To ask Dh’s boss to fund private school for our Dd school

Why is everyone making this so complicated?

If DH is the most senior person in this country's branch bar the boss, it's entirely expected that he would be able to negotiate a custom compensation package. It possibly sounds like he didn't do that when he started due to his personality, but that doesn't make it weird (or "frankly embarrassing" as one PP put it?!) - it's entirely standard!

Even if he is a local employee, he can still negotiate for a raise just as he would as a senior employee of a British company.

The only thing I wouldn't do is ask the boss personally for money. It may be that he decides, on hearing your request, to fund it himself for some reason - I don't know the norms of the country you're in - but it would be weird to ask that directly.

I also would not write the request in an email. I'd set up a 1-1 meeting with the boss and explain the situation. It seems that you will go back to the UK in any case if you can't get private school, so there is no downside to being direct.

I think you have answered your own question.

Very often people return to their home country for educational reasons.

However you may be equally unhappy with schools in the UK. Read the threads on this forum, look at the discussion threads about Adolescence's portrayal of UK schools and you might decide that the last thing you will ever do is move back to the UK.

Can you and your DH afford private school in the UK if you didn't like the education system?

Or because he is highly skilled could he look at relocating and negotiating a good package that includes school fees elsewhere?

@Justallabitblahreally

Which language is she fluent in, OP?

I was in Foyles yesterday buying books in the Languages section; I wasn't looking for books for children, but I could see that they had a great selection of suitable books for young learners of languages.

You are now going to try to afford Int school fees AND a native language tutor.

Where do you see yourself living long term? Where do you think your DD is going to go to secondary school and where is she going to go to uni?

Have you seriously thought about this or is it all nonsense?

The show starts with a man going to his boss to ask for a pay rise so he can send his daughter to private school. The boss says no, so he colludes with some villains to kidnap the boss's daughter to get money from him and it all spirals from there...

I think asking for a pay rise would be a cleaner way of handling this. You can say you need it to pay for the English speaking school.

Well what about a more generalised conversation with the boss about the state of the education your daughter is receiving ad that you’d love to send her to another private school but sadly can’t afford it etc

Maybe but you could change the wording a bit

Because of your refusal to name the country you are, the advice you receive will be limited but depending on where you are, have you looked at faith schools? They can be smaller, less expensive and a possible solution?

I think you have grasped the idea of an Int. school being the one and only saviour for your DD when there may well be alternatives that could help.

I think that she's 7, I think that's in one of the later posts.

But she is/will be so fluent in a language that isnt English - thats such an amazing skill that most kids educated in English schools will never have. Plus of course a lot of schools in England arent great at all.
Could you maybe supplement what she does at school somehow? (hard to advise without knowing what country you are in/how old she is) Taking GCSEs privately is an attainable option. What does she think about the school shes currently at?
Im wary of assuming that a private education is automatically better.

Re Happy Valley - its a fabulous 3 series BBC TV drama starring Sarah Lancashire plus a fabulous cast of others. The plot of series 1 includes a family who think their daughters would be better off at a private school so the dad, Kevin asks his boss if he will consider financing it..........

Definitely worth seeking out and watching!

If I was the boss and was told this, the first thing I'd do is start scouting around for his replacement.

Rather than asking directly, what about your husband speaking to the boss telling him that you are thinking of returning to the UK for your daughter’s education as you can’t afford to fund private education and leave the ball in the boss’s court

@Justallabitblahreally

Would it be possible to ask for an appropriate amount which could be repaid as a deduction from his salary?

It sounds like a really unusual situation, I'm not sure what the outcome will be.

I was wondering whether the fees for boarding might be different for a child with a particular diagnosis, if the school were specialised.

I think that some schools offer scholarships; others offer particular packages for certain children, such as those from Armed Forces' families.

It doesn't sound as though boarding is an option OP would like, though.

I've just seen the update about the child's age, I hadn't realised that she was only 7.

Boarding not an option at this juncture, I would have thought.

I had missed the age detail! Best of luck, I hope it works out! I would probably just ask for the pay rise and say why you need it.

My relative was very happy with the education that their child received in an international school in the Netherlands.

On the other hand, a former colleague whom I wouldn't trust with a hamster got a job in an international school in Dubai.