Do you remind your partner about their own mother on mother's day?

No. Not at all.

my mum died when I was a teenager and I find it a tough day still.

I’ve asked if we could have a bit of time together this Mother’s Day and go out for a good walk together. Dc are late teens so this is very doable.

DH has said today that he thinks he’ll invite his mum and dad round for lunch. I will still be going out for my walk even if that happens.

I just did and I'm the bloke! The good lady had no idea........

Never in my life reminded Dh to do anything for his family. I’ve never bought a single present or a card for any of them. At most, if I happen to be at the shop, he might message and ask if I can add a bottle of something to the shop for them. He sorts all gifts and cards and wrapping for his family. He also sorts probably 60% of dc’s birthday and Christmas presents, does at least half the wrapping, gets most of the stocking stuffers. Generally, in our family division of labour, I am food, cooking and entertaining, and he is more gifts and wrapping. I’d be shit at gifts anyway. Everyone would get an Amazon voucher and it would almost certainly be late if left to me.

No I don’t even though I know he won’t remember/buy anything. It’s not incompetence on his part, it’s very selfish and lazy, it shows a lack of respect and is a reflection of him.

I don’t like the fact that this seems to still, in 2025, seen as what women do. The fact I might like/love my partners family is irrelevant, he knows when their birthdays are and what they like etc. I’ve never heard a man say that they remind their partner of Father’s Day or of their family birthdays however much they may like them. It’s all about some men just not caring, normally about anyone but themselves.

No I don’t remind him.

No I don’t organise anything for him.

I may ask him what he did for his mum after the fact but that is all. It’s not a deliberate act; it’s just not my radar as I’m sorting my own mother out and got enough other stuff on.

One of us picks up cards for both mums, usually on the Saturday or even on the Sunday itself.
He buys his mum some flowers or a plant for her allotment or some pots, I order my mum some skincare she likes.
He cooks for all the mums on Mother’s Day, our house has about 25 people sitting down to a Sunday dinner and him and the dc clear up. Win win!

I pick her up a card, when I get my mums .. takes about 30 seconds, it really doesn’t bother me.

I remind DH about mother’s day and his mums birthday cos she’s a wonderful woman. He still ends up ordering her flowers and nothing else at 11pm the day before and they don’t arrive until too late. i don’t remind him of his dad’s events cos i don’t like his dad, so his dad gets nothing from us.

i remind DH to send a text to his nephews and nieces on their birthday. have to remind him a million times and actually watch over him while he does it or it doesn’t get done. Since I told him to take care of their presents/cards a few years ago they don’t get any from us.

Weirdly he is very thoughtful about presents for me and puts loads of time and energy into planning them, keeps a list of things i’ve mentioned liking throughout the year and so on.

But for anyone else (including our own DC) he simply will not do it. I believe if I told him one year he was in charge of DC’s presents he genuinely just wouldn’t get them anything.

I hate it. It’s a huge turn-off as others have said.

I adore my mother in law, but it’s not my job to sort Mother’s Day for her. My husband also adores her and spends ages thinking about what to get for her. We’re abroad rn, but he has left a card and a gift for our kids to give to her.

I do (and also of her birthday etc), for a few reasons.
He personally doesn't care about birthdays etc
He doesn't go to shops much so wouldn't see the displays
I love his mum
Once reminded he is grateful and will make a lot of effort, eg her recent birthday he arranged for them both to go to a show with live music and readings from her favourite poet. So I don't feel like he doesn't care I just think he's shit at remembering.

But I won't remind him of stuff like taxing his car or making appointments because if he misses them then he suffers. I don't want his mum to suffer cos she's nice, and it's not her fault she has three nice but slightly useless boys.

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Yep, this

I remind him once then leave it. Same for his mum and sisters birthdays.
DH works two jobs, so he's often out from 8am until midnight 6 days a week. He has a lot to juggle work wise, so a little reminder about (his) family stuff is no skin off my nose. I'm thankful he works so hard for us.

No I don’t need to remind him. He ordered a delivery of flowers without prompting.

I bought the card but only because I was going shopping anyway and asked him if he’d bought one yet and should I get one.

I don’t have a mum and I’m more than happy to share in celebrating his lovely mum too.

No i am not his mother

He's more likely to remind me than the other way around because I don't ever do anything - my mum recoils from anything that draws attention to her age (including anything reminding her she's a mother and grandmother) so I am off the hook for birthdays, mother's day, etc.

See also: cards, gifts generally, creating christmas magic... none of which are really a thing in my family!

Not necessarily remind him but there would probably be some discussion about what I'm getting for my mum and I might ask him what he's getting for his.

We see our mums together (they are friends) so I have bought both of them the same things. He does a lot more practical running around for our mums than I do - lifts, DIY, gardening etc - and I like shopping for lovely gifts, so it’s just sticking to our strengths really.

I really love my MIL though, might feel differently if I didn’t.

No, for 2 reasons - that side of the family don't do mothers day (fathers day and don't even send him a birthday card) and as they don't even acknowledge my existence (after 40 years of marriage) I don't waste energy thinking about them. I lost my Mum a few years ago so don't think about mothers day, it's not important to me anymore, but it was lovely to receive a gift from one of my children yesterday for Sunday and I've been invited out on Sunday by another. I feel lucky.

He takes care of his own mother.

the only gift giving I handle for him is our nieces and nephews on that side. I enjoy it and he loathes the process so I am happy to trade him for a chore I dislike.

My boyfriend gets his mum a card and gift by himself, but if he didn’t, I wouldn’t be reminding him. I just wouldn’t see that as my problem/job.

I do the card and present for my MIL. She is really thoughtful towards buying gifts for everyone that I couldn’t imagine not getting her something. I know she is upset that one of her other sons, doesn’t even send her a birthday card, let alone a Mother’s Day card which I think is really out of order.

I do it on behalf of my DH because he allows me to work part time so naturally I do more of the home stuff. As a pp said, we work as a team to our strengths.

I guess I don’t really mind doing it. Maybe if I didn’t like her I wouldn’t bother.

I’m afraid this year I’ve ordered the flowers for MIL, bought the cards from both DH and the DC and reminded him to write and post them 😬

All I can say in my defence is that we each have strengths and weaknesses and he makes up for my failings in other areas!

I always buy my MIL flowers and a card.
My own mum sadly died many years ago.
I couldn't imagine MIL not receiving something. Should DH do it, yes and he probably would, but I will hopefully be a MIL one day and I hope I'm given consideration like my DSs partners mum do.

I can honestly say he doesn't need reminding and always remembers.