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MIL wants DH to meet her on his own for Mother’s Day

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Sunshine202341 · 26/03/2025 12:30

DH mentioned the other day that his mum has asked if him and his two other siblings want to meet her on Sunday for Mother’s Day (partners not invited). We have a young baby and one of his siblings also has a child. It would be a full day trip for him as she lives 2 hours away. I obviously don’t have an issue with him meeting his mum, however I feel that it would be nice for us to spend Mother’s Day together as a family seeing as I am now a mum! Plus it means I’ll be on solo parenting duty that day. My own parents are on holiday that day. I feel like she hasn’t considered the siblings who now have their own young families. Can’t work out if AIBU or not?

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LizzoBennett · 26/03/2025 12:38

Your MIL doesn't like you very much it seems! So inconsiderate.

A lunch or dinner on the Saturday seems reasonable. I would then spend that time with my own mum along with baby.

Commonsenseisnotsocommon · 26/03/2025 12:38

What an incredibly thoughtless/selfish woman your mil is. She could have picked any other time so she is clearly just trying to pull rank. Yes she's a mother too but to give her sons partners with little ones absolutely no consideration shows how self absorbed she is and happy to put her sons in a tug of war.

Violetpalmtrees · 26/03/2025 12:36

Codlingmoths · 26/03/2025 12:32

My dh would say no, I’ll be parenting and giving sunshine a break since a baby is a lot of work, we could all come out Saturday or the next weekend , or you could come our way for afternoon tea?

This. My DH would say no sorry mum whilst she was on the phone to him.

hattie43 · 26/03/2025 12:36

Do you think she has some private news to impart ? Illness / inheritance etc Children first , maybe . What does she normally want .

HollyBerryz · 26/03/2025 12:35

Stressmode · 26/03/2025 12:32

As They are all adults surely an evening meet up will work well for them so they get to spend the day with their own families?

Excellent solution. Mil can't accuse you of hogging him then and you still get the day together with him spoiling you for Mother's Day. I don't know why she didn't invite you all though. Seems like a power play to me.

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/03/2025 12:34

What’s he said to her? You’re obviously not wrong.

DenholmElliot11 · 26/03/2025 12:34

Yanbu. That’s an odd ask. I guess as long as you get a little something from the kids in the morning it’s ok but it’s an odd thing to ask. I always include my kids partners in family life. Who tells their own son she doesn’t want to see his wife and kids?

Mrsttcno1 · 26/03/2025 12:34

I wouldn’t mind my husband doing it but I know he wouldn’t agree to do it actually ON mothers day, we’d spend that day together and they would arrange another day/evening

Codlingmoths · 26/03/2025 12:34

Also, if it’s your first Mother’s Day day pointedly does that mean you haven’t planned anything for my first Mother’s Day? I’ll remember that for Father’s Day when I suggest I disappear for the day and leave you to look after the kids- at least that’s bonding time you don’t get every day, while I get it 24/7 at the moment so some co parenting would really be nice.

RhiWrites · 26/03/2025 12:34

I can sympathise with sometimes wanting to see your own child or children without their partners, but in adult life most couples come as a package deal. And Mother’s Day is a terrible choice when your children have children of their own.

Stressmode · 26/03/2025 12:32

As They are all adults surely an evening meet up will work well for them so they get to spend the day with their own families?

Codlingmoths · 26/03/2025 12:32

My dh would say no, I’ll be parenting and giving sunshine a break since a baby is a lot of work, we could all come out Saturday or the next weekend , or you could come our way for afternoon tea?

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