Favourite wedding and why?

Why would you care if someone liked their wedding more? You will like yours best and that is all that honestly matters.

However my favourite weddings:

Had enough places for guests to sit while hanging out waiting for the meal.

Had refreshments (not necessarily alcohol but snacks and drinks) while hanging around during photos.

Short photo sessions.

Short, heartfelt and not embarrassing speeches.

A bride and groom who made an effort to work round the guests and have a quick word with everyone.

An most importantly a bridge and groom that looked like they were in love and having a wonderful time.

The shortest ones are the best.

I don't think people really compare weddings - in that way do they?

My favourite ones have ranged from the very posh to the almost completely DIY. Afree bar and all the add ons in a country house - incredible food on a beautiful sunny day. One in a church hall with a sandwich buffet, someone's mate being the DJ, dodgy as anything play list - but everyone still up dancing and nipping round to the coop to top up the booze.

What was lovely was the sense that the 2 people getting married really wanted to and had everyone just so happy for them.

One's that haven't worked so well have been where there's been tension or a general feeling of 'this isn't going to last long..'

We aimed for a party feeling for ours....it was quite relaxed - it was basically a nice dinner with a disco afterwards.

the favourite wedding I've attended other than my own was a strange one as the couple didn't even make it a year so I feel bad for them. It was great because I knew so many people there, like literally had someone I knew sitting at every table, sometimes I knew the whole table. There was great food and drink too, but mostly it was the company. However I cant look back at it fondly simply because I feel so bad for the couple, it cost a lot of money and a lot of heartache

My favourite wedding that I have been to was a registry office ceremony, followed by a wedding breakfast at the local Indian restaurant, and a disco in the grooms parents back garden. It was lovely, so relaxed and fun, and nothing like any other wedding I have ever been to.

Finger food at the end of the night. Soakage😅 Op all that matters is that you’re happy with the day! Enjoy!

I sure as fuck compared the weddings of twin brothers which were a year apart.

One was abroad, saved the bride and groom thousands which was spent instead by guests. Really stingy hosting.

One was local, had really generous and delicious food and drink, and free accommodation for guests.

I don't think people will really compare weddings? Surely they are coming to see you get married, eat, drink, dance and be merry.

I wouldn't invite anyone who was like that. Fuck them

PS, the best wedding I've been to apart from mine was in a marquee on a beautifully sunny evening, with a free bar.

Every wedding I’ve been to has been different - even those where the venues and format have been similar. I can’t compare them and say which was “best”, because there were different elements of each that I really liked, and different elements that I didn’t. In short, don’t worry too much about anyone making comparisons and finding yours totally lacking.

I found the wedding which had been planned meticulously with a very strict timetable for the day’s proceedings quite hard work because it made both bride and groom and many guests quite tense and worried that something would “go wrong” - but equally, that wedding had a great evening do. Ultimately I’ve always really appreciated it when couples accept that something will probably not go as planned and are totally relaxed about it so that everyone gets to just enjoy themselves rather than feel as though they’re a part of a staged and choreographed theatre production.

The key to getting good music is to get a DJ that isn't a "wedding DJ", but actually plays the kind of music that you're into on a regular basis. We had disco and reggae followed by some drum and bass at ours (appreciate this would be some people's idea of hell, but it was what we and our friends were into).

We also had lots of space to sit down and chat in rooms that were not the room with the dance floor, so not everyone had to listen to the music.8

The things I copied for my wedding from ones I attended that made a difference were:

• Our own Spotify playlist. Never seen a DJ do a good job, usually really naff choices, weird shouting over songs and empty dancefloors. Our dancefloor was full to the end.
• Quieter places to sit and chat away from the dancefloor. Made a huge difference to be able to chill out with people and talk properly. You don't need to organise fun, you just need to provide space for it to happen.

I went to my baby nephew's bathtime, sat in front of a roaring fire with my parents and the guest dog, and had port and cheese in the room of a friend.