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Delivery driver let himself into my house

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Wineatfiveisfine · 25/03/2025 19:53

I WFH. A delivery driver knocked quite loudly on my door a few days ago. I got to my hallway within 10 seconds to find a very tall man in my hallway setting the delivery down on a table and taking a photo, as proof of delivery.

He said “hello, delivery”. I was too shocked to form a cordial response and just said “erm, why are you in my house?” He said “delivery, thanks bye” and off he went.

We’ve raised a complaint with said company - but they’ve said this is a common occurrence (!) and that they will speak to the driver, but it won’t be taken any further.

i was terrified to find a stranger in my house - but having googled, this seems to be a common occurrence!!!! How?!?!?

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Sassybooklover · 25/03/2025 21:27

It doesn't matter if you live in a village, town or city, it's common sense to lock your doors, regardless if you're in or not. Even in a quiet, sleepy village, crime can happen, to believe that it couldn't is naive. Of course people shouldn't walk into someone else's home, especially unannounced and without knocking. The fact that this delivery driver, did exactly that and saw no wrong in his actions, should be a warning to you that you need to lock your door. Leaving doors unlocked, regardless if you're home or not, could possibly invalidate your home insurance, if you ever were burgled. They could argue that you didn't actively secure your property and that you were negligent. Many years ago my FIL didn't lock the garage, he simply forgot - my husband's bike, that he'd had for a few short months as a birthday present was stolen. The garage is integral, so direct access from the house via a door from the kitchen, rather than a stand alone building. The insurance company didn't pay out, because he hadn't secured the property - and they were home too. Someone searched for an opportunity, found it, and took it.

pontipinemum · 25/03/2025 21:26

This happens to me as well, I will find packages just inside the door. I live on a farm and we usually leave the back door unlocked. I've had the postwoman walk into my sitting room while I was breastfeed

I've also had delivery drivers throw things through the open window. I'm not from a rural area and found it very strange to begin with!

Arcticrival · 25/03/2025 21:26

Ebeneser · 25/03/2025 21:00

I don't lock my door either. People that live in big cities probably don't quite understand it as they quite rightly have to be on high alert for opportunistic thieves etc and don't quite have the same level of community.
We can't even have door to door knockers here without an instant facebook post warning people to keep en eye out. Any "strange" people seen wandering around (probably a lost tourist to be fair) also instantly get flagged.

I don't mind delivery drivers opening the door and placing the parcel over the threshold (Evri always does this, but he's a local lad), but to actually physically enter the house is a no-no. I WFH and my dog would be straight at the door anyway, she kicks off as soon as she hears the front gate open so I presume this has provided a deterrant to the likes of Amazon from trying it. I've often just left the front door wide open for the dog to wander around and in the past completely forgotten to close the front door at all and have gone to bed! I expect I would be the first to be murdered if I lived in a city.

I smiled at your post. We are exactly the same in our village. If someone arrives to do door to door selling its immediately put up on the local fb page 🤣

Plmnki · 25/03/2025 21:25

Honestly this is ridiculous. Just lock your front door.

Dovetail22uk2 · 25/03/2025 21:24

Wineatfiveisfine · 25/03/2025 19:53

I WFH. A delivery driver knocked quite loudly on my door a few days ago. I got to my hallway within 10 seconds to find a very tall man in my hallway setting the delivery down on a table and taking a photo, as proof of delivery.

He said “hello, delivery”. I was too shocked to form a cordial response and just said “erm, why are you in my house?” He said “delivery, thanks bye” and off he went.

We’ve raised a complaint with said company - but they’ve said this is a common occurrence (!) and that they will speak to the driver, but it won’t be taken any further.

i was terrified to find a stranger in my house - but having googled, this seems to be a common occurrence!!!! How?!?!?

Astonished that some people think it's your fault for not locking your door, or no big deal. I also WFH and I'm on my own at home during the day and also disabled. But not once have I thought that I should lock my door because otherwise people can come in whenever they want. The fuck they can! Surely this is unlawful entry or similar?

Bignanna · 25/03/2025 21:23

PersephoneSmith · 25/03/2025 21:16

I’ll be honest and admit that I would be grateful if my delivery driver tried my door and brought stuff inside. I’m a wheelchair user and it would be very helpful.
I certainly wouldn’t complain. Perhaps they just thought they were being helpful @Wineatfiveisfine ?

You would be complaining if you were robbed…

thatduck · 25/03/2025 21:23

My postie puts the post on the kitchen table and brings my partner's to my house if he's at work!

Bignanna · 25/03/2025 21:22

Wineatfiveisfine · 25/03/2025 20:12

Yes - our postie does the same - but even he said that this was bang out of order.

My point is that no-one should ever enter a private residence!! This is not ok.

That’s incredibly naive!

Mirabai · 25/03/2025 21:21

Would you accept a stranger walking into your home, without permission?

i don’t so I have a Banham nightlatch.

Arcticrival · 25/03/2025 21:21

I live in a very rural area. We only lock the doors at night. All deliveries are put inside the house. It's very normal round here. I'd ve annoyed if they left them outside and it rained.

It depends where you live. Maybe the guy just didn't want to leave the item outside and it get wet or stolen. Yabu.

Bignanna · 25/03/2025 21:20

Wineatfiveisfine · 25/03/2025 20:20

But I’m at home - I WFH - no-one should enter your property without permission!

Insurance would not pay out if someone walked in and stole anything! These days you cannot leave doors and windows unlocked, wherever you live!

pizzaHeart · 25/03/2025 21:19

But the most helpful advice in this situation is to lock your door.
The delivery driver was wrong and you rightly complained. The company’s attitude was wrong and if you felt really strongly about it, you could message them that you wouldn’t use them any more because of this. I don’t know what else to advise you about it.
However if you don’t want to find a stranger in your hall/ kitchen any more - lock your door. It’s a good advice, try it and you will see it yourself.

Growlybear83 · 25/03/2025 21:18

I don’t think the delivery man should have let himself in, but this wouldn’t have happened if you had locked your door. I’m amazed that anyone would leave their front door unlocked so thst anyone could walk in! I

BatchCookBabe · 25/03/2025 21:17

Wineatfiveisfine · 25/03/2025 20:10

🙄

Why are you rolling your eyes at this?! Lock your door FFS! Don't come on here whingeing about a delivery driver letting themselves in, and then throw your toys out of the pram when people dish out the very OBVIOUS advice to lock your bloody door!

And no area is 0% crime free.

Also, women don't build women up if they think their behaviour is ridiculous. And expecting someone to agree with you just because they also have a vagina is laughable. And calling poster vipers purely for stating the obvious to you. Get a grip! And grow up!

FOJN · 25/03/2025 21:16

Lostatmidnight · 25/03/2025 21:13

Another stupid reply. Thanks for proving my point 😌

LOL I think you must be here to provoke people.

Locking your door to stop uninvited people coming in is not a difficult idea to grasp but it seems that even though we can explain it to you we can't understand it for you.

PersephoneSmith · 25/03/2025 21:16

I’ll be honest and admit that I would be grateful if my delivery driver tried my door and brought stuff inside. I’m a wheelchair user and it would be very helpful.
I certainly wouldn’t complain. Perhaps they just thought they were being helpful @Wineatfiveisfine ?

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Laiste · 25/03/2025 21:15

Lostatmidnight · 25/03/2025 21:15

Yes I do. You obviously didn’t understand my reply. Maybe you need to go get some sleep.

Oh dear. Are you ok?

Laiste · 25/03/2025 21:15

Lostatmidnight i'm afraid just posting that everyone is stupid without saying why is making you look daft.

Lostatmidnight · 25/03/2025 21:15

Laiste · 25/03/2025 21:11

Do you not understand my post?

Yes I do. You obviously didn’t understand my reply. Maybe you need to go get some sleep.

Lostatmidnight · 25/03/2025 21:13

FOJN · 25/03/2025 21:10

Bingo. I was waiting for a variation of 'victim blaming' to enter the chat.

Not a single poster has said it's OK for people to enter a house uninvited. What we have said is that if you don't want to find a stranger, who has no regard for such conventions, in your house then you should lock your doors.

Telling a woman who is being physically abused by her partner to leave for her own safety is not the same as saying she is to blame for her partners abuse.

It's really not complicated.

Another stupid reply. Thanks for proving my point 😌

cardibach · 25/03/2025 21:13

Snorlaxo · 25/03/2025 20:21

I’ve never lived in a house in England that didn’t automatically lock when you close the front door.

Admittedly I’ve never lived in a village but I can’t imagine not locking my front door even if it’s to keep the rain and wind out

Lots of doors don’t lock on closing. And yes a closed door that keeps rain and wind out, locking it doesn’t make it more weather proof.

ButterCrackers · 25/03/2025 21:13

Lostatmidnight · 25/03/2025 21:04

The stupidity of some of these replies 🤦🏻‍♀️
Saying ‘you should lock your doors if you don’t want a stranger to enter’ is like saying ‘you shouldn’t wear revealing clothes if you don’t want to get raped’.

even if the door was wide open no one should be entering uninvited.

some of you really are a lost cause.

Edited

Your reply is top of the list in terms of stupidity.
A door locked stops people from getting into a property unhindered. If you live rural you can add in animals to that.

Marbledwhite · 25/03/2025 21:13

Lostatmidnight · 25/03/2025 21:04

The stupidity of some of these replies 🤦🏻‍♀️
Saying ‘you should lock your doors if you don’t want a stranger to enter’ is like saying ‘you shouldn’t wear revealing clothes if you don’t want to get raped’.

even if the door was wide open no one should be entering uninvited.

some of you really are a lost cause.

Edited

Admittedly I don't live in a village with no crime but my locked door meant I didn't have someone enter, steal my wallet and be away within seconds.

That's what happened along the street where the opportunist thief found an unlocked door. The owner was in the living-room.

ERthree · 25/03/2025 21:11

outerspacepotato · 25/03/2025 19:54

You don't lock your doors?😮

I don't even know where the key for our front door are, the car keys live in the ignition.

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