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It’s a parking one

70 replies

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 11:24

We have had someone park across our driveway this seems to be most days, for between 2 mins and 30 mins, while their child gets off the school transport (their child has SEN) this person lives about 10 houses down.

I approached them to ask them not to do this and they can park their car in numerous places and that they had blocked me getting off my drive the day before by 30 mins, when I had an important appointment. well I got a mouthful telling me that I was a Cu£t and they were not parked just stopped the fact they were out of their car chatting to the transport driver and going into their house to get bags etc.

They are now parking across the drive and not moving at all every single day, AIBU to call the council so that they get a bloody park ticket.

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CaramelVanilla · 26/03/2025 13:51

Hoppinggreen · 26/03/2025 12:38

Good plan
Maybe give the CF's car a quick valet and leave her a box of chocolates as well

Yeah, maybe pop round and clean the house too?

WinterBones · 26/03/2025 13:51

if they won't listen to polite reasonable requests, i'd
a) report to the council
b) report to the police
c) purposely be an arse and park over her driveway every day.

CaramelVanilla · 26/03/2025 13:50

DeathNote11 · 26/03/2025 11:53

We all know whose car is whose on our street. But I appreciate your scenario may be the case on bigger streets.

We do too, but we have a child minder and a church in our road, so the residents know my car for example. but if i park over my driveway on a day thats normally a babygroup at the church hall, and not the next week, they will think, oh its ok - I'll just park there, someone did last week

Walkden · 26/03/2025 13:47

"The taxi driver is not blocking my drive and is parking perfectly legally.
I believe the Mum has asked the Taxi driver to stop where they are stopping.
I just want to be able to get off my drive without someone completely blocking it everyday"

If they are parking deliberately across your drive have you thought about parking at the end of their 10m drive, preferably before the taxi turns up?

There is absolutely no point trying to be reasonable with people like this.

BlumminFreezin · 26/03/2025 13:41

I would take a photo of the car every single time.

Then I'd approach her, whilst videoing, to tell her I'd taken a photo and ask her to please move her car or i'll need to report it. And I'd stand right there with her, during her interactions with the child/driver and keep politely repeating the request. Whilst videoing. Then I'd submit the photo and the video of her being abusive/refusing to the police.

And I'd do this every single time.

midsommarmadness · 26/03/2025 13:36

Yes you have to call the council and explain your issue to them

PuppiesProzacProsecco · 26/03/2025 13:32

LlynTegid · 26/03/2025 13:29

I would not criticise the taxi driver who may be being pressurised by the mum.

So if CF mum says "Billy doesn't like seatbelts - don't make him wear one", the taxi driver should just acquiesce? No, because he is in charge of the vehicle and must follow the laws of the land and the Highway Code. Ergo, he needs to stop leaving the child off somewhere ridiculous that results in child's CF mum blocking the OP's drive!

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 13:32

The taxi driver is not blocking my drive and is parking perfectly legally.

I believe the Mum has asked the Taxi driver to stop where they are stopping.

I just want to be able to get off my drive without someone completely blocking it everyday

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LurkyMcLurkinson · 26/03/2025 13:32

When she’s next due to be there just hide your car round the corner then block her in on your drive and go out. She’ll give you a mouthful but you can tell her you’ve got to dash and can’t stop. Having to be without her vehicle might prompt her to reflect on how selfish she’s been.

LlynTegid · 26/03/2025 13:29

I would not criticise the taxi driver who may be being pressurised by the mum.

qotsa · 26/03/2025 13:29

PsychoHotSauce · 26/03/2025 12:51

I didn't suggest you should move your car off your drive. I meant stop using it in the future, at least for now.

I knew the 'why should I...?' would come next Hmm I've been on the receiving end of the same kind of behaviour, complete with the gobful of abuse. It's not fun, and a little part of me died every time they 'won' the daily drive war but you might feel differently. If you want to carry on using your drive out of principle, then she'll keep blocking you in. No matter what you say, she's not going to suddenly stop because you said so.

There's only one way of stopping her blocking you in, soooo...

If you want to ‘keep using your drive out of principle’….. wtaf?

TheNoonBell · 26/03/2025 13:28

Every time she does it, take photos of the car with the registration visible and report it to the police.

When reporting say it is both blocking the drive and targeted deliberate harrassment.

LlynTegid · 26/03/2025 13:28

SEN transport I think is still provided by the Council. So if they don't act you can raise it formally with them.

If you are to discuss it with the school, let them know the mother uses such language in front of her child, in case the word is used by the child whilst at school.

minnienono · 26/03/2025 13:24

Complain to the taxi company and school, take photos and report to police and council. Might not actually help but you are a. doing something and b. Seeing you taking photos might change habits.

BoredZelda · 26/03/2025 13:23

PsychoHotSauce · 26/03/2025 12:51

I didn't suggest you should move your car off your drive. I meant stop using it in the future, at least for now.

I knew the 'why should I...?' would come next Hmm I've been on the receiving end of the same kind of behaviour, complete with the gobful of abuse. It's not fun, and a little part of me died every time they 'won' the daily drive war but you might feel differently. If you want to carry on using your drive out of principle, then she'll keep blocking you in. No matter what you say, she's not going to suddenly stop because you said so.

There's only one way of stopping her blocking you in, soooo...

This makes sense to me. You can’t control people’s actions, only your reaction. If the short term solution is to make sure you aren’t blocked in then park across your own drive or park somewhere else. Then at least you aren’t inconvenienced.

In the background, sort it out with the taxi company, or contact the police.

Waffleswithhothoney · 26/03/2025 13:14

If you have spoken to her and she’s not being reasonable or explaining why exactly she is doing it then I’d go for this: park over her drive for the same amount of time. Move and park across her drive in exactly the same way she does with yours. When she tells you why you are out of line explain that’s exactly why she shouldn’t park across your drive. See how she likes it?

edited to add: I would do this 5 mins before she usually moves to block your drive

Helleofabore · 26/03/2025 13:11

PsychoHotSauce · 26/03/2025 12:51

I didn't suggest you should move your car off your drive. I meant stop using it in the future, at least for now.

I knew the 'why should I...?' would come next Hmm I've been on the receiving end of the same kind of behaviour, complete with the gobful of abuse. It's not fun, and a little part of me died every time they 'won' the daily drive war but you might feel differently. If you want to carry on using your drive out of principle, then she'll keep blocking you in. No matter what you say, she's not going to suddenly stop because you said so.

There's only one way of stopping her blocking you in, soooo...

But there is more than one way to stop her blocking the OP in.

And that is to break the habit either through council parking enforcement or through the taxi company no longer enabling the behaviour by dropping off elsewhere.

I too have been on the receiving end of abuse from driveway blockers. The best way to stop it was to get the council involved with tickets issued and the organisation contributing to the issue, such as the taxi company who should also be not enabling this parent.

I am sorry though that you were not supported by your council to stop those abusive parkers. It sounds rough.

CatsWhiskerz · 26/03/2025 13:10

Goodness what's wrong with people - CF For sure 😵‍💫 I'd also call the taxi company

Winifredtabago · 26/03/2025 13:00

Can you park your car in front of your driveway to stop her? It's not a solution for the long term of course but it would force her to go elsewhere and help get the message across.

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 26/03/2025 12:53

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 12:44

The taxi can turn but chooses not to.

Complain to the taxi company. Much more likely to get results than remonstrating with the cunty mother.

PsychoHotSauce · 26/03/2025 12:51

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 12:46

No I can’t move my car off my drive. Please read my post again.

Why should I not use my drive?

Should I bring her a cup of coffee while she is blocking my drive.

I didn't suggest you should move your car off your drive. I meant stop using it in the future, at least for now.

I knew the 'why should I...?' would come next Hmm I've been on the receiving end of the same kind of behaviour, complete with the gobful of abuse. It's not fun, and a little part of me died every time they 'won' the daily drive war but you might feel differently. If you want to carry on using your drive out of principle, then she'll keep blocking you in. No matter what you say, she's not going to suddenly stop because you said so.

There's only one way of stopping her blocking you in, soooo...

Helleofabore · 26/03/2025 12:48

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 12:44

The taxi can turn but chooses not to.

Then I would think that a complaint to the taxi company may also help and note this when you are discussing it with your council.

TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 12:46

PsychoHotSauce · 26/03/2025 12:36

Tbh from what OP is saying it seems that if she came home and someone was parked over her drive, she could just park elsewhere on the street until they moved (I might be wrong).

The simple answer is to stop using your drive, and you'll never be blocked in on it. If the CF is prone to mouthing off and abuse, it's the quickest and easiest route to solving the impact on you, because they won't stop.

No I can’t move my car off my drive. Please read my post again.

Why should I not use my drive?

Should I bring her a cup of coffee while she is blocking my drive.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 12:44

Helleofabore · 26/03/2025 12:29

Why can't the taxi drop the child off in front of their drive though?

Is it an issue that the taxi cannot then turn around or something?

The taxi can turn but chooses not to.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 26/03/2025 12:43

PhilippaGeorgiou · 26/03/2025 12:24

10 METRES? Again I ask - is there something wrong with their legs??? And why is the cab dropping a child somewhere that is not where they are going?

Nothing wrong with their legs.

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