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To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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DefiniteGrouse · 26/03/2025 14:47

Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

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Kitkatcatflap · 27/03/2025 23:25

I was hoping for Alladin and Jasmine

thankyounextplease · 27/03/2025 23:15

GofE · 26/03/2025 19:12

Not sure how censored Mumsnet is with text, Facebook would have me shot 😐

Don't be silly, you can say the word sexual on Facebook

Alltheyearround · 27/03/2025 20:10

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/03/2025 20:03

Not strictly true, calling Donald Trump a cunt is fine 😉

Its too good a word to use to describe him. I'd say he was more of a dick tbh.

Alltheyearround · 27/03/2025 20:07

Steer away from RomComs,but other pairs of names could be put forward.

Jack and Jill
Laurel and Hardy..
Cannon and Ball.
Morcambe and Wise.

The possibilities are endless...

Please come back and tell us what you chose in the end!

theDudesmummy · 27/03/2025 10:49

It's really odd how people comment on threads without even reading the OP's posts. It seems to happen a lot. Do people really just read the first post on a thread and then decide that must be all there is to the discussion? Saying "why don't you tell us the names" is strange: how would you know whether she had or hadn't if you have not read her posts?

Topseyt123 · 27/03/2025 09:57

Goldengirl123 · 27/03/2025 09:31

Why don’t you just tell us the names!!

Read the OP's posts. She did. Yesterday.

Fancycheese · 27/03/2025 09:54

Blows my mind that people seem to think naming children is some kind of joke, or a chance to be quirky. Absolutely not. Tell him to get 2 fish and give the names to them. Is he ok?

ruethewhirl · 27/03/2025 09:51

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 27/03/2025 01:50

I know of a Ronnie & Reggie twin locally.

For those not old enough... Well known east end murderous gangsters in the 1960s

A friend of mine at primary school named her rabbits Bonnie and Clyde. We were about 10, I can only guess that one of her parents or another adult suggested it. I’d never heard of Bonnie and Clyde till then.

Davros · 27/03/2025 09:41

I knew two cat brothers called Ronnie and Reggie. Can’t say I liked it or thought it was funny 🤷‍♀️

DappledThings · 27/03/2025 09:33

Goldengirl123 · 27/03/2025 09:31

Why don’t you just tell us the names!!

She did. Yesterday afternoon. And loads of posters have commented on them since.

Goldengirl123 · 27/03/2025 09:31

Why don’t you just tell us the names!!

moonshinepoursthroughmywindow · 27/03/2025 08:46

I wouldn't do this. They're a very famous couple and I can just picture exactly which scene people will reference when teasing them when they get a bit older.

Just wanted to say I slightly hoped it was Riley and Terry (action not romcom, and one of my favourites from that time, although I don't think the character whose first name is Riley actually reveals that until right at the end).

PiastriThePastry · 27/03/2025 08:43

Twiglets1 · 27/03/2025 04:34

So do I but they’re Staffordshire bull terriers 😂

The ones I know are jack russells… which honestly makes sense 😂

Catandsquirrel · 27/03/2025 08:23

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 27/03/2025 01:49

Harold & maude is a brilliant film!

Not sure I'd want the overtones of gerontotophilia 😂

Haha I can totally see what Harold saw in Maude. My personal hope though for an untold sequel is that he gave Sunshine a call after he had grieved. She was quirky enough to understand him and help channel his theatrics.

I think it's in awful taste using Reggie and Ronnie Kray as namesakes even for pets. I would think so much less of someone for doing that.

Twiglets1 · 27/03/2025 04:34

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 27/03/2025 01:50

I know of a Ronnie & Reggie twin locally.

For those not old enough... Well known east end murderous gangsters in the 1960s

So do I but they’re Staffordshire bull terriers 😂

MsBucket · 27/03/2025 02:17

@IamtheDevilsAvocado I know the Kray twins existed, but didn’t know their first names. My mind went straight to EastEnders. I’m pretty sure there was a Ronnie and a Reggie Mitchell.

Edit: I misremembered 😳. It was Ronnie and Roxy.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 27/03/2025 01:50

MsBucket · 27/03/2025 00:54

@FloreatE Why would Fred and Rose be more preferable? 🤔 It’d still be gross and it would be worse because they’d be named after murderers. Surely that’d be creepy? Unless you were being sarcastic?

I know of a Ronnie & Reggie twin locally.

For those not old enough... Well known east end murderous gangsters in the 1960s

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 27/03/2025 01:49

Catandsquirrel · 26/03/2025 16:07

Wtf Harry and Sally? That's weird. There was a faking orgasm scene. They were famously a romantic / sexual couple. What's he thinking? How mortify for the children.

I was hoping for Harold and Maude at least. Same issue but better film and names.

Harold & maude is a brilliant film!

Not sure I'd want the overtones of gerontotophilia 😂

MsBucket · 27/03/2025 00:54

FloreatE · 26/03/2025 18:57

I never normally say this, @DefiniteGrouse but I sort of think you should either show him this thread or suggest he tests it out anonymously for himself.

Never mind Jack and Rose; Fred and Rose would be preferable to this.

@FloreatE Why would Fred and Rose be more preferable? 🤔 It’d still be gross and it would be worse because they’d be named after murderers. Surely that’d be creepy? Unless you were being sarcastic?

GiddyCrab · 27/03/2025 00:06

Naunet · 26/03/2025 15:11

Fuck no! You're the one creating and birthing these children, and presumably they're already getting his last name, so no, he doesnt get to dictate both the first names, especially when its just based on a bloody film.

This.
He needs to grow up. Ruining his bloody magic indeed.
The answer is NO. End.

Lilyhatesjaz · 26/03/2025 23:45

I wonder if perhaps he hasn't actually seen the film in ages and has forgotten what it is about, maybe watching it again would be enough to put him off.

Eenameenadeeka · 26/03/2025 23:07

It'd be a no for me because it's really weird naming siblings after a couple, but we always had that either of us could disagree with a name for ANY reason, "I don't like it" being a good enough reason. The last 2 I thought would never find a name haha but we got there in the end

hididdlyho · 26/03/2025 22:43

YANBU. Could a compromise be to name the boy Harry and the girl be a different first name, with the middle name Sally?

bringonyourwreckingball · 26/03/2025 22:07

That is my favorite film of all time and that would be beyond weird

Mydadsbirthday · 26/03/2025 20:50

Just show him this thread. You're completely in the right here