Page 5 | Do you remind your partner about their own mother on mother's day?

Laiste · 2025-03-25T20:39:29+00:00

Or do you just leave them to it? Do you actually buy the card for him? Do you feel he should do more but you don't get involved? Just interested 😊 In our case i remind him, but leave him to it AND think he should do more ...

Fibrous · 25/03/2025 21:17

I reminded him in the supermarket the other day as I was picking out a card for my mother but he’d already got one. Job done. I don’t remind my siblings because some bother, some don’t, and me reminding them won’t make any difference. I’ll still get it in the ear from mum about them not sending anything. It’s always the good children that end up punished!

user1491396110 · 25/03/2025 21:16

I do, and if I'm the one in the shop and see something she would like I'll get it. He does many thoughtful things for me without being asked to. We're a team and it's not difficult while getting my own mum something at the same time.

PeloMom · 25/03/2025 21:15

UsernameTalk · 25/03/2025 20:41

I don't husbands job to sort, not my Circus not my monkeys

Same!

VerySkilledFirefighter · 25/03/2025 21:15

I reminded him it was Mother’s Day this weekend a couple of weeks ago, because I had no idea and spotted it in the calendar and he was sat next to me. He’d have reminded me if he’d seen it first. I won’t do anything more than that, he’s just picked something up for his mum from IKEA and told her that can be her Mother’s Day present. I wouldn’t have reminded him or intervened if that hadn’t have happened, he’s a functioning adult.

Wigtopia · 25/03/2025 21:13

TheatreTraveller · 25/03/2025 20:59

This thread made me sad...I love my MIL, she is a kind loving mam and a lovely Grandma to our children so I put thought into her gifts just as I do for my mam.
We are a team - Anything we can do to make the other person's life a little easier we do. This year I ordered all the gifts (my mam, MIL, his grandma and Aunt) DH went out and bought all the cards. I'm happy to be the gift organiser for both sides of the family as he does lots of things for me/my family too.

Why does the thread make you sad? Are you assuming that everyone that says they don’t reminder their partners/husbands results in the partners’/husbands’ family being forgotten?

I don’t remind mine, because he sorts it. It wouldn’t cross my mind to remind him because he isn’t a child. It’s not about making life easier it’s just that he is a grown adult and was able to remember and purchase these things before he met me, and is fully capable of continuing

Brefugee · 25/03/2025 21:13

Inspirationfailure · 25/03/2025 20:49

I don’t, because not my circus and I do enough family admin. But I do feel bad because MIL is lovely and DH doesn’t do anything. So not sure what the answer is.

tell him. After Mothers' Day tell him just how shit it is, as a mother, when your child makes zero effort.
And that it makes you not fancy him at all.

Masmavi · 25/03/2025 21:12

I don't deal with any presents or cards for the in-laws. As a result they don't get any or they get something last-minute and rushed from him. But it's not quite the same as the in-laws are from a different culture and are not big on celebrating birthdays, no Christmas etc.

Wigtopia · 25/03/2025 21:09

Nope! I don’t take responsibility for any cards or gifts for his side of the family. It’s never even come up and I’m not quite sure how anyone ends up being responsible for it or even feel like they should be giving reminders. 🤔

lylagarrity · 25/03/2025 21:06

I can’t imagine feeling sexual attraction to a giant man baby who needed reminding of an annual event.

LavenderBlue19 · 25/03/2025 21:03

No, I do not. He'd a grown adult with a responsible job and as much awareness of the world as me, he can manage to buy his mother a card.

I love my MIL too, but she's not my mum! I have more then enough of my own jobs to do, I don't need his as well.

Acc0untant · 25/03/2025 21:01

Not at all. I don't need him to remind me about it so no idea why I should remind him.

Iwannakeepondancing · 25/03/2025 21:00

Thankfully she doesn’t believe in it as I wouldn’t remind DH anyone as she’s an old witch!

TheatreTraveller · 25/03/2025 20:59

This thread made me sad...I love my MIL, she is a kind loving mam and a lovely Grandma to our children so I put thought into her gifts just as I do for my mam.
We are a team - Anything we can do to make the other person's life a little easier we do. This year I ordered all the gifts (my mam, MIL, his grandma and Aunt) DH went out and bought all the cards. I'm happy to be the gift organiser for both sides of the family as he does lots of things for me/my family too.

DappledThings · 25/03/2025 20:55

He's more likely to remember than I am to be honest. But I wouldn't expect him to remind me any more than I'd expect to remind him

MyIvyGrows · 25/03/2025 20:54

I do not. She’s been his mother for 44 years and the cards have been in shops since the day after Valentine’s Day.

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Laiste · 25/03/2025 20:54

I remind everyone I know, where I suspect incompetence.

I love this phrase.

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Gravytanned · 25/03/2025 20:54

I might mention it’s Mother’s Day or Father’s Day soon but that’s it. It’s not my job!

Fagli · 25/03/2025 20:53

No, because I married a capable adult.

Even if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t remind them. I wouldn’t wish to be complicit in encouraging their own incompetence.

Nevertrustacop · 25/03/2025 20:51

I remind everyone I know, where I suspect incompetence. So my brother, husband, son (for his girlfriends children not for me). I think they were all aware but why would I not do it when it costs me so little? I draw the line at actually buying the presents though.

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Laiste · 25/03/2025 20:51

Inspirationfailure · 25/03/2025 20:49

I don’t, because not my circus and I do enough family admin. But I do feel bad because MIL is lovely and DH doesn’t do anything. So not sure what the answer is.

This is interesting. It's a bit like that here.

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ThePoshUns · 25/03/2025 20:51

I remind my husband, for his mum and my brothers for our mum.

Inspirationfailure · 25/03/2025 20:49

I don’t, because not my circus and I do enough family admin. But I do feel bad because MIL is lovely and DH doesn’t do anything. So not sure what the answer is.

JustAMum31 · 25/03/2025 20:49

I tend to remind DH if something is coming up but then he sorts all the gifts etc for his own family for MD/FD/birthdays etc.

He works at sea for 6-8 weeks at a time so it’s usually “remember it’s X’s birthday just before you come home from next trip” so he’ll sort it all while he’s home.

PurpleBandZ · 25/03/2025 20:46

Buying something is crazy

Thirteenblackcat · 25/03/2025 20:46

It’s a no from me.