Sally isn’t it?

Whoarethoseguys · 26/03/2025 15:27

Are the names Harry and Sally?
Whatevers they are I agree that naming them after a romcom couple is not a good idea and it's not cute.
Apart from anything else they are brother and sister not a romantic couple!
But also they will be individuals and their names should reflect that.

DappledThings · 26/03/2025 15:27

Harry and Sally are traditionally short for Henry and Sarah. How about using those, or a combination like Henry and Sally so it can still be a tribute in his mind but not as painfully obvious. Henry and Sara if you want to go one step further away.

Yiayoula · 26/03/2025 15:26

@DefiniteGrouse - thanks for confirming!

Hard no to Harry and Sally .

Agapornis · 26/03/2025 15:26

The film is from 1989 btw (pedant)

xILikeJamx · 26/03/2025 15:26

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

Go back and suggest Sarah Connor and Terminator

Agapornis · 26/03/2025 15:25

I think Harry has already met Sally 😅

They should obviously never shag so no, romantic couple names are out.

Thomson and Thompson?

Livelaughlurgy · 26/03/2025 15:24

Bahahahaha DH suggested Edward for a boy and I had to veto because I wanted Isobel for a girl and couldn't live in a world where I might have Bella and Edward as my children.

DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 15:23

I wasn’t going to say the names, but since everyone’s guessing, they’re Harry and Sally.

OP posts:
xILikeJamx · 26/03/2025 15:23

Everyone's so clearly wrong - the twins will be called Beauty and Beast.

Personally I think it's really cute

SuperMarioSuperMario · 26/03/2025 15:23

Vivienne and Edward?

But yeah, no mate 😆 It's fine to be a sentimental bloke, but this needs channeling elsewhere more appropriate, can you get him a couple of gerbils or something?!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/03/2025 15:20

PS - it's Harry and Sally, isn't it?

JazbayGrapes · 26/03/2025 15:19

Naming siblings after literal lovers is weird AF. Pets yeah, but not kids

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/03/2025 15:19

You're growing twins in your body, why on earth would you not have a right of veto over their names? Tell your husband to get back in his box. And make sure you personally book and attend the registration appointment.

UndermyShoeJoe · 26/03/2025 15:19

Oh god Bella and Edward haha

A old neighbour gave all their children tv show names she’s very odd.

PiastriThePastry · 26/03/2025 15:18

Do not doubt your decision op, save your children from this wretched fate! I’m dying a bit at the ‘killed the magic’ line, sorry for laughing 😅 if it’s Bella and Edward, well, all i have to say is; 🐀

Mansionscoldandgrey · 26/03/2025 15:16

Charles and Duckface?

Crunchymum · 26/03/2025 15:14

Was just going to say Bella and Edward!

Both lovely names but yep not together.

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